How do you know if your not in love with your spouse?

Im married and I don't think im in love with him anymore. I want to leave him but I feel like I can't because we have a child together. I need help!!How do you know if your not in love with your spouse?
Two separated but happy parents beats 2 parents at odds with each other. So you need to do what's right for you. The kid is important, but so are you. Your happiness is important. And if you think you are not in love, you are not. Love is not wishy washy. You either want that person, want to make them happy, and they make you happy, or none of that.How do you know if your not in love with your spouse?
I don't think you are suppose to stay ';in love'; forever. In love is suppose to change to solid love. The goofy feelings you have when you meet and pick a mate turn into calm and security. This change happens so your children will grow up in a secure environment.If you feel a need to be stimulated then have date night.You are looking at your husband in a very lazy way! If you were to leave you will destroy your children's security. You will change the way they see the world. You will bring in men they have to learn to trust.You will disrupt a happy secure childhood.For what! A new piece of ***!How freaking selfish can you get!
Joe makes an excellent point, also there are the ups and downs.


To have a good long happy marriage you have to ride out the blah times.


If you make it till the kids move out and are still friends, it is the best thing I personally have ever experienced.


Worth all the wait, and in the end you have a lover and best friend.


Just take a bit of time now to rekindle and do those special things you feel too tired to do.. every once in a while and Joe is right..see how things change.
Have a good talk with him and see if there are underlying issues which should be addressed and resolved.


If my hubby is with another woman and I feel nothing abt that or even affected by the thought of it,I believe, we are separated emotionally.The 'love' is gone.But then again, true love is not so much abt feelings but a sense of commitment to the vows, regardless the feelings. Tough issue..but you can consult a trained counselor to see if your marriage can be salvaged.
You can't rely on your feelings of in love now or not. Marriage is about a commitment there will always be an ebb and flow. Feelings change from day to day. Commitment lasts a lifetime. Think about how you felt when you first met. As long as there is no abuse and or infidelity, I think you should try and work it out.
The easiest way to know is if you lose your smile. These days a single parent is no new thing. A child will do better in a happy environment. It is never easy to move on, but in the long run your being happy will make your health better too.
when you dont feel a thing when he touches you,


when you stop missing him...


when you are happy that he has gone far for meeting or somethin and wont be back for a day or two





try counselling.
You owe it to your kids to work things out.Start treating him like you were his g/f and see how things change.
seak couseling and try to work things out and if it doesnt work than get the divorce and be happy.
your child will do better in a happy environment, move on
If I am not in love with my spouse, what my partner does don't bother me.
you just know, no one can be the judge of that but you