I was just wondering and when you seen him/her was it love at first sight?Did you know then and then and there or did it hit you later???How old were you when you met your spouse?
I met my husband when I was 15. I pointed at him from across a birthday party and said I am going to marry him. I don't know if I really knew I was going to marry him but he just seemed so interesting to me and I really wanted to know more about him. We dated for 9 years and we just got married. But because we went through the trials of growing up we break up and get back together a couple times. I still find him really interesting, I always want to pick his brain and figure out why he thinks the way he does. I knew he was the one, when I realized we could make it through anything together. When ever I dated someone else I always compared them to him. There was a drive in me to be with him, even when we were having difficult times. How old were you when you met your spouse?
I was 20 when I met my hubby and had been dating a different guy for about 4 years- so it wasn't love at first sight for me. (although I found out later that it was for him- awww!) We became really good friends. I eventually broke up with my boyfriend, and we became BEST friends. And in the process of about a month- I fell madly in love with him!!
It wasn't the way he looked- it was the way he looked at me!
I was 19. I was with another guy going on 3 years. When I saw my soon to be hubby at work. (It was his first day.) I fell in love. I was a waitress. He was a cook. I walked in the kitchen introduced myself and walked out. I told my waitress friends how awesome and cute he was. 2 weeks later we were dating, 2 months later we moved in together, 2 years later we were married, 1 year later we had a son. I believe in love at first sight, I lived it!
We met when he was a senior in high school and I was a sophomore. We didn't start dating until I was a senior in High school. When we first met I knew He may be the one, however, at that time I was still dating around. Not until He purposed to me is when I knew I wanted to be with him forever. (which was 3 weeks into dating)
I met my wife in grade school. We went to high school together, and sang in the church choir too. We didn't start dating until we were both in college.
I told her I was going to marry her on our first date. She almost didn't go out with me again. That was 44 years, and three children ago.
Her mother warned her it wouldn't last! I don't like her mother, and the old bat doesn't like me either.
My wife and I argue every day. But we still love each other. I just happen to think she is full of $hit, and she feels the same way about me. Nothing wrong with that!
I was 28 and yes it was love at first sight... it hit me right there, only I had never really felt that and it took me a couple of weeks and a couple of conversations with my siblings before I found out that I was lovesick... 9 years later I am still the luckiest guy ever.
Met my 2nd husband at my first wedding. Don't remember meeting him that day. Met him again a year later and wasn't impressed with him, but liked his first wife. 1st husband died, and they divorced. I was 29 when he and I got together. He grew on me, lol. He was more worried about making sure my infant daught was raised right. She was 14 months old when we got married.
I had just turned 21 he was 23. I NEVER thought he would go for me, I thought he was too good looking I guess, plus he had just got out of a 6 year relationship and was talking to all kinds of girls. But I just rilled him right in lol. I wouldn't say love at first sight but I definately knew that there was something about him that I wanted sooooo bad :D
my first one, 19... got married the same year.. took me six years to build up the confidence to leave his abusive azz... the second one, almost 26... and it wasnt love at first sight... definately not! for him, he says it was, but for me, well, he's older so i didnt really believe all his love and affections were for real... so i gave it some time, and here we are, madly in love and engaged... took me about 3 weeks to realize i loved him too, over a year to realize he really wasnt ever going to leave no matter what!!! :)
I am married now. I met my wife when I was 25. I was crazy about her from the very beginning.
I had an ex girlfriend before that. I met my ex girlfriend when I was 21. We broke up for reasons somewhat out of our control. Had we stayed together, I am sure we would have married. She was definately love at first sight.
We met each other maybe 3 - 4 yrs before we started dating. I didn't like him to start with, then he grew on me.
We started dating when I was about 19ish, at the start of us dating I wasn't convinced anything would progress. But he grew on me.
Most other guys I got sick of over time, but not him. He still annoys me to this day but I like it :)
I was 19 and he just turned 20. Yes it was love at first sight. Being in love with someone is the most wonderful feeling you have in your heart that you don't want it to end......If you are truly in love with someone you well know it.... Love comes from Jesus he is the one that can show you what really true love is and happiness.......
I was 18 and he was 20. He told his roommate at college that he ';Had just met his wife'; the night we met. I was involved with someone else and it took me 4 months to see what I was missing and dump the guy I was with.
met him when i was 19 he was 21 and now i'm 20 and we can't get enough of each other, we were only dating for 4 months engaged for 5 married for 4 and couldn't be happier.
I was 21 and my husband was 25 when we met and started dating and no it wasn't love at first sight but i was very attracted to him and i still am.
I was 14 the first time I met him. We didn't start dating until I was 16 it was love at first sight though I can tell you that. I'm 21 now and I am loving the married life.
I was 23, and yes, I fell in love with her when I first met her. However, I didn't admit it to myself until 6 months later.
I was 17, and we worked together. And it definitely wasn't love at first sight lol. I didn't love him til about 6 months of dating him passed.
I was 19 years old. It was not love at first sight, in fact I thought he was GAY! HAHA!
Boy did he prove me wrong :)
18. And I don't believe in love at first sight...but it was definitely lust at first sight...we fell in love....then he fell out of love and now we are divorced!
31. at a wine bar in pasadena, ca.
i knew it immediately. it was like a movie or dream.
Wednesday, November 23, 2011
Would you share an email account with your spouse?
When my husband and I got married almost 5 years ago, we dropped our individual email accounts and have always shared one. It has never been a problem for either of us. Would anyone else share their email account with their spouse?Would you share an email account with your spouse?
I don't share one with my wife, but we have the same passwords for our accounts. Doesn't bother me at all since I am not hiding anything from her.Would you share an email account with your spouse?
I would if he wanted to. But personally I don't find the need to. I think it's actually good to have separate accounts--we both have different friends from childhood/high school/college and we both have different relationships with different people. Just because you get married doesn't mean you automatically become the same person.
I used to think that married couples SHOULD have joint everything--email, accounts, etc. But after keeping things separate in some areas for the past three years I actually much prefer things separate in certain areas. We know each others' passwords so it's not like anything is private--but there's just a separation because we are not the same individual.
As they say, once you be taking a poop while the other is brushing your to others, there is no more privacy. PRivacy is an issue between the state and an individual as far as I'm concerned there is no privacy between two people if they are married.
My wife and I had separate email accounts but we knew each other passwords. I never had a problem with her checking my mail, web log, history folder of my phone call record on my cell phone.
No his would drive me crazy. Once in a while I have to log in to it because he has given someone his email address instead of mine when I need the information. He has almost 200 unread emails. I think it's all junk and he won't delete them. Anyway why would you share when you can get free email from Hotmail or Yahoo?
Only for household bills if you pay on line, or have a joint checking account, something like that. I would not want a husband looking at my man jokes from friends, nor would I want him reading someone elses personal information that was trusted for me to read only.
I would share an email account since there's nothing to hide but it's easier to have separate emails.
I have my own account and one I share with my husband. Never thought about sharing until we had a project that we are doing together.
i dont see why, having an email is so easy, there would be no need to share one, plus i like getting weekly updates from websites and maybe my spouse wouldnt.
we have our individual ones, but we have each others passwords
Already do :D
it is much better then sharing bank accounts.
Sure would.
Sure, why not!
umm no because she might read stuff that i dont want to see...
but there is positives and negatives.....
no.
yes and I do
never in a trillion years..... i like to be sneaky
no, I prefer that each should have his/her own privacy...z
I don't share one with my wife, but we have the same passwords for our accounts. Doesn't bother me at all since I am not hiding anything from her.Would you share an email account with your spouse?
I would if he wanted to. But personally I don't find the need to. I think it's actually good to have separate accounts--we both have different friends from childhood/high school/college and we both have different relationships with different people. Just because you get married doesn't mean you automatically become the same person.
I used to think that married couples SHOULD have joint everything--email, accounts, etc. But after keeping things separate in some areas for the past three years I actually much prefer things separate in certain areas. We know each others' passwords so it's not like anything is private--but there's just a separation because we are not the same individual.
As they say, once you be taking a poop while the other is brushing your to others, there is no more privacy. PRivacy is an issue between the state and an individual as far as I'm concerned there is no privacy between two people if they are married.
My wife and I had separate email accounts but we knew each other passwords. I never had a problem with her checking my mail, web log, history folder of my phone call record on my cell phone.
No his would drive me crazy. Once in a while I have to log in to it because he has given someone his email address instead of mine when I need the information. He has almost 200 unread emails. I think it's all junk and he won't delete them. Anyway why would you share when you can get free email from Hotmail or Yahoo?
Only for household bills if you pay on line, or have a joint checking account, something like that. I would not want a husband looking at my man jokes from friends, nor would I want him reading someone elses personal information that was trusted for me to read only.
I would share an email account since there's nothing to hide but it's easier to have separate emails.
I have my own account and one I share with my husband. Never thought about sharing until we had a project that we are doing together.
i dont see why, having an email is so easy, there would be no need to share one, plus i like getting weekly updates from websites and maybe my spouse wouldnt.
we have our individual ones, but we have each others passwords
Already do :D
it is much better then sharing bank accounts.
Sure would.
Sure, why not!
umm no because she might read stuff that i dont want to see...
but there is positives and negatives.....
no.
yes and I do
never in a trillion years..... i like to be sneaky
no, I prefer that each should have his/her own privacy...z
How long did it take for you to realise that you wanted to marry your spouse?
Was it instant? Or did you gradually realise this over time?How long did it take for you to realise that you wanted to marry your spouse?
The day he took me on our first date. I have been on many great 1st dates before, but this one was different. It sounds corney, but I just KNEW we were soulmates. Its hard to explain. I remember thinking to myself afterwards ';wow...';. I was just the best connection I had ever felt, and the connection was so deep. Suprisingly our date was just going for a swim, and then the movies...nothing fancy. Our date started at 7am in the morning...and then ended at 8pm that night! A 13 hour date! Nothing sexual of course, but after the movies we just went and sat somewhere and talked and talked and before we knew it, it was night time. We had talked for 13 hours straight! Thats when I knew he was the one. There was such a connection
I suffered bulemia before I met him. I have never told anyone at all about this, not friends, not family, not doctor. Yet for some reason on our 13 hour date I had this urge to tell him...thats how deep our connection was. And he was so supportive. Thats when I knew he was something special. And with his love and support I am now better
Although we talked about getting married for ages, it took 3 years of dating before he proposed.
But that is my story...everyone falls in love differently. I do believe in people ';just knowing'; the first time they meet...but I also believe that in other cases the love is something that has to develop over many years.How long did it take for you to realise that you wanted to marry your spouse?
I was attracted to my spouse the first time I saw him and he was always funny which made him grow even more on me. Even thou we were just friends at first but when I knew I wanted to marry him was the very first time we sat down and had a serious conversation as friends I knew I found my soul mate and he said he knew to. We had our first serious conversation about a month or so after we met. We married about a few months later and have never been a part a full day. :)
Well we met when I was seventeen. I had just had an intense week of training for skiing and passed out on my way home. He found me and stayed with me the whole week. My parents were overseas and he was a twenty-two year old medical student so i was in safe hands. He was funny, smart, handsome, never made me bored and in that one week i knew he was the one. We married 2years later and have now been married eight gorgeous years with twins on the way.
Even though this was the case with my husband and I it may not be for you. My mum spent seven years with a guy before she realised they were meant to be and that she really loved him and he loved her.
Its not always love at first sight and it's okay for it to take time
- Amber
I knew when I first seen his picture. (His friend was dating one of my friends, and I was looking through her pictures of when she went to visit her boyfriend and hung out with him and his friends.) Then when I actually met him, I could see the rest of my life and it looked great. We have been together 6 1/2 years, and our 5th wedding anniversary is coming up in October.
For me it was love at first sight, and in the beginning i was happy just to be with her, but after a couple of months marriage seem like the thing too do, we wanted too show everyone that we were totally committed to each other.
i knew withing a few dates that i wanted to be with him but marrying that took 5 long years of dating.. and it was wortht he wait...we knew each other inside and out there was no hidden anyting and thats the best way to start a relationship!
I knew he was something special within the first date.
I knew he was going to long term by the third date.
I knew he was the one I wanted to be with the rest of my life within about a month or so.
Oh, totally instant!! We met in October, engaged in November and married in February!
16 years and going strong!!!!!
Believe it or not, I knew within a few weeks for sure, but had a ';gut feeling'; immediately. She was just different than anyone else, ever.
I actually never thought about it.
We had already bought our house and had been living together for a few years when he popped the question. That is when I realised I did want to marry him.
It came gradually when we stayed in the relationship en know how iam missinghim oftenely en i cant stay away from him,i could miss him so much till i cry
instant
The day I met her
Within a WEEK! We married 3 months later!
The day he took me on our first date. I have been on many great 1st dates before, but this one was different. It sounds corney, but I just KNEW we were soulmates. Its hard to explain. I remember thinking to myself afterwards ';wow...';. I was just the best connection I had ever felt, and the connection was so deep. Suprisingly our date was just going for a swim, and then the movies...nothing fancy. Our date started at 7am in the morning...and then ended at 8pm that night! A 13 hour date! Nothing sexual of course, but after the movies we just went and sat somewhere and talked and talked and before we knew it, it was night time. We had talked for 13 hours straight! Thats when I knew he was the one. There was such a connection
I suffered bulemia before I met him. I have never told anyone at all about this, not friends, not family, not doctor. Yet for some reason on our 13 hour date I had this urge to tell him...thats how deep our connection was. And he was so supportive. Thats when I knew he was something special. And with his love and support I am now better
Although we talked about getting married for ages, it took 3 years of dating before he proposed.
But that is my story...everyone falls in love differently. I do believe in people ';just knowing'; the first time they meet...but I also believe that in other cases the love is something that has to develop over many years.How long did it take for you to realise that you wanted to marry your spouse?
I was attracted to my spouse the first time I saw him and he was always funny which made him grow even more on me. Even thou we were just friends at first but when I knew I wanted to marry him was the very first time we sat down and had a serious conversation as friends I knew I found my soul mate and he said he knew to. We had our first serious conversation about a month or so after we met. We married about a few months later and have never been a part a full day. :)
Well we met when I was seventeen. I had just had an intense week of training for skiing and passed out on my way home. He found me and stayed with me the whole week. My parents were overseas and he was a twenty-two year old medical student so i was in safe hands. He was funny, smart, handsome, never made me bored and in that one week i knew he was the one. We married 2years later and have now been married eight gorgeous years with twins on the way.
Even though this was the case with my husband and I it may not be for you. My mum spent seven years with a guy before she realised they were meant to be and that she really loved him and he loved her.
Its not always love at first sight and it's okay for it to take time
- Amber
I knew when I first seen his picture. (His friend was dating one of my friends, and I was looking through her pictures of when she went to visit her boyfriend and hung out with him and his friends.) Then when I actually met him, I could see the rest of my life and it looked great. We have been together 6 1/2 years, and our 5th wedding anniversary is coming up in October.
For me it was love at first sight, and in the beginning i was happy just to be with her, but after a couple of months marriage seem like the thing too do, we wanted too show everyone that we were totally committed to each other.
i knew withing a few dates that i wanted to be with him but marrying that took 5 long years of dating.. and it was wortht he wait...we knew each other inside and out there was no hidden anyting and thats the best way to start a relationship!
I knew he was something special within the first date.
I knew he was going to long term by the third date.
I knew he was the one I wanted to be with the rest of my life within about a month or so.
Oh, totally instant!! We met in October, engaged in November and married in February!
16 years and going strong!!!!!
Believe it or not, I knew within a few weeks for sure, but had a ';gut feeling'; immediately. She was just different than anyone else, ever.
I actually never thought about it.
We had already bought our house and had been living together for a few years when he popped the question. That is when I realised I did want to marry him.
It came gradually when we stayed in the relationship en know how iam missinghim oftenely en i cant stay away from him,i could miss him so much till i cry
instant
The day I met her
Within a WEEK! We married 3 months later!
What does a dream about outliving children and spouse mean?
I would say that it all depends on what the feeling was for you in the dream. Did you feel Relieved or fearful/depressed that you outlived your family?
Dreams are inner workings of our minds.
Perhaps you are frightened of feeling lonely or not needed. On the other hand, if you felt some kind of relief, I would suggest that you are overwhelmed by your family situation right now.What does a dream about outliving children and spouse mean?
Dreams do not have secret meaning. They contain current emotions mixed with random memories.
Forget about itWhat does a dream about outliving children and spouse mean?
Maybe its signifying your fear of being left all alone.
Either you worry about this, or its nothing.
That means you may not be content with marriage life. You want to re-live a single life again.
Perhaps you are in denial, subconsciously you are evading from responsibilities. You feel that spouse and children are the burden somehow. But don't worry, this happens when you are stressed. it may not mean you really want to do it. It is just a vent from the dream
Nothing in particular, without more context. No particular content directly relates to a certain meaning. A question would be, what is the mood experienced while having the dream.
Probably that you view yourself as immortal. You might be having thoughts about living without them.
Dreams are inner workings of our minds.
Perhaps you are frightened of feeling lonely or not needed. On the other hand, if you felt some kind of relief, I would suggest that you are overwhelmed by your family situation right now.What does a dream about outliving children and spouse mean?
Dreams do not have secret meaning. They contain current emotions mixed with random memories.
Forget about itWhat does a dream about outliving children and spouse mean?
Maybe its signifying your fear of being left all alone.
Either you worry about this, or its nothing.
That means you may not be content with marriage life. You want to re-live a single life again.
Perhaps you are in denial, subconsciously you are evading from responsibilities. You feel that spouse and children are the burden somehow. But don't worry, this happens when you are stressed. it may not mean you really want to do it. It is just a vent from the dream
Nothing in particular, without more context. No particular content directly relates to a certain meaning. A question would be, what is the mood experienced while having the dream.
Probably that you view yourself as immortal. You might be having thoughts about living without them.
Can my spouse file bankruptcy without me?
I have recently separated. My spouse went and bought a house with her son as a co-signer. If she gets in a financial mess, can she file bankruptcy without me. Cause I would never want to do that.Can my spouse file bankruptcy without me?
If you are legally married at the time of her filing a bankruptcy, she will not be able to file alone, they would have to file showing both incomes, though, if you are not living in the same residence, it may be different. You would need to seek legal counsel, with the new laws, they look at all income for married couples, usually living in the same home. Now if her son co-signed on a home and she is the primary and he is the co-signor, and she files bankruptcy, loses the home, they would go after him. If this is headed to divorce, you need to either re-finance whatever debts are in your names jointly and get her name off of them should she ever have to file. This way, you are not held responsible. Good Luck!Can my spouse file bankruptcy without me?
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If you are legally married at the time of her filing a bankruptcy, she will not be able to file alone, they would have to file showing both incomes, though, if you are not living in the same residence, it may be different. You would need to seek legal counsel, with the new laws, they look at all income for married couples, usually living in the same home. Now if her son co-signed on a home and she is the primary and he is the co-signor, and she files bankruptcy, loses the home, they would go after him. If this is headed to divorce, you need to either re-finance whatever debts are in your names jointly and get her name off of them should she ever have to file. This way, you are not held responsible. Good Luck!Can my spouse file bankruptcy without me?
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The Love Dare-Can you really love your spouse unconditionally?
Can a husband and wife really have UNCONDITIONAL love? I find that difficult to believe. The love a parent has for a child, absolutely, love is unconditional. But between a husband and wife, really?The Love Dare-Can you really love your spouse unconditionally?
Impossible. And often this is even true with kids.
Class is dismissed.The Love Dare-Can you really love your spouse unconditionally?
Unconditional love exists. It exists in the form of Jesus' love for all people, in the form of God's love for humanity, in the form of a parent's love for their children, and in the form of marriage. Just because not all of us are capable of such love does not mean that it does not exist.
Don't confuse unconditional love with not protecting yourself or being a doormat. Just because you love someone unconditionally does not mean that you will allow them to take advantage of you.
Love is an action. It involves doing something like making peace when you're really mad at your spouse. It involves showing your spouse that you appreciate them when you don't feel like it. It involves being kind to your spouse even when they have done something unkind to you. It takes a very mature person to act contrary to the way their heart might want them to act. This is why it is unconditional. It is not based on anything your spouse has done, it is based on who they are. They are your spouse. You are supposed to love them in spite of their weaknesses, in spite of their failures, in spite of their sin.
Yes I absolutely love my husband unconditionally. It doesn't mean that I cannot disagree with him or get angry or be disappointed in him. In fact, sometimes I don't like him much, but I still love him.
It does mean that *No Matter What* I will always love him and be there for him.
Why is that so hard for you to believe?
no such thing
all love is conditional
as true love never let's itself be taken advantage of
and you never would be in a relationship where the ';love';
is only one sided, a baby's love maybe be unconditional, but that's only because he totally depends on you, a baby will bond with anyone who treat them well and feeds them, not just the mother, a dog does the very same thing..
well all love in hopes of getting something in return
I bought the book yesterday after seeing so much about it..Unconditional love for your spouse isn't easy... but it IS what God had planned.. Husbands are to love their wives as God loves His church.. and that is unconditionally... No one is perfect, but loving one's spouse this way isa worthy goal and comes with great rewards.
Yes it is possible.Are you married?You must not be because if you were you would know that you can love your husband/wife and children unconditionally.I love my husband no matter what.I love him for who he is even with his faults(vice versa).
I absolutely agree with maccrew.She knows exactly what she is talking about.If you have God in your marriage and in your life you would know that you do and can love your husband unconditonally.Its not easy sometimes but with God all things are possible.
I do believe unconditional love exists between husband and wife, but unconditional Like doesn't. I don't like everything about my husband, but I love him unconditionally. I don't have to like him, but I can't stop loving him.
I'm somewhat confused about your question, because it's really two- unconditional marriage-love and unconditional parental love.
MARRIAGE:
I don't think so. It's an ideal we strive for, but we are individual people with our own personal needs.
People tend to qualify this question a lot; the typical rationalization is ';I love my ';X';, but I don't like him/her at the moment.... Well, good luck with that.
We try our best in marriage to meet the other person's needs, but If we don't meet theirs and/or they're not meeting ours, then the marriage is in trouble.
Even when children are involved, it is not ';divorce-insurance'; - in fact, it can be one of the WORST reasons for having children.
To those that have found unconditional marriage-love through parenthood, I salute you- but I don't think it's the children, as much at the dual-focus that both you and your spouse have for your beautiful bundle(s) of joy.
PARENTHOOD:
My own experience with children- One loves me, the other hates me (because I left the house after discovering my ex was a lying, cheating sociopath and I eventually remarried. My daughter too is prolly a psychopath - the apple doesn't fall far from the tree. My son, wife, and I get along great- I'm very thankful for that).
I love my daughter, but she doesn't love me back- we don't really even communicate very much anymore (for years - she's in her 20's.) But yes, I love her - I just don't know either what ';kind'; of love it is.
No...You love your husband because he treats you well etc... If he beat you, smoked crack in front of your kids, didn't work, etc...that love would fade away real fast. I think the ONLY unconditional love is for your child.
No. It can be fully, strong, true. and can be blinding - but not unconditional. Someone in denial can think that theirs is, but unconditional it isn't.
That's just an invitation to the spouse to take advantage of you. Beat me, get high, cheat, be a pig, I still love you. We have to set boundaries for our own preservation.
Does unconditionally include cheating, abuse, stealing, habitual lying? If so, answer is no.
Unconditional love is impossible except in the case of a child.
Yes, why not? Your spouse becomes part of your family, so why would you want to dispose of your family?
No. I didn't know unconditional love until having a child.
Honestly i don't think so...
Impossible. And often this is even true with kids.
Class is dismissed.The Love Dare-Can you really love your spouse unconditionally?
Unconditional love exists. It exists in the form of Jesus' love for all people, in the form of God's love for humanity, in the form of a parent's love for their children, and in the form of marriage. Just because not all of us are capable of such love does not mean that it does not exist.
Don't confuse unconditional love with not protecting yourself or being a doormat. Just because you love someone unconditionally does not mean that you will allow them to take advantage of you.
Love is an action. It involves doing something like making peace when you're really mad at your spouse. It involves showing your spouse that you appreciate them when you don't feel like it. It involves being kind to your spouse even when they have done something unkind to you. It takes a very mature person to act contrary to the way their heart might want them to act. This is why it is unconditional. It is not based on anything your spouse has done, it is based on who they are. They are your spouse. You are supposed to love them in spite of their weaknesses, in spite of their failures, in spite of their sin.
Yes I absolutely love my husband unconditionally. It doesn't mean that I cannot disagree with him or get angry or be disappointed in him. In fact, sometimes I don't like him much, but I still love him.
It does mean that *No Matter What* I will always love him and be there for him.
Why is that so hard for you to believe?
no such thing
all love is conditional
as true love never let's itself be taken advantage of
and you never would be in a relationship where the ';love';
is only one sided, a baby's love maybe be unconditional, but that's only because he totally depends on you, a baby will bond with anyone who treat them well and feeds them, not just the mother, a dog does the very same thing..
well all love in hopes of getting something in return
I bought the book yesterday after seeing so much about it..Unconditional love for your spouse isn't easy... but it IS what God had planned.. Husbands are to love their wives as God loves His church.. and that is unconditionally... No one is perfect, but loving one's spouse this way isa worthy goal and comes with great rewards.
Yes it is possible.Are you married?You must not be because if you were you would know that you can love your husband/wife and children unconditionally.I love my husband no matter what.I love him for who he is even with his faults(vice versa).
I absolutely agree with maccrew.She knows exactly what she is talking about.If you have God in your marriage and in your life you would know that you do and can love your husband unconditonally.Its not easy sometimes but with God all things are possible.
I do believe unconditional love exists between husband and wife, but unconditional Like doesn't. I don't like everything about my husband, but I love him unconditionally. I don't have to like him, but I can't stop loving him.
I'm somewhat confused about your question, because it's really two- unconditional marriage-love and unconditional parental love.
MARRIAGE:
I don't think so. It's an ideal we strive for, but we are individual people with our own personal needs.
People tend to qualify this question a lot; the typical rationalization is ';I love my ';X';, but I don't like him/her at the moment.... Well, good luck with that.
We try our best in marriage to meet the other person's needs, but If we don't meet theirs and/or they're not meeting ours, then the marriage is in trouble.
Even when children are involved, it is not ';divorce-insurance'; - in fact, it can be one of the WORST reasons for having children.
To those that have found unconditional marriage-love through parenthood, I salute you- but I don't think it's the children, as much at the dual-focus that both you and your spouse have for your beautiful bundle(s) of joy.
PARENTHOOD:
My own experience with children- One loves me, the other hates me (because I left the house after discovering my ex was a lying, cheating sociopath and I eventually remarried. My daughter too is prolly a psychopath - the apple doesn't fall far from the tree. My son, wife, and I get along great- I'm very thankful for that).
I love my daughter, but she doesn't love me back- we don't really even communicate very much anymore (for years - she's in her 20's.) But yes, I love her - I just don't know either what ';kind'; of love it is.
No...You love your husband because he treats you well etc... If he beat you, smoked crack in front of your kids, didn't work, etc...that love would fade away real fast. I think the ONLY unconditional love is for your child.
No. It can be fully, strong, true. and can be blinding - but not unconditional. Someone in denial can think that theirs is, but unconditional it isn't.
That's just an invitation to the spouse to take advantage of you. Beat me, get high, cheat, be a pig, I still love you. We have to set boundaries for our own preservation.
Does unconditionally include cheating, abuse, stealing, habitual lying? If so, answer is no.
Unconditional love is impossible except in the case of a child.
Yes, why not? Your spouse becomes part of your family, so why would you want to dispose of your family?
No. I didn't know unconditional love until having a child.
Honestly i don't think so...
If you are a Catholic do u have a duty to have sex with your spouse?
Is there a rule in Catholic terachings about husbands and wives have a duty to have sex with each other? What does the Catholic church teach about sex between married couples? If one person in the marriage refuses to have sex with their husband, is that wrong and against church teachings?If you are a Catholic do u have a duty to have sex with your spouse?
Here are some points taken directly from the Catechism.
2360
Sexuality is ordered to the conjugal love of man and woman. In marriage the physical intimacy of the spouses becomes a sign and pledge of spiritual communion. Marriage bonds between baptized persons are sanctified by the sacrament.
2361
';Sexuality, by means of which man and woman give themselves to one another through the acts which are proper and exclusive to spouses, is not something simply biological, but concerns the innermost being of the human person as such. It is realized in a truly human way only if it is an integral part of the love by which a man and woman commit themselves totally to one another until death.';143
Tobias got out of bed and said to Sarah, ';Sister, get up, and let us pray and implore our Lord that he grant us mercy and safety.'; So she got up, and they began to pray and implore that they might be kept safe. Tobias began by saying, ';Blessed are you, O God of our fathers. . . . You made Adam, and for him you made his wife Eve as a helper and support. From the two of them the race of mankind has sprung. You said, 鈥業t is not good that the man should be alone; let us make a helper for him like himself.' I now am taking this kinswoman of mine, not because of lust, but with sincerity. Grant that she and I may find mercy and that we may grow old together.'; And they both said, ';Amen, Amen.'; Then they went to sleep for the night.144
2362
';The acts in marriage by which the intimate and chaste union of the spouses takes place are noble and honorable; the truly human performance of these acts fosters the self-giving they signify and enriches the spouses in joy and gratitude.';145 Sexuality is a source of joy and pleasure:
The Creator himself . . . established that in the [generative] function, spouses should experience pleasure and enjoyment of body and spirit. Therefore, the spouses do nothing evil in seeking this pleasure and enjoyment. They accept what the Creator has intended for them. At the same time, spouses should know how to keep themselves within the limits of just moderation.146
2363
The spouses' union achieves the twofold end of marriage: the good of the spouses themselves and the transmission of life. These two meanings or values of marriage cannot be separated without altering the couple's spiritual life and compromising the goods of marriage and the future of the family.
If you are Catholic and having problems in your relationship perhaps talking to your priest would help. Sex within a marriage should not be obligatory, it isn't to be used as a weapon, either being forced on one spouse or withheld without cause.If you are a Catholic do u have a duty to have sex with your spouse?
%26lt;%26lt;If you are a Catholic do u have a duty to have sex with your spouse? Is there a rule in Catholic terachings about husbands and wives have a duty to have sex with each other?%26gt;%26gt;
A loving husband and wife are going to want to have sex with each other. It's not as though they are ';forced'; into sex, against their will.
If a couple marries, why are they not going to want to have sex?
%26lt;%26lt;What does the Catholic church teach about sex between married couples?%26gt;%26gt;
The Church teaches that sex is a Sacred Act; the consumation of the Marital Union; which is why sex must take place i nthe context of a marital union, not the absence of one.
The Church also teaches that sex is the ';total self-giving'; of each spouse to the other. The use of artificial contraception, as a means to its intended end, and the sex ceases to be a total self-giving; which is why artificial contraception is immoral.
%26lt;%26lt;If one person in the marriage refuses to have sex with their husband, is that wrong and against church teachings?%26gt;%26gt;
WHY is the person refusing to have sex with the spouse?
No one has a ';duty'; to have sex with another. Sex is a gift from God that allows human beings to express their love for each other in a physical manner. It also happens to be the manner in which mammals procreate. Our instructions are to go forth and be fruitful, so I can see the church having an issue with a spouse who won't engage in intercourse with her spouse, but as to whether or not the church can/will do anything about it, I can't be certain.
Well, they at least have to have sex once or it's not a legitimate marriage in the eyes of the church. They have to consumate it.
Other than that, I think the church teaches that married couples are supposed to try to have kids, or at least be open to the possibility of having them.
In the Catholic Church, as well as some other denominations, you are to only have sex in order to procreate. Other than that, sex is a no no.
%26gt;%26gt;If one person in the marriage refuses to have sex with their husband, is that wrong and against church teachings?%26lt;%26lt;
Yes. One is not supposed to deny a spouse's reasonable request for sex.
If one person in the marriage refuses sex and is co-erced to have sex it is abuse in the eyes of the law.......and that over-rules the catholic church.
Centuries ago it was the rule......not any more.
The Bible gives us this info. Neither should deny the other sexually except for prayer or other acceptable reasons such as illness.
the only rule in life is to live it your way
Here are some points taken directly from the Catechism.
2360
Sexuality is ordered to the conjugal love of man and woman. In marriage the physical intimacy of the spouses becomes a sign and pledge of spiritual communion. Marriage bonds between baptized persons are sanctified by the sacrament.
2361
';Sexuality, by means of which man and woman give themselves to one another through the acts which are proper and exclusive to spouses, is not something simply biological, but concerns the innermost being of the human person as such. It is realized in a truly human way only if it is an integral part of the love by which a man and woman commit themselves totally to one another until death.';143
Tobias got out of bed and said to Sarah, ';Sister, get up, and let us pray and implore our Lord that he grant us mercy and safety.'; So she got up, and they began to pray and implore that they might be kept safe. Tobias began by saying, ';Blessed are you, O God of our fathers. . . . You made Adam, and for him you made his wife Eve as a helper and support. From the two of them the race of mankind has sprung. You said, 鈥業t is not good that the man should be alone; let us make a helper for him like himself.' I now am taking this kinswoman of mine, not because of lust, but with sincerity. Grant that she and I may find mercy and that we may grow old together.'; And they both said, ';Amen, Amen.'; Then they went to sleep for the night.144
2362
';The acts in marriage by which the intimate and chaste union of the spouses takes place are noble and honorable; the truly human performance of these acts fosters the self-giving they signify and enriches the spouses in joy and gratitude.';145 Sexuality is a source of joy and pleasure:
The Creator himself . . . established that in the [generative] function, spouses should experience pleasure and enjoyment of body and spirit. Therefore, the spouses do nothing evil in seeking this pleasure and enjoyment. They accept what the Creator has intended for them. At the same time, spouses should know how to keep themselves within the limits of just moderation.146
2363
The spouses' union achieves the twofold end of marriage: the good of the spouses themselves and the transmission of life. These two meanings or values of marriage cannot be separated without altering the couple's spiritual life and compromising the goods of marriage and the future of the family.
If you are Catholic and having problems in your relationship perhaps talking to your priest would help. Sex within a marriage should not be obligatory, it isn't to be used as a weapon, either being forced on one spouse or withheld without cause.If you are a Catholic do u have a duty to have sex with your spouse?
%26lt;%26lt;If you are a Catholic do u have a duty to have sex with your spouse? Is there a rule in Catholic terachings about husbands and wives have a duty to have sex with each other?%26gt;%26gt;
A loving husband and wife are going to want to have sex with each other. It's not as though they are ';forced'; into sex, against their will.
If a couple marries, why are they not going to want to have sex?
%26lt;%26lt;What does the Catholic church teach about sex between married couples?%26gt;%26gt;
The Church teaches that sex is a Sacred Act; the consumation of the Marital Union; which is why sex must take place i nthe context of a marital union, not the absence of one.
The Church also teaches that sex is the ';total self-giving'; of each spouse to the other. The use of artificial contraception, as a means to its intended end, and the sex ceases to be a total self-giving; which is why artificial contraception is immoral.
%26lt;%26lt;If one person in the marriage refuses to have sex with their husband, is that wrong and against church teachings?%26gt;%26gt;
WHY is the person refusing to have sex with the spouse?
No one has a ';duty'; to have sex with another. Sex is a gift from God that allows human beings to express their love for each other in a physical manner. It also happens to be the manner in which mammals procreate. Our instructions are to go forth and be fruitful, so I can see the church having an issue with a spouse who won't engage in intercourse with her spouse, but as to whether or not the church can/will do anything about it, I can't be certain.
Well, they at least have to have sex once or it's not a legitimate marriage in the eyes of the church. They have to consumate it.
Other than that, I think the church teaches that married couples are supposed to try to have kids, or at least be open to the possibility of having them.
In the Catholic Church, as well as some other denominations, you are to only have sex in order to procreate. Other than that, sex is a no no.
%26gt;%26gt;If one person in the marriage refuses to have sex with their husband, is that wrong and against church teachings?%26lt;%26lt;
Yes. One is not supposed to deny a spouse's reasonable request for sex.
If one person in the marriage refuses sex and is co-erced to have sex it is abuse in the eyes of the law.......and that over-rules the catholic church.
Centuries ago it was the rule......not any more.
The Bible gives us this info. Neither should deny the other sexually except for prayer or other acceptable reasons such as illness.
the only rule in life is to live it your way
If your spouse would be okay with it would you try a threesome? If so who would you chose?
If you did have the threesome who would you choose someone you know or a stranger?If your spouse would be okay with it would you try a threesome? If so who would you chose?
A stranger and all boundaries would be discussed in advance.If your spouse would be okay with it would you try a threesome? If so who would you chose?
This is one question that gets debated allot and there are valid points on both sides. Having had threesomes with my wife of nearly 20 years the answer for me is simple a stranger. Reason being a threesome situation that does not involve an element of an open relationship will most likely be short-lived, no more than a few encounters at best. While a friendship is meant to be an enduring relationship that can last several years.
When you examine all of the advantages against the disadvantages of using a friend versus a stranger the difference comes down relationship. If you approach a friend you risk loosing them as a friend, either when you initially approach them about the idea or when the threesome relationship comes to an end, or you risk straining the relationship. In addition to the above you also risk that your intentions regarding the threesome will be misunderstood to mean something else other than you are inviting them to have sex with you. It is possible that it may be easier for them to develop feelings for you and for to become a significant part of their life due to the relationship you already share. I would suspect this risk is allot higher if you are seeking a fmf than mfm threesome.
Contrasting that with a stranger from the beginning it is known that the reason for the 'relationship' is for a threesome. It should be easier to manage in regard to expectations, communication, and boundaries. Therefore you won't be going out with the friend and be confronted with is this a friend's night out or will it wind-up in a threesome tonight? Therefore once the threesome 'relationship' comes to an it should be easier to end without the complications and loss of friendship.
In answer to your question based on my experience I would recommend considering a stranger. Reason being there is a less chance that it will problematic, less emotional, and if done right easier to control.
If she said she wanted to with a girl friend of hers and me--well yeah. But not so much with a women we didn't know. I guess it would depend on the particular situation.
If she said she wanted to with me and another man, I still may go along with it if she really wanted to, but only with a stranger.
I'm not too worried about the other woman causing problems later, but I don't want any guy bugging me or her about doing it again if we don't want to.
absolutely, but she is not content enough with herself to try such. I want to do both another woman and another man and be completely open-minded. She has tried the other woman thing before we dated (a co-worker of mine actually) and liked it, but now she has lost her desire. It would have to somebody we don't know at all. Go on vacation to another city, let it happen. Somethiing like that.
always with a stranger. no feelings will evolve with a stranger. also, if you do it with someone you know and that person wants more but you say no, you are taking a chance of that person telling others of him or her being with your spouse out of anger.
I would not be okay with it because I think when you get married it is a commitment to one person and no one should be brought in to the mix. I would never feel the same about my husband if I saw him with someone else.
My wife and I are swingers and we regularly join other for sex. We know the couples very well and enjoy being around them, not just for sex. We also have a rule that we do not swap in seperate rooms. Only together.
Once you bring someone else in the marriage, it is downhill from there. Trouble. What if your spouse really liked the other person. Scary. That is opening a serious can of worms. I would not advise it.
If the spouse agreed to a threesome, there's a problem. next time you will lose that spouse to another person. Therefore, do not play with what is sacred, not even in your own mind!
Yes! I absolutely would. Probably a stranger. Definitely a woman. Getting it on with 2 or more women has always been a fantasy of mine.
no, i would not b ok with it. im not that kind of person . plus i dont want to share my man with anyone else. :-) mayb it works 4 other people but me... no way.
it would have to be a dominant male for sure.
Done both its all fun.
both, i really wouldn't care ;]
A stranger and all boundaries would be discussed in advance.If your spouse would be okay with it would you try a threesome? If so who would you chose?
This is one question that gets debated allot and there are valid points on both sides. Having had threesomes with my wife of nearly 20 years the answer for me is simple a stranger. Reason being a threesome situation that does not involve an element of an open relationship will most likely be short-lived, no more than a few encounters at best. While a friendship is meant to be an enduring relationship that can last several years.
When you examine all of the advantages against the disadvantages of using a friend versus a stranger the difference comes down relationship. If you approach a friend you risk loosing them as a friend, either when you initially approach them about the idea or when the threesome relationship comes to an end, or you risk straining the relationship. In addition to the above you also risk that your intentions regarding the threesome will be misunderstood to mean something else other than you are inviting them to have sex with you. It is possible that it may be easier for them to develop feelings for you and for to become a significant part of their life due to the relationship you already share. I would suspect this risk is allot higher if you are seeking a fmf than mfm threesome.
Contrasting that with a stranger from the beginning it is known that the reason for the 'relationship' is for a threesome. It should be easier to manage in regard to expectations, communication, and boundaries. Therefore you won't be going out with the friend and be confronted with is this a friend's night out or will it wind-up in a threesome tonight? Therefore once the threesome 'relationship' comes to an it should be easier to end without the complications and loss of friendship.
In answer to your question based on my experience I would recommend considering a stranger. Reason being there is a less chance that it will problematic, less emotional, and if done right easier to control.
If she said she wanted to with a girl friend of hers and me--well yeah. But not so much with a women we didn't know. I guess it would depend on the particular situation.
If she said she wanted to with me and another man, I still may go along with it if she really wanted to, but only with a stranger.
I'm not too worried about the other woman causing problems later, but I don't want any guy bugging me or her about doing it again if we don't want to.
absolutely, but she is not content enough with herself to try such. I want to do both another woman and another man and be completely open-minded. She has tried the other woman thing before we dated (a co-worker of mine actually) and liked it, but now she has lost her desire. It would have to somebody we don't know at all. Go on vacation to another city, let it happen. Somethiing like that.
always with a stranger. no feelings will evolve with a stranger. also, if you do it with someone you know and that person wants more but you say no, you are taking a chance of that person telling others of him or her being with your spouse out of anger.
I would not be okay with it because I think when you get married it is a commitment to one person and no one should be brought in to the mix. I would never feel the same about my husband if I saw him with someone else.
My wife and I are swingers and we regularly join other for sex. We know the couples very well and enjoy being around them, not just for sex. We also have a rule that we do not swap in seperate rooms. Only together.
Once you bring someone else in the marriage, it is downhill from there. Trouble. What if your spouse really liked the other person. Scary. That is opening a serious can of worms. I would not advise it.
If the spouse agreed to a threesome, there's a problem. next time you will lose that spouse to another person. Therefore, do not play with what is sacred, not even in your own mind!
Yes! I absolutely would. Probably a stranger. Definitely a woman. Getting it on with 2 or more women has always been a fantasy of mine.
no, i would not b ok with it. im not that kind of person . plus i dont want to share my man with anyone else. :-) mayb it works 4 other people but me... no way.
it would have to be a dominant male for sure.
Done both its all fun.
both, i really wouldn't care ;]
What would you do if you sent your spouse out to get some ';adult'; movies for you both to view?
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Has your spouse ever said something about sex in public to embarass you?
...like ';can't wait 'til we get home, he he';.Has your spouse ever said something about sex in public to embarass you?
What's wrong with those innuendos in public? He's trying to get you worked up for a little extra action at home.Has your spouse ever said something about sex in public to embarass you?
I had a ';good friend'; (for those who know me) that saw me out in public while I was at lunch with some coworkers. She just smiled and waved - she knew better than to do anything. I got a lot of ribbing from people who are like ';oooh who's the hot chick';... so I was a little embarassed.
not necessarily but he'll always make comments about my sexuality, he'll always say, ';omg she's SOO looking at your ***, want to do her?'; he won't even say it discreetly, he'll make sure everyone around him hears.
My brother's wife talks about it *constantly*.
His tool must be about ready to fall off.
I think she enjoys humiliating him. Great now I have images of what they actually do and it involves leather and whips and strap-ons.
-star for you!!!!
I do it to my husband all the time. haha.
Or I grab his butt in the store. lol.
I think it's funny.
She did once say that I was a pervert. Our friends and we all had a good chuckle, as though she was kidding, but she and I know better.
YES. My boyfriend and I have made comments like that around our friends. Its all in good fun. Ive heard other couples make comments too.
Yeah but it doesn't embarrass me. I think it's funny and it keeps it interesting who cares what others think anyways!
Yes LOL, and boy could I not wait to get home. Felt sexy for the rest of the night.
it doesnt embarasses me until he actually acts on it.. its really sexy when he wants me...
yeah,,i found it really funny(im not girly type who gets embaresses easily)
This statement is not embarrassing it is a compliment. You should say :thank you:.
If you think that's embarrassing, I'm guessing you are about fourteen years old.
Yeah, she told everyone about band camp.
NO
if he says that, pinch him on his butt and see how he reacts.. haha
no that's a turn on...
What's wrong with those innuendos in public? He's trying to get you worked up for a little extra action at home.Has your spouse ever said something about sex in public to embarass you?
I had a ';good friend'; (for those who know me) that saw me out in public while I was at lunch with some coworkers. She just smiled and waved - she knew better than to do anything. I got a lot of ribbing from people who are like ';oooh who's the hot chick';... so I was a little embarassed.
not necessarily but he'll always make comments about my sexuality, he'll always say, ';omg she's SOO looking at your ***, want to do her?'; he won't even say it discreetly, he'll make sure everyone around him hears.
My brother's wife talks about it *constantly*.
His tool must be about ready to fall off.
I think she enjoys humiliating him. Great now I have images of what they actually do and it involves leather and whips and strap-ons.
-star for you!!!!
I do it to my husband all the time. haha.
Or I grab his butt in the store. lol.
I think it's funny.
She did once say that I was a pervert. Our friends and we all had a good chuckle, as though she was kidding, but she and I know better.
YES. My boyfriend and I have made comments like that around our friends. Its all in good fun. Ive heard other couples make comments too.
Yeah but it doesn't embarrass me. I think it's funny and it keeps it interesting who cares what others think anyways!
Yes LOL, and boy could I not wait to get home. Felt sexy for the rest of the night.
it doesnt embarasses me until he actually acts on it.. its really sexy when he wants me...
yeah,,i found it really funny(im not girly type who gets embaresses easily)
This statement is not embarrassing it is a compliment. You should say :thank you:.
If you think that's embarrassing, I'm guessing you are about fourteen years old.
Yeah, she told everyone about band camp.
NO
if he says that, pinch him on his butt and see how he reacts.. haha
no that's a turn on...
I have an important question about bringing your spouse to the states?
I am stationed in Korea and my fiancee leaves in june to go back to the Philippines, and I leave in August to go to the philippines to marry her, what do I need and how long will it take to get her a visa for the U.S. to be with meI have an important question about bringing your spouse to the states?
Sounds like you are military. You need to make an appointment with the Legal Office. They handle that sort of thing all the time. Best of luck to you both!I have an important question about bringing your spouse to the states?
From what I have read, you have to go to the Legal Department of your service. You have to obtain a Certificate of Legal Capacity.
In case you really want her to be with you in the States sooner, the faster way is not via a spouse visa [which is what you will get if you marry her here] but a fiancee visa. A fiancee visa will take less than 12 months to be processed. She will go to the USA via that fiancee visa, you will have to marry her within 3 months after her arrival and all will be well. A spouse visa takes longer, usually, it's one year. One friend got to leave the Philippines after a year and 3 months.
When you get to the Philippines, you have to go to the US embassy here and obtain an Affidavit in lieu of certificate of legal capacity to marry, in case you want to push through marrying her here in the Philippines.
Good luck and hope that you will have that loving Filipina wife reputation! :)
Well i think you should be contacting the state department and get the offical version
fiance visa is pretty quick. ultimately you should get a immigration attorney. all said and done they are about 3 grand but for all the running around and possible legal problems it will be Worth it and I'm sure she is worth it. women form the Philippines are fantastic and loving. good luckbridal makeup get ride of
Sounds like you are military. You need to make an appointment with the Legal Office. They handle that sort of thing all the time. Best of luck to you both!I have an important question about bringing your spouse to the states?
From what I have read, you have to go to the Legal Department of your service. You have to obtain a Certificate of Legal Capacity.
In case you really want her to be with you in the States sooner, the faster way is not via a spouse visa [which is what you will get if you marry her here] but a fiancee visa. A fiancee visa will take less than 12 months to be processed. She will go to the USA via that fiancee visa, you will have to marry her within 3 months after her arrival and all will be well. A spouse visa takes longer, usually, it's one year. One friend got to leave the Philippines after a year and 3 months.
When you get to the Philippines, you have to go to the US embassy here and obtain an Affidavit in lieu of certificate of legal capacity to marry, in case you want to push through marrying her here in the Philippines.
Good luck and hope that you will have that loving Filipina wife reputation! :)
Well i think you should be contacting the state department and get the offical version
fiance visa is pretty quick. ultimately you should get a immigration attorney. all said and done they are about 3 grand but for all the running around and possible legal problems it will be Worth it and I'm sure she is worth it. women form the Philippines are fantastic and loving. good luck
If your spouse cheated on you just once, would you want to know?
I never cheated, I'm just curious what people think. Is telling your spouse the truth really for their benefit or yours (to ease your guilt)? I could understand wanting to know about habitual unrepentent cheating. But one time? Not sure I'd want to know.If your spouse cheated on you just once, would you want to know?
for some people it is benificail because people forgive but me on the other hand. ive been cheated on 4! times. i dont forgive. once a cheater always a cheater, i dont care how many times you say sorry.If your spouse cheated on you just once, would you want to know?
I would definitely want to know...just because it's ';only once'; doesn't mean it's not a complete betrayal. Once is enough to completely ruin a marriage. You don't even have to do anything...if your spouce is even thinking about taking those kinds of actions with another person your marriage is not healthy at all.
Hmm..put super glue over his body when he sleeps %26amp; cover him in bird seed, drug him %26amp; dump his body high in some mountain area filled with hungry birds. Something like that.
Oh woopsie read this q wrong sorry just getting my evil side turned on :P But yea I'd wanna know so I could do what I said up there.
I would never be able to trust them again I don't think but I would definitely want to know. And I wouldn't want to be with someone like that who could keep that kind of secret without any guilt.
I'd wanna know.
I'd want to know!!
You dare cheat on me!
I must be worthless
Yeah, I would want to know.
She'd be gone.
i do know , its not easy but its better shes gone
for some people it is benificail because people forgive but me on the other hand. ive been cheated on 4! times. i dont forgive. once a cheater always a cheater, i dont care how many times you say sorry.If your spouse cheated on you just once, would you want to know?
I would definitely want to know...just because it's ';only once'; doesn't mean it's not a complete betrayal. Once is enough to completely ruin a marriage. You don't even have to do anything...if your spouce is even thinking about taking those kinds of actions with another person your marriage is not healthy at all.
Hmm..put super glue over his body when he sleeps %26amp; cover him in bird seed, drug him %26amp; dump his body high in some mountain area filled with hungry birds. Something like that.
Oh woopsie read this q wrong sorry just getting my evil side turned on :P But yea I'd wanna know so I could do what I said up there.
I would never be able to trust them again I don't think but I would definitely want to know. And I wouldn't want to be with someone like that who could keep that kind of secret without any guilt.
I'd wanna know.
I'd want to know!!
You dare cheat on me!
I must be worthless
Yeah, I would want to know.
She'd be gone.
i do know , its not easy but its better shes gone
When a spouse admittedly commits adultery and they couple divorces, is he forced to give up his rights to.. ?
possessions or assets the couple acquired? Or is alimony to her all that he's ordered when he commits adultery? When a spouse admittedly commits adultery and they couple divorces, is he forced to give up his rights to.. ?
the courts don't care about adultery anymore, if u live in a no fault divorce state,and women don't get alimony much anymore, unless he makes allot more than u, and u were a stay at home mom.not fair but its the way it goes.he would be entitled to half of everything if he wants it.When a spouse admittedly commits adultery and they couple divorces, is he forced to give up his rights to.. ?
Since I am in this position as the 'wronged' spouse, I can answer your question with some authority.
It all depends where you live:
In the UK, the adultery will be taken into consideration and the wife will receive a larger settlement as 'damages'.
In some parts of Canada, unless the adultery was really awful, it is disregarded (or regarded merely as evidence of 'irretrievable breakdown', and everything is split 50-50.
Some US states are like Canada, others are more like the UK.
Get yourself to a source of information relevant to the area where you live.
Most states are ';no fault'; states. I believe that New York is the only state that may recognize ';fault.'; That means that if you live in a ';no fault'; divorce state, then it doesn't matter what you did, you are entitled to assets. Check also if you live in a ';community property'; state. I think there are nine of those as well.
Depends on where you live. Many states are 'no fault';, ';no contest'; divorce states, meaning no evidence has to be presented.
Alimony, spousal support usually granted if she proves she is unemployable or unable to take care of herself..or she has a powerful lawyer!
possessions are split. Work it out between yourselves. The less the lawyers/judge has to do the better!
Actually, adultery isn't as big a deal as it used to be.
He isn't forced to give up anything, but usually the couple splits the expenses and bills. And don't even look for alimony. It's very rare these days because so many spouses work and can support themselves.
Nope. Anymore, most states are no fault states and won't even consider things like adultry. Everything will be divided equally and just as someone else stated, alimony is never a guarantee. In fact, alimony can be very hard to get and the person asking for it does need to establish a need for that extra money.
Adultery generally has no bearing on a divorce, with very few exceptions.
In most states, the courts simply don't care who is sleeping with whom.
AND... most folks aren't entitled to alimony anymore.
Google your state name and adultery, and your state name an alimony.
It depends on a lot of different things. Assets are probably divided between the two. If she is employed and able to support herself she probably won't get alimony. If there is a kid involved that changes things too. It seems to be different from state to state.
Adultery is very hard to prove in court. And any good lawyer would tell his client not to admit adultery in court.
But in most countries, adultery is just another reason for divorce. And it doesn't make the divorce any different, whether there was adultery or not.
I think the only thing that you can try to get is alimony because of the adultery. This could include a portion of his retirement as well. I don't believe it applies to possessions, assets, debt... those things need are split however you agree to split them.
Things are divided to the word of the law, usually pretty evenly. Alimony is almost a thing of the past. My state is a ';no fault'; state meaning that the reason for the divorce is both parties fault (even a confession of adultery).
State laws. Prue, dictate
Each state has different laws that determine the outcome
Adultery is hard to prove
Adultery findings by a private investigator is expensive
Speak to a lawyer in your state for info
No he isn't or she in cases when the woman cheats which happens as well. It's supposed to be equal when getting a divorce no matter the circumstances. There are no stipulations unless a prenup is signed that says otherwise.
He doesn't give up any rights, but it could put things in a better light for you. He isn't ordered to pay alimony unless the wife depended on him for money.
No, he doesn't give up all rights. The adultery will be taken into consideration, meaning that he will receive a smaller share. However, there are many other circumstances to look at.
admittedly committing adultery does not force him to give up his rights to anything.
alimony is also not a guarantee.
It depends on the laws of your state. If you live in a ';no-fault'; state, there is an equal division, no matter what. Don't let guilt be your driving force.
The one who files first has the upper hand. The one who works the fastest gets the mostes. Only time in life you have to steal from yourself.
Most states have no-fault divorce laws, and under such laws adultery does not matter.
He has the right to fight for everything he wants.
a divorce settlement agreement between parties..it is determined by both parties
No, he gets half.
depends on where. in florida it is a no fault state. it doesn't matter what happened or why
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the courts don't care about adultery anymore, if u live in a no fault divorce state,and women don't get alimony much anymore, unless he makes allot more than u, and u were a stay at home mom.not fair but its the way it goes.he would be entitled to half of everything if he wants it.When a spouse admittedly commits adultery and they couple divorces, is he forced to give up his rights to.. ?
Since I am in this position as the 'wronged' spouse, I can answer your question with some authority.
It all depends where you live:
In the UK, the adultery will be taken into consideration and the wife will receive a larger settlement as 'damages'.
In some parts of Canada, unless the adultery was really awful, it is disregarded (or regarded merely as evidence of 'irretrievable breakdown', and everything is split 50-50.
Some US states are like Canada, others are more like the UK.
Get yourself to a source of information relevant to the area where you live.
Most states are ';no fault'; states. I believe that New York is the only state that may recognize ';fault.'; That means that if you live in a ';no fault'; divorce state, then it doesn't matter what you did, you are entitled to assets. Check also if you live in a ';community property'; state. I think there are nine of those as well.
Depends on where you live. Many states are 'no fault';, ';no contest'; divorce states, meaning no evidence has to be presented.
Alimony, spousal support usually granted if she proves she is unemployable or unable to take care of herself..or she has a powerful lawyer!
possessions are split. Work it out between yourselves. The less the lawyers/judge has to do the better!
Actually, adultery isn't as big a deal as it used to be.
He isn't forced to give up anything, but usually the couple splits the expenses and bills. And don't even look for alimony. It's very rare these days because so many spouses work and can support themselves.
Nope. Anymore, most states are no fault states and won't even consider things like adultry. Everything will be divided equally and just as someone else stated, alimony is never a guarantee. In fact, alimony can be very hard to get and the person asking for it does need to establish a need for that extra money.
Adultery generally has no bearing on a divorce, with very few exceptions.
In most states, the courts simply don't care who is sleeping with whom.
AND... most folks aren't entitled to alimony anymore.
Google your state name and adultery, and your state name an alimony.
It depends on a lot of different things. Assets are probably divided between the two. If she is employed and able to support herself she probably won't get alimony. If there is a kid involved that changes things too. It seems to be different from state to state.
Adultery is very hard to prove in court. And any good lawyer would tell his client not to admit adultery in court.
But in most countries, adultery is just another reason for divorce. And it doesn't make the divorce any different, whether there was adultery or not.
I think the only thing that you can try to get is alimony because of the adultery. This could include a portion of his retirement as well. I don't believe it applies to possessions, assets, debt... those things need are split however you agree to split them.
Things are divided to the word of the law, usually pretty evenly. Alimony is almost a thing of the past. My state is a ';no fault'; state meaning that the reason for the divorce is both parties fault (even a confession of adultery).
State laws. Prue, dictate
Each state has different laws that determine the outcome
Adultery is hard to prove
Adultery findings by a private investigator is expensive
Speak to a lawyer in your state for info
No he isn't or she in cases when the woman cheats which happens as well. It's supposed to be equal when getting a divorce no matter the circumstances. There are no stipulations unless a prenup is signed that says otherwise.
He doesn't give up any rights, but it could put things in a better light for you. He isn't ordered to pay alimony unless the wife depended on him for money.
No, he doesn't give up all rights. The adultery will be taken into consideration, meaning that he will receive a smaller share. However, there are many other circumstances to look at.
admittedly committing adultery does not force him to give up his rights to anything.
alimony is also not a guarantee.
It depends on the laws of your state. If you live in a ';no-fault'; state, there is an equal division, no matter what. Don't let guilt be your driving force.
The one who files first has the upper hand. The one who works the fastest gets the mostes. Only time in life you have to steal from yourself.
Most states have no-fault divorce laws, and under such laws adultery does not matter.
He has the right to fight for everything he wants.
a divorce settlement agreement between parties..it is determined by both parties
No, he gets half.
depends on where. in florida it is a no fault state. it doesn't matter what happened or why
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Do you enjoy playing board games with your spouse?
I prefer to play board games with other friends because my husband is competitive and I would rather play with an easygoing, laid back kind of guy who has a voice like butter that melts in my mouth. Anyway, can you play board games with your spouse and is it something you enjoy?Do you enjoy playing board games with your spouse?
I play board games with my sons.
I have also taught my youngest son card tricks, and he amazes everyone with those! : )
My husband and I play Chess, and run and swim laps together.......oh, and we bike ride too!!!!Do you enjoy playing board games with your spouse?
As you know sugar plum, I'm not married, but I do enjoy playing board games with you. I use to think I was very good at Scrabble, but I bow in front of the new queen of Scrabble. Your awesome, in more ways than one (wink, wink).
I have at times been known to sit and play board games, but my patience seems to wander and I get bored to easily. The shorter the game the better, I would have to say Scrabble is my favorite.
I have found most women don't like playing board games. When possible I like to play strip ';Chutes and Ladders';. Clothes go on when you climb ladders, off when you slide down a chute. Winner chooses how to make love!
Sometimes my husband is competitive to. We play like war with cards and stuff and he will get mean. We don't play very often.
No way - I am a serious bridge player and love games involving tactics etc wife likes to play ';for fun'; - so we agree not to wage war.
I think it's boring, with him and with friends. I'd rather play with my kids, so they can win and feel happy. Otherwise, board games are dull.
Yes we play board games all the time. We really don't care who wins. But if hes really competitive then play something you know you will beat him at to give him a dose of his own medicine lol
Only the naughty adult ones really!! Every now and then we will play battleship together or the game clue.
we play war board games and sometimes it's frustrating! he can be very bossy but I prefer 1000 times that than him having fun at a strip club LOL
I absolutely love it. Yeah we get a little competitive but when the game is over its over.
we never played boardgames. I used to play a lot of scrabble with my ex, which I miss lots, but I cannot play it any more because my husband doesn't know how to spell. ;-(
I like to play board games, but I cannot go canoeing with my husband. It drives me crazy so we don't do that.
No, because I don't enjoy board games...
We do other things together.
We play all kinds of games. We played hide the salami last night, he won.
My FH and I play board games and ';Are You Smarter Than A Fifth Grader'; DVD all the time.
:)
Yes, we have fun too.
i play video games with mine
we play card games, mostly. :)
sure we can play board games but half way through we end up playing other games ;)
I play board games with my sons.
I have also taught my youngest son card tricks, and he amazes everyone with those! : )
My husband and I play Chess, and run and swim laps together.......oh, and we bike ride too!!!!Do you enjoy playing board games with your spouse?
As you know sugar plum, I'm not married, but I do enjoy playing board games with you. I use to think I was very good at Scrabble, but I bow in front of the new queen of Scrabble. Your awesome, in more ways than one (wink, wink).
I have at times been known to sit and play board games, but my patience seems to wander and I get bored to easily. The shorter the game the better, I would have to say Scrabble is my favorite.
I have found most women don't like playing board games. When possible I like to play strip ';Chutes and Ladders';. Clothes go on when you climb ladders, off when you slide down a chute. Winner chooses how to make love!
Sometimes my husband is competitive to. We play like war with cards and stuff and he will get mean. We don't play very often.
No way - I am a serious bridge player and love games involving tactics etc wife likes to play ';for fun'; - so we agree not to wage war.
I think it's boring, with him and with friends. I'd rather play with my kids, so they can win and feel happy. Otherwise, board games are dull.
Yes we play board games all the time. We really don't care who wins. But if hes really competitive then play something you know you will beat him at to give him a dose of his own medicine lol
Only the naughty adult ones really!! Every now and then we will play battleship together or the game clue.
we play war board games and sometimes it's frustrating! he can be very bossy but I prefer 1000 times that than him having fun at a strip club LOL
I absolutely love it. Yeah we get a little competitive but when the game is over its over.
we never played boardgames. I used to play a lot of scrabble with my ex, which I miss lots, but I cannot play it any more because my husband doesn't know how to spell. ;-(
I like to play board games, but I cannot go canoeing with my husband. It drives me crazy so we don't do that.
No, because I don't enjoy board games...
We do other things together.
We play all kinds of games. We played hide the salami last night, he won.
My FH and I play board games and ';Are You Smarter Than A Fifth Grader'; DVD all the time.
:)
Yes, we have fun too.
i play video games with mine
we play card games, mostly. :)
sure we can play board games but half way through we end up playing other games ;)
When you get a legal separation from your spouse in a community properly state can you buy and sell real?
estate with out it be coming community property. My question can this be seperate property from the spouce.When you get a legal separation from your spouse in a community properly state can you buy and sell real?
If you are legally seperated, this is not considered community property as long as it only has one parties name on the deed, financing, etc.
If you are legally seperated, this is not considered community property as long as it only has one parties name on the deed, financing, etc.
Was your spouse mean to you during pregnancy?
I sent my husband to krispy kremes and he came back with some supermarket low fat donuts that were all cold and hard. He keeps telling me that he doesnt want me feeding his baby fatty foods. Who the hell is he to tell me what I can put in my body? I am so angry with him right now. I want to smack him up side the head with this box of damn donuts. Why is he acting like this?Was your spouse mean to you during pregnancy?
Awwww... ease up on her everyone. I agree that you are very hormonal right now but the guy is trying to help you out. Give him a big kiss and tell him thanks for the nasty donuts. LolWas your spouse mean to you during pregnancy?
I would go to the store and get myself the donuts I wanted.
Sometimes men don't understand that during pregnancy you can EAT ANYTHING you want. Men sometimes worry about their lady gaining weight and not being able to lose (like mine is!) others are just plain being ridiculous even though in their mind they think they're ';caring';. I wouldn't let a man stop me from eating what I want to eat and neither should you. If he has a problem with it tell him to come to the next prenatal appt with you and have him ask the doctor himself. Until then to keep quiet about what you eat because you know best.
As long as any woman isn't doing drugs, drinking alcohol or taking anything else to harm the baby or herself then she can eat pretty much anything she wants! BTW I've been pregnant 3 times and I'm also an EMT.
-T
so when i get prego am i going to be this picky and not heed advice from my partner?
I know you want what you want but have you took his thougths into consideration at all?
by this post you haven't but i'm sure you Have!
getting mad over a donut?? that is sort of hormones talking don't you think?
i dont think he is trying to be ';mean';.
it sounds like he just wants to have a part in growing the baby. maybe he feels left out since you have to do most of the work.
although i can totally see how annoying that would be to have him come home with something obviously other than what you asked for. that happened to me, too, except my husband did it on accident.
He's not being mean to you. Your hormones are making you think he's mean. Just relax and know that he wants the best for you and the baby.
Be careful, because a lot of women, under the influence of their pregnancy hormones end up alienating their husband. He'll be understanding of your plight up to a point, but he's only human and may feel rejected. An alienated husband will not make a good partner at a time when you both need to keep your cool and be united and excited at this magical time in your lives. A box of donuts isn't worth your family's happiness.
I'M SORRY WRONG OR RIGHT KRISPY KREME'S ARE SOLID SUGAR AND SHOULDN'T BE EATEN BY ANYONE!!
He is worried about himself. He doesn't want you gaining a bunch of weight for his benefit. In the end, it's all about them and what turns them on.... Ask me, and men are a bunch of careless horn dogs. It's all good until you don't give them some. F'in selfish idiots!!!!!!! Do what you want, when you want!! They act like our daddy's!
I agree, that was totally rude. I would be mad, too. You didn't ask for a beer or a pack of cigarettes, you asked for krispy kremes! All of these people saying he was right for doing this are very wrong. For him to say ';ok, I will go get them'; and come back with low fat ones from the supermarket, and tell you he did it because he doesn't want you feeding the baby fatty foods sounds like a man with a control issue. Next time look him in the eye and tell him you will go get them yourself... It would have been different is krispy kreme was closed or too far away, and he bought you the only thing he could find, but that wasn't the case- and I do not think it's your hormones. He needs to have some respect....
if you think about it, thats not him being mean, thats him caring.
He is being too controlling. Its your body not his and he needs to get over it. No food is bad for you as long as its in moderation. Let him know cheap stuff that taste bad usually doesn't have even half the nutrition other do and without fatty foods sometimes the baby wont be able to put on any weight in getting ready to be born and could end up with iron deficiency disorder. You need to gain weight during pregnancy and he shouldn't be trying to prevent that. The baby is not HIS child. They baby is BOTH of yours and YOU have a say in it as well as he does. I wouldn't ask him anymore just go out and get it on your own and eat it and show him its YOUR body and YOU need the food. For the record I would have thrown the dang box at him and said you eat it and then get me what I want or I wont eat at all whats worse????? lol but that's just me
Wow
My husband would look at me like I am crazy if I asked him to go get me some donuts.
I think he partially has a right to what you put in the baby's body by the way
Please, print your question.
After the baby is born, read it again. He IS trying to be helpful. Just not in the way that you want right now. I know you don't want to hear it, but it is true. And he's right, even though it is okay to induldge in an occassional craving.
But you do sound a bit hormonal. And I only say this, because I am too far away for you to smack. Good luck, take it easy, and don't kill the man. He doesn't know.
What about saying thank you for picking up the donuts!
i would just tell him that unless hes carring the baby, he doesnt get to say what you eat,you are the childs mother, you wouldn't do any harm to the baby!
im sure you've been carrying the baby for at least a few months, and the baby is fine, so he shouldn't start questioning what you eat now.
Yea. . I think men get mood swings just as bad when we're pregnant. It sucks
my fella mostly is understanding but he made one comment that pissed me off which was my morning sickness is no excuse or slacking off with the house work well i told him when your feeling sick 247 the last thing you think of is house work he regrets it cos boy did i go in mood lol and well you don't mess with a hormonal pregnant women lol
some times is there weird way of trying to be nice but really they just don't have a clue what its like for us
Be thankful that he cares. While I was pregnant my ex not only begged me to get an abortion, after it was too late he then just told me that he hoped we both would die. Reason that he is now an ex.
He is trying to be helpful. I think you're hormonal a bit. Take it easy on him, he's trying!
That's terrible! I got fat during my pregnancy (when else do you have an excuse to give in to all your cravings?), even though I lost every bit and more a couple months after birth. If he's concerned you will get fat during pregnancy- then who cares? You can always lose it- it's easy.
My husband bought me snickers and ice cream at 3 am sometimes.
If he ever came back with low fat I would have cried.
Your husband is acting like this because he doesn't understand the cravings and hormones you go through. It is your body. It will bounce back after pregnancy.
Go get your own Krispy Kremes- and DON'T share with him. :)
So far, so good. I can't complain yet.
The only thing my husband doesn't want me doing is drinking tap water that comes from any faucet or drinking fountain on the base he works at, because it doesn't meet Air Force water standards and it's not safe for pregnant women and small children.
He's probably just trying to keep you healthy. That being said he was WAY wrong for bringing back non-Krispy Kreme when that is what youwanted. My husband would say things like that too. He would be all, you'll regret it and I would say i don't care!!! ANd he was usually right. But he still got me what i was craving. But dont' beat him in the head. You will forgive him later.
Hormonal, much?
LOL!
That's pretty much the way I reacted to everything when I was pregnant, too. No matter what anyone does, it's the wrong thing.
Calm down. He's trying his best. He wants you (and the baby) to be healthy, try to see it from his point of view.
Good luck!
Awwww... ease up on her everyone. I agree that you are very hormonal right now but the guy is trying to help you out. Give him a big kiss and tell him thanks for the nasty donuts. LolWas your spouse mean to you during pregnancy?
I would go to the store and get myself the donuts I wanted.
Sometimes men don't understand that during pregnancy you can EAT ANYTHING you want. Men sometimes worry about their lady gaining weight and not being able to lose (like mine is!) others are just plain being ridiculous even though in their mind they think they're ';caring';. I wouldn't let a man stop me from eating what I want to eat and neither should you. If he has a problem with it tell him to come to the next prenatal appt with you and have him ask the doctor himself. Until then to keep quiet about what you eat because you know best.
As long as any woman isn't doing drugs, drinking alcohol or taking anything else to harm the baby or herself then she can eat pretty much anything she wants! BTW I've been pregnant 3 times and I'm also an EMT.
-T
so when i get prego am i going to be this picky and not heed advice from my partner?
I know you want what you want but have you took his thougths into consideration at all?
by this post you haven't but i'm sure you Have!
getting mad over a donut?? that is sort of hormones talking don't you think?
i dont think he is trying to be ';mean';.
it sounds like he just wants to have a part in growing the baby. maybe he feels left out since you have to do most of the work.
although i can totally see how annoying that would be to have him come home with something obviously other than what you asked for. that happened to me, too, except my husband did it on accident.
He's not being mean to you. Your hormones are making you think he's mean. Just relax and know that he wants the best for you and the baby.
Be careful, because a lot of women, under the influence of their pregnancy hormones end up alienating their husband. He'll be understanding of your plight up to a point, but he's only human and may feel rejected. An alienated husband will not make a good partner at a time when you both need to keep your cool and be united and excited at this magical time in your lives. A box of donuts isn't worth your family's happiness.
I'M SORRY WRONG OR RIGHT KRISPY KREME'S ARE SOLID SUGAR AND SHOULDN'T BE EATEN BY ANYONE!!
He is worried about himself. He doesn't want you gaining a bunch of weight for his benefit. In the end, it's all about them and what turns them on.... Ask me, and men are a bunch of careless horn dogs. It's all good until you don't give them some. F'in selfish idiots!!!!!!! Do what you want, when you want!! They act like our daddy's!
I agree, that was totally rude. I would be mad, too. You didn't ask for a beer or a pack of cigarettes, you asked for krispy kremes! All of these people saying he was right for doing this are very wrong. For him to say ';ok, I will go get them'; and come back with low fat ones from the supermarket, and tell you he did it because he doesn't want you feeding the baby fatty foods sounds like a man with a control issue. Next time look him in the eye and tell him you will go get them yourself... It would have been different is krispy kreme was closed or too far away, and he bought you the only thing he could find, but that wasn't the case- and I do not think it's your hormones. He needs to have some respect....
if you think about it, thats not him being mean, thats him caring.
He is being too controlling. Its your body not his and he needs to get over it. No food is bad for you as long as its in moderation. Let him know cheap stuff that taste bad usually doesn't have even half the nutrition other do and without fatty foods sometimes the baby wont be able to put on any weight in getting ready to be born and could end up with iron deficiency disorder. You need to gain weight during pregnancy and he shouldn't be trying to prevent that. The baby is not HIS child. They baby is BOTH of yours and YOU have a say in it as well as he does. I wouldn't ask him anymore just go out and get it on your own and eat it and show him its YOUR body and YOU need the food. For the record I would have thrown the dang box at him and said you eat it and then get me what I want or I wont eat at all whats worse????? lol but that's just me
Wow
My husband would look at me like I am crazy if I asked him to go get me some donuts.
I think he partially has a right to what you put in the baby's body by the way
Please, print your question.
After the baby is born, read it again. He IS trying to be helpful. Just not in the way that you want right now. I know you don't want to hear it, but it is true. And he's right, even though it is okay to induldge in an occassional craving.
But you do sound a bit hormonal. And I only say this, because I am too far away for you to smack. Good luck, take it easy, and don't kill the man. He doesn't know.
What about saying thank you for picking up the donuts!
i would just tell him that unless hes carring the baby, he doesnt get to say what you eat,you are the childs mother, you wouldn't do any harm to the baby!
im sure you've been carrying the baby for at least a few months, and the baby is fine, so he shouldn't start questioning what you eat now.
Yea. . I think men get mood swings just as bad when we're pregnant. It sucks
my fella mostly is understanding but he made one comment that pissed me off which was my morning sickness is no excuse or slacking off with the house work well i told him when your feeling sick 247 the last thing you think of is house work he regrets it cos boy did i go in mood lol and well you don't mess with a hormonal pregnant women lol
some times is there weird way of trying to be nice but really they just don't have a clue what its like for us
Be thankful that he cares. While I was pregnant my ex not only begged me to get an abortion, after it was too late he then just told me that he hoped we both would die. Reason that he is now an ex.
He is trying to be helpful. I think you're hormonal a bit. Take it easy on him, he's trying!
That's terrible! I got fat during my pregnancy (when else do you have an excuse to give in to all your cravings?), even though I lost every bit and more a couple months after birth. If he's concerned you will get fat during pregnancy- then who cares? You can always lose it- it's easy.
My husband bought me snickers and ice cream at 3 am sometimes.
If he ever came back with low fat I would have cried.
Your husband is acting like this because he doesn't understand the cravings and hormones you go through. It is your body. It will bounce back after pregnancy.
Go get your own Krispy Kremes- and DON'T share with him. :)
So far, so good. I can't complain yet.
The only thing my husband doesn't want me doing is drinking tap water that comes from any faucet or drinking fountain on the base he works at, because it doesn't meet Air Force water standards and it's not safe for pregnant women and small children.
He's probably just trying to keep you healthy. That being said he was WAY wrong for bringing back non-Krispy Kreme when that is what youwanted. My husband would say things like that too. He would be all, you'll regret it and I would say i don't care!!! ANd he was usually right. But he still got me what i was craving. But dont' beat him in the head. You will forgive him later.
Hormonal, much?
LOL!
That's pretty much the way I reacted to everything when I was pregnant, too. No matter what anyone does, it's the wrong thing.
Calm down. He's trying his best. He wants you (and the baby) to be healthy, try to see it from his point of view.
Good luck!
I am married to a younger husband. Is anyone one married to a MUCH younger spouse?
I am 50 and my husband is 30 and I was wondering if their are other women like me?
Thanks!I am married to a younger husband. Is anyone one married to a MUCH younger spouse?
Age is only a number...and good for you!!!!I am married to a younger husband. Is anyone one married to a MUCH younger spouse?
My husband is only 9 years my jr. But good for you.
Well, I'm not married and my boyfriend is the older one. He's 35 and I'm 22. I find older guys are so much more mature. Guys my age don't even know how to greet young ladies properly.
Ive been Married for almost18 years to a woman 6 years my junior...Does that count?
well you know why that man like you becasue you must be the best person in bed and really enjoy to have him or ... can you still have sex or no? if yes then see no plm with love, sex, and age.
You better keep him sexed up, 30 year olds still go after 18 year old strippers....bridal makeup get ride of
Thanks!I am married to a younger husband. Is anyone one married to a MUCH younger spouse?
Age is only a number...and good for you!!!!I am married to a younger husband. Is anyone one married to a MUCH younger spouse?
My husband is only 9 years my jr. But good for you.
Well, I'm not married and my boyfriend is the older one. He's 35 and I'm 22. I find older guys are so much more mature. Guys my age don't even know how to greet young ladies properly.
Ive been Married for almost18 years to a woman 6 years my junior...Does that count?
well you know why that man like you becasue you must be the best person in bed and really enjoy to have him or ... can you still have sex or no? if yes then see no plm with love, sex, and age.
You better keep him sexed up, 30 year olds still go after 18 year old strippers....
Can depression cause you to feel like you have ';fallen out of love'; with your spouse?
If anyone has experienced depression, please let me know if feelings of passionate love dissipated. ThanksCan depression cause you to feel like you have ';fallen out of love'; with your spouse?
One of the main symptoms of depression in lack of interest. Interest in daily activities, as well as people. So, yes, it can make you feel uninterested in your partner.Can depression cause you to feel like you have ';fallen out of love'; with your spouse?
Hey, I have depression and anxiety and I am having a really hard time with this as well.
Email if you want to trade stories and try to figure something out...
Loveology15@yahoo.com
Definitely. I call that feeling ';greying out'; because everything--everything--seems to feel bland and pointless. Like going from 50'; hi def to 12'; black and white.
When I get depressed, I don't feel loved, and I don't want to love. I just want to be alone.
depression makes you fall out of love with everything
Edit: well, yes i have. I feel this alot but, i know deep down i still love my gf very much and that these feelings will pass. Just seek help/treatment if you think it might have a significant affect on your marriage.
One of the main symptoms of depression in lack of interest. Interest in daily activities, as well as people. So, yes, it can make you feel uninterested in your partner.Can depression cause you to feel like you have ';fallen out of love'; with your spouse?
Hey, I have depression and anxiety and I am having a really hard time with this as well.
Email if you want to trade stories and try to figure something out...
Loveology15@yahoo.com
Definitely. I call that feeling ';greying out'; because everything--everything--seems to feel bland and pointless. Like going from 50'; hi def to 12'; black and white.
When I get depressed, I don't feel loved, and I don't want to love. I just want to be alone.
depression makes you fall out of love with everything
Edit: well, yes i have. I feel this alot but, i know deep down i still love my gf very much and that these feelings will pass. Just seek help/treatment if you think it might have a significant affect on your marriage.
How do you deal with having a popular spouse?
My other half is very popular, he is very friendly, easy to get on with and is very lovable. Me on the other hand, whilst I'm friendly I dont't have the same charm and charisma as him.
It's nice when people comment on how lovely he is etc. and I feel proud but then how do I continuously deal with it...? I don't want to seem rude but it makes me feel a little insecure and I think what does he have that I don't...obviously not good when your married!
Any tips? (please nothing silly, just sensible helpful and honest answers)How do you deal with having a popular spouse?
my partner is not only beautiful looking but everyone likes him as well. i am proud to be with him, proud he loves me, and i do get jealous when women flirt with him, and they do, so do a few old drunken trouts, but its just part of the package. its not his fault nor do i begrudge him for it. u just have to be confident. know that all these people who love him and want a piece of him, well, end of the day, he's yours, not theirs. and the fact he's with you, well you must be pretty cool yourself else he wouldnt be with you, would he.
be friendly to these people, even if they arent so nice to you - you are above them if you do this and dont give them any ammunition to try to sl*g u off. also, they are his friends, treat them with respect and he will love u for it all the more.
this kind of charisma is a gift only a few are born with. you cant force it, so dont try to compete with him, just accept yourself for being 'merely mortal,' and try to just feel lucky youve got him, the special one who shines. aint it better than a bore?How do you deal with having a popular spouse?
Some people simply posses the charisma you describe and there's not much you can do about it. If I were in your place I would just love him and accept that he possesses the ';charm'; gene. I would also bet that you're more charming than you realize, and maybe people are saying the same thing about you to him. Besides all that, this lovable, popular man chose to be with you. What does that say? :)
i understand.....my husband is very outgoing and talks to everybody. there are no limits. i am an introvert and quiet. it bothers me sometimes, but i have my qualities. so, with that being said, i accept it (most of the time) and know that i will never be like him and really dont even want too, that makes me who i am.
It's nice when people comment on how lovely he is etc. and I feel proud but then how do I continuously deal with it...? I don't want to seem rude but it makes me feel a little insecure and I think what does he have that I don't...obviously not good when your married!
Any tips? (please nothing silly, just sensible helpful and honest answers)How do you deal with having a popular spouse?
my partner is not only beautiful looking but everyone likes him as well. i am proud to be with him, proud he loves me, and i do get jealous when women flirt with him, and they do, so do a few old drunken trouts, but its just part of the package. its not his fault nor do i begrudge him for it. u just have to be confident. know that all these people who love him and want a piece of him, well, end of the day, he's yours, not theirs. and the fact he's with you, well you must be pretty cool yourself else he wouldnt be with you, would he.
be friendly to these people, even if they arent so nice to you - you are above them if you do this and dont give them any ammunition to try to sl*g u off. also, they are his friends, treat them with respect and he will love u for it all the more.
this kind of charisma is a gift only a few are born with. you cant force it, so dont try to compete with him, just accept yourself for being 'merely mortal,' and try to just feel lucky youve got him, the special one who shines. aint it better than a bore?How do you deal with having a popular spouse?
Some people simply posses the charisma you describe and there's not much you can do about it. If I were in your place I would just love him and accept that he possesses the ';charm'; gene. I would also bet that you're more charming than you realize, and maybe people are saying the same thing about you to him. Besides all that, this lovable, popular man chose to be with you. What does that say? :)
i understand.....my husband is very outgoing and talks to everybody. there are no limits. i am an introvert and quiet. it bothers me sometimes, but i have my qualities. so, with that being said, i accept it (most of the time) and know that i will never be like him and really dont even want too, that makes me who i am.
What is the one thing you and your spouse argue about most often in regard to raising your children?
i believe his parents should keep their mouths shut when it comes to how i care for my kids. he thinks they arent harming anyone. they have 3 kids (yeah look how 2 of those kids turned out) and they know what they are talking about. bull!What is the one thing you and your spouse argue about most often in regard to raising your children?
My daughter is nine years, and his daughter is six years.
We argue most (Though they're more like, debates that lead to shrugs and hugs), over the fact that he believes the six year old is 'only six' and therefore should get away with alot more things (Like not helping tidy their room, or getting her own way all the time). I hear the ';She's only six!'; alot..
To me, both kids are equal.. The nine year old gets more chores, and more responsibility, and alot more school work. Therefore the six year old shouldnt always get her own way, it should be even. And she should tidy her messes up, she made them.
Other then that, we debate the punishment issue alot too. He's used to spanking, I'm originally from a country where spanking is illegal. I prefer time out, grounding from tv/games etc, and explaining whats gone wrong, compared to a whooping.What is the one thing you and your spouse argue about most often in regard to raising your children?
Discipline.
He thinks yelling and spanking on the butt are the way to get through to the kids. Where as I feel that time out, taking toys or fun activities away, and explaining to them why what they are doing is wrong and unacceptable is a better solution. I think spankings should only be resorted to in extreme cases.
definitely discipline .
my husband likes to let our son do whatever his little heart desires , where as i believe in a stern no . there are things he shouldnt touch and play with and he needs to learn that .
i think thats the biggest thing for all parents really .
but we all have to find a common ground
I argue about the bad examples that are being shown around them,scary movies,some words that I feel should not be used around them.
Discipline and what actions call for it while some others may not need a punishment but a stern no.
What she eats鈥?although it鈥檚 not so much an argument, more of a difference in opinions. However, we come to a consensus 9 times out of 10, and we鈥檙e all happy.
discipline i have a 1 year old and just had twins yesterday =] but sometimes i think he's a little harsh it's like he expects her to know all these things when she's only one ya know
My daughter is nine years, and his daughter is six years.
We argue most (Though they're more like, debates that lead to shrugs and hugs), over the fact that he believes the six year old is 'only six' and therefore should get away with alot more things (Like not helping tidy their room, or getting her own way all the time). I hear the ';She's only six!'; alot..
To me, both kids are equal.. The nine year old gets more chores, and more responsibility, and alot more school work. Therefore the six year old shouldnt always get her own way, it should be even. And she should tidy her messes up, she made them.
Other then that, we debate the punishment issue alot too. He's used to spanking, I'm originally from a country where spanking is illegal. I prefer time out, grounding from tv/games etc, and explaining whats gone wrong, compared to a whooping.What is the one thing you and your spouse argue about most often in regard to raising your children?
Discipline.
He thinks yelling and spanking on the butt are the way to get through to the kids. Where as I feel that time out, taking toys or fun activities away, and explaining to them why what they are doing is wrong and unacceptable is a better solution. I think spankings should only be resorted to in extreme cases.
definitely discipline .
my husband likes to let our son do whatever his little heart desires , where as i believe in a stern no . there are things he shouldnt touch and play with and he needs to learn that .
i think thats the biggest thing for all parents really .
but we all have to find a common ground
I argue about the bad examples that are being shown around them,scary movies,some words that I feel should not be used around them.
Discipline and what actions call for it while some others may not need a punishment but a stern no.
What she eats鈥?although it鈥檚 not so much an argument, more of a difference in opinions. However, we come to a consensus 9 times out of 10, and we鈥檙e all happy.
discipline i have a 1 year old and just had twins yesterday =] but sometimes i think he's a little harsh it's like he expects her to know all these things when she's only one ya know
How many men/women would stay with their spouse if sex was not in the mix?
My wife all of a sudden says she does not enjoy sex anymore and if were up to her I would be lucky to get it once every 6 months.How many men/women would stay with their spouse if sex was not in the mix?
First of all you need to understand that women go through cycles in their sex lives and in there desire for it! It has to do with shifting hormones and stress. It doesn't last forever. Also a real relationship (no matter what the ppl here say grown ppl know better) is more than physical. It has a part but isn't everything. Ask yourself this If she were in a horrible accident and couldn't perform the act anymore would I love her any less. If the answer is no then you have the answer to this one however if the answer is yes then I would think that there is more of an issue in this relationship than just sex.How many men/women would stay with their spouse if sex was not in the mix?
before you walk away sit her down have a talk tell her you miss making love to her and that you would like to see a professionals opinion to help the two of you work threw this problem. It could be a change in her hormonal level and that can be fixed with a pill for woman that is comparative to viagra. Try romancing her to see if it helps if you don't spice things up it can become a bore no matter how good you are.
I would not Sex is very important factor in a relationship
Someone else asked the same question a few minutes ago. Here is what i replied:
After a few years of marriage, many people take their partners for granted. They no longer bath before going to bed, they don鈥檛 care what they wear in bed, they no longer kiss or hold hands, and they don鈥檛 do nice things for each other. They allow the romance go out of their lives. Do you remember the last time you brought her breakfast in bed, or gave her a passionate kiss? If you have stopped doing all the things that you used to do for her when you just got married, she may no longer find herself attractive especially if she has gained a few pounds over the years. Most women don鈥檛 like to have sex just for the sake of having sex. You can recreate the romance in your life. Woo your wife all over again as if you just met her. Kiss her as often as you can. Write something nice and leave it at the breakfast table. Buy her flowers. Listen to romantic music together. Buy new underwear or new pajamas. Look attractive; let her see that other women desire you because you are desirable. Take her on a romantic vacation.
If you had to start a new relationship you would do everything in your power to make that person feel attractive and you would also try to be attractive for her. Why not do those things for your wife. She may be surprised at first but I am sure that she will welcome the positive attention. There is always the possibility that she may no longer find you attractive because you gained more than 100 pounds. In that case you could start walking every day together to lose the weight, or join weight watchers.
Don't know. Depends on the person.
In this case, go for a SEX THERAPIST.
Because is confusing and it's complicated.
So put your wife's in the hand of the professionals.
tell her the truth that u really miss having sex and she will probably understand
First of all you need to understand that women go through cycles in their sex lives and in there desire for it! It has to do with shifting hormones and stress. It doesn't last forever. Also a real relationship (no matter what the ppl here say grown ppl know better) is more than physical. It has a part but isn't everything. Ask yourself this If she were in a horrible accident and couldn't perform the act anymore would I love her any less. If the answer is no then you have the answer to this one however if the answer is yes then I would think that there is more of an issue in this relationship than just sex.How many men/women would stay with their spouse if sex was not in the mix?
before you walk away sit her down have a talk tell her you miss making love to her and that you would like to see a professionals opinion to help the two of you work threw this problem. It could be a change in her hormonal level and that can be fixed with a pill for woman that is comparative to viagra. Try romancing her to see if it helps if you don't spice things up it can become a bore no matter how good you are.
I would not Sex is very important factor in a relationship
Someone else asked the same question a few minutes ago. Here is what i replied:
After a few years of marriage, many people take their partners for granted. They no longer bath before going to bed, they don鈥檛 care what they wear in bed, they no longer kiss or hold hands, and they don鈥檛 do nice things for each other. They allow the romance go out of their lives. Do you remember the last time you brought her breakfast in bed, or gave her a passionate kiss? If you have stopped doing all the things that you used to do for her when you just got married, she may no longer find herself attractive especially if she has gained a few pounds over the years. Most women don鈥檛 like to have sex just for the sake of having sex. You can recreate the romance in your life. Woo your wife all over again as if you just met her. Kiss her as often as you can. Write something nice and leave it at the breakfast table. Buy her flowers. Listen to romantic music together. Buy new underwear or new pajamas. Look attractive; let her see that other women desire you because you are desirable. Take her on a romantic vacation.
If you had to start a new relationship you would do everything in your power to make that person feel attractive and you would also try to be attractive for her. Why not do those things for your wife. She may be surprised at first but I am sure that she will welcome the positive attention. There is always the possibility that she may no longer find you attractive because you gained more than 100 pounds. In that case you could start walking every day together to lose the weight, or join weight watchers.
Don't know. Depends on the person.
In this case, go for a SEX THERAPIST.
Because is confusing and it's complicated.
So put your wife's in the hand of the professionals.
tell her the truth that u really miss having sex and she will probably understand
Can I co-sign or finance a house in Missouri for my parents without my spouse's consent?
We are still married and not legally separated. Do I need my spouse's consent to finance a house for my parents? I have decent credit and could qualify on my own.Can I co-sign or finance a house in Missouri for my parents without my spouse's consent?
Probably, just remember that you will be responsible for that debt when and if they cannot pay for it any longer. If you are not planning a divorce or separation right now, you better start. I know if I did this or my husband did I would be TICKED. That is entirely up to you though. good luck!!!!Can I co-sign or finance a house in Missouri for my parents without my spouse's consent?
This should be a decision that you should make. You can talk to him about it just out of respect for him, but you know the saying ';Blood is Thicker than water';. If you are the only chances that your parents have to get a place that they can call HOME, don't let anyone ruin that. unless this decision would affect you or him in any way, I don't see any harm in that. If your Parents are responsible and reliable, and you know deep down inside this is the best thing to do. GO AHEAD. This your chance to give back to them. Good Luck
Yes you can, just because you are married you don't need your spouse's permission for everything. Good luck.
Probably, just remember that you will be responsible for that debt when and if they cannot pay for it any longer. If you are not planning a divorce or separation right now, you better start. I know if I did this or my husband did I would be TICKED. That is entirely up to you though. good luck!!!!Can I co-sign or finance a house in Missouri for my parents without my spouse's consent?
This should be a decision that you should make. You can talk to him about it just out of respect for him, but you know the saying ';Blood is Thicker than water';. If you are the only chances that your parents have to get a place that they can call HOME, don't let anyone ruin that. unless this decision would affect you or him in any way, I don't see any harm in that. If your Parents are responsible and reliable, and you know deep down inside this is the best thing to do. GO AHEAD. This your chance to give back to them. Good Luck
Yes you can, just because you are married you don't need your spouse's permission for everything. Good luck.
When your spouse is mad at you or giving silent treatment, do they ';buddy up'; more to the kids?
My spouse is mad at me and giving the old silent treatment. I've noticed when he does this, he goes out of his way to be extra nice to the kids.When your spouse is mad at you or giving silent treatment, do they ';buddy up'; more to the kids?
When my hubby got mad, everyone in the family was affected. My kids usually hid. I became more protective of them.When your spouse is mad at you or giving silent treatment, do they ';buddy up'; more to the kids?
we dont have kids but my husband does that if anyone else is around. it seems like they do that to show ';hey i'm the nice one, she's the one who's hateful';. its like they want people to take their side.
Wow! I thought my hubby was the only one :P he is always nice to his son but when I am a bit mad at him he seems to become extra fun dad
Interesting question! And I'm guilty of it! I notice that I do it to annoy him, to make a point of ';look how much they like me! look how great they think I am!';
No, I buddy up with someone else!
yes mine does too, he even makes them snack hideous!
Mine does the same thing! I'm curious to see what other people think.bridal makeup good makeup
When my hubby got mad, everyone in the family was affected. My kids usually hid. I became more protective of them.When your spouse is mad at you or giving silent treatment, do they ';buddy up'; more to the kids?
we dont have kids but my husband does that if anyone else is around. it seems like they do that to show ';hey i'm the nice one, she's the one who's hateful';. its like they want people to take their side.
Wow! I thought my hubby was the only one :P he is always nice to his son but when I am a bit mad at him he seems to become extra fun dad
Interesting question! And I'm guilty of it! I notice that I do it to annoy him, to make a point of ';look how much they like me! look how great they think I am!';
No, I buddy up with someone else!
yes mine does too, he even makes them snack hideous!
Mine does the same thing! I'm curious to see what other people think.
What are the alternatives when a spouse refuses to sign IRS 1040 making the other spouse ineligible for EIC?
If you're filing seperately, I thought that makes you ineligible for EIC anyhow.
When the kids out number you and your spouse isn't it so hard?
1year old sick since Monday, ear infection up all night for the past week, 5 year old having diarrhea and bad stomach pain, 8 year old upset because he's getting no attention, man we are getting so stressed. Doctor's visits out the ying yang, no sleep, sick kids, jealous kids, older kids fighting non-stop. How do you balance everything out?When the kids out number you and your spouse isn't it so hard?
I have 10yo, 5yo, 2yo, and sleep like a baby. Stress is self-created. Fighting siblings is normal, just remove the weapons form the house, and relax. Stop trying to micro-manage every household situation. My wife did the same thing until I told her to stop. The house is much quieter now that my wife and kids don't try to our shout each other.
Sometimes as parents, to preserve sanity, we have to let-go just a little. And quality, loving discipline works too.When the kids out number you and your spouse isn't it so hard?
I don't know, when my daughter is at my house she is outnumbered 4 to 1. So it's much easier on me. I could not imagine doing it with 3 though, keep up the good work :)
Just remember, sicknesses end. They will both eventually get better and things will get back to normal. Just work through this and live for the little things like sleep, LOL. You can do it, and when they are not sick any longer it will be SO much better. Live for tomorrow, tomorrow is another day.
We have 10 week old triplets. I don't think we have learned to balance it out, even though they were born 20 weeks ago.
Just last week, Savannah and Caleb were sick, and I clearly had to give them a bit more attention, Ella got sooo jealous. I found it easier just to tend to Savannah and Caleb, since Ella could never be pleased. Thank god my husband took 3 days off work to help me out. And of course it happened to be the week my mom was out of town.
Just take a deep breath once in a while. What also helps me a lot is going outside. Just for a short while. 15 minutes. the Vitamin D does wonders!
Wow. You and your partner need to go on a date once your kids get better.
Good for you for being a caring parent. You need to take the healthy, unattentioned boy on a date with you too. He'd appreciate it. Honestly, he should not suffer because his siblings are sick. He should be understanding, but he should not be punished.
just keep reminding yourself that they will not be this age forever, they will grow up, and tomorrow is another day
*hugs*
you're doing great, don't worry about it!
I only have two kids but I saw the grandma answer and I LOVED it!
Its so true!
You need a night out lady!
We don't have kids that out number us but I just wanted to say just keep up the good work, it will be over sooooon =)
one word grandma
I have 10yo, 5yo, 2yo, and sleep like a baby. Stress is self-created. Fighting siblings is normal, just remove the weapons form the house, and relax. Stop trying to micro-manage every household situation. My wife did the same thing until I told her to stop. The house is much quieter now that my wife and kids don't try to our shout each other.
Sometimes as parents, to preserve sanity, we have to let-go just a little. And quality, loving discipline works too.When the kids out number you and your spouse isn't it so hard?
I don't know, when my daughter is at my house she is outnumbered 4 to 1. So it's much easier on me. I could not imagine doing it with 3 though, keep up the good work :)
Just remember, sicknesses end. They will both eventually get better and things will get back to normal. Just work through this and live for the little things like sleep, LOL. You can do it, and when they are not sick any longer it will be SO much better. Live for tomorrow, tomorrow is another day.
We have 10 week old triplets. I don't think we have learned to balance it out, even though they were born 20 weeks ago.
Just last week, Savannah and Caleb were sick, and I clearly had to give them a bit more attention, Ella got sooo jealous. I found it easier just to tend to Savannah and Caleb, since Ella could never be pleased. Thank god my husband took 3 days off work to help me out. And of course it happened to be the week my mom was out of town.
Just take a deep breath once in a while. What also helps me a lot is going outside. Just for a short while. 15 minutes. the Vitamin D does wonders!
Wow. You and your partner need to go on a date once your kids get better.
Good for you for being a caring parent. You need to take the healthy, unattentioned boy on a date with you too. He'd appreciate it. Honestly, he should not suffer because his siblings are sick. He should be understanding, but he should not be punished.
just keep reminding yourself that they will not be this age forever, they will grow up, and tomorrow is another day
*hugs*
you're doing great, don't worry about it!
I only have two kids but I saw the grandma answer and I LOVED it!
Its so true!
You need a night out lady!
We don't have kids that out number us but I just wanted to say just keep up the good work, it will be over sooooon =)
one word grandma
Can you get a mortgage with boyfriend not spouse?
My bf and I are not married. We want to move and buy a house. I have excellent credit his is not so good but he's working on fixing what few issues he has left. My question is alone with my income I cant get approved for a mortgage (he makes alot more money than me) Can we both apply for a mortgage on a house even tho we are not married. Also, does anyone know around what the monthly payments would be like if we purchased a 170K dollar home and financed 80K of it?
Thanks a Bunch :DCan you get a mortgage with boyfriend not spouse?
you can buy anything with anyone. it's a matter of trusting the situation enough to do so. Compose a separate contract between both parties as to what will be done in the case of separation or dispute. Be proactive about protecting yourself. Do not let love cloud your reasoning.
as far as the payments: Search yahoo or google for mortgage calculator. Several useful sites should come up immediately.Can you get a mortgage with boyfriend not spouse?
First, you can find out what the principle and interest is on a mortgage at www.mortgage-calc.com (click on simple payment calculator) Rates are currently in the 6.25-7% range.
Just remember you'll also need home owners insurnace (for me its $700 a year) and county property taxes (mine are 2300 a year)... those two things add about $250 a month to my house payment. . . but they vary with region.
You can buy a house with someone you've never met, if you want. So yes, your BF and you can get a loan together regardless of marriage. However, if he makes significantly more, the bank may require him to be the primary-- meaning his credit score counts more. It may work better for you to do a ';no income verification /aka stated income'; loan or ';no documentation loan'; in which they use your emploiyment history and credit score and just ';ask'; what your income is. They know you are telling them an inflated figure as this is the purpose of the loan. (Self employed people use these loans too!)
Go to the bank, bring all your W2's , paycheck stubs, and 2 months of bank statements, and they'll tell you what they can offer you. if they're iffy, find a mortgage broker instead, who can shop you around for the best programs-- but typically gets 1% of the sales price for a fee.
Yes you can. There are no restrictions on ownership for marital status. You just want to be careful and specifically state in writing what you want to happen to the property if you split up. If he leaves, you are liable for the property. Ten years later, you have paid off the loan and want to sell - you will need his signature to sell it and he will be entitled to his 50% - no matter what the value of the property was when he took off. You have to decide what will happen if you want to sell and he doesn't - what happens if he dies - what rights his family has to your house after he dies...
Lots of issues - just think it through and go in with your eyes open. You can get an attorney to help you out with the agreement without spending too much money.
Last thing - $80,000 at 6% (a reasonable rate) is 479.64 per month, but then there are property taxes and insurance that will vary depending on where you live.
Payments depend on your credit, count on about 800. Your amount with depend on whoever has the lowest score.
You can buy with anyone you want. However, I honestly have to caution you against it. This situation rarely works and one or both of you usually ends up with serious financial trouble.
To simply answer your question, yes you can get a mortgage together. His credit, however, may cause you an overall reduction in allowable amount of mortgage. I'd suggest discussing that with a Mortgage Lender. You may need to go with a ';stated loan'; product to accommodate what you are looking to do.
Good luck!
I can get this rolling for you! The monthly payment would depend on your rate, which would depend on your credit score. I am online right now, shoot me an email to msmith@premierloangroup.com, and I'll see what I can do!
Marty
Thanks a Bunch :DCan you get a mortgage with boyfriend not spouse?
you can buy anything with anyone. it's a matter of trusting the situation enough to do so. Compose a separate contract between both parties as to what will be done in the case of separation or dispute. Be proactive about protecting yourself. Do not let love cloud your reasoning.
as far as the payments: Search yahoo or google for mortgage calculator. Several useful sites should come up immediately.Can you get a mortgage with boyfriend not spouse?
First, you can find out what the principle and interest is on a mortgage at www.mortgage-calc.com (click on simple payment calculator) Rates are currently in the 6.25-7% range.
Just remember you'll also need home owners insurnace (for me its $700 a year) and county property taxes (mine are 2300 a year)... those two things add about $250 a month to my house payment. . . but they vary with region.
You can buy a house with someone you've never met, if you want. So yes, your BF and you can get a loan together regardless of marriage. However, if he makes significantly more, the bank may require him to be the primary-- meaning his credit score counts more. It may work better for you to do a ';no income verification /aka stated income'; loan or ';no documentation loan'; in which they use your emploiyment history and credit score and just ';ask'; what your income is. They know you are telling them an inflated figure as this is the purpose of the loan. (Self employed people use these loans too!)
Go to the bank, bring all your W2's , paycheck stubs, and 2 months of bank statements, and they'll tell you what they can offer you. if they're iffy, find a mortgage broker instead, who can shop you around for the best programs-- but typically gets 1% of the sales price for a fee.
Yes you can. There are no restrictions on ownership for marital status. You just want to be careful and specifically state in writing what you want to happen to the property if you split up. If he leaves, you are liable for the property. Ten years later, you have paid off the loan and want to sell - you will need his signature to sell it and he will be entitled to his 50% - no matter what the value of the property was when he took off. You have to decide what will happen if you want to sell and he doesn't - what happens if he dies - what rights his family has to your house after he dies...
Lots of issues - just think it through and go in with your eyes open. You can get an attorney to help you out with the agreement without spending too much money.
Last thing - $80,000 at 6% (a reasonable rate) is 479.64 per month, but then there are property taxes and insurance that will vary depending on where you live.
Payments depend on your credit, count on about 800. Your amount with depend on whoever has the lowest score.
You can buy with anyone you want. However, I honestly have to caution you against it. This situation rarely works and one or both of you usually ends up with serious financial trouble.
To simply answer your question, yes you can get a mortgage together. His credit, however, may cause you an overall reduction in allowable amount of mortgage. I'd suggest discussing that with a Mortgage Lender. You may need to go with a ';stated loan'; product to accommodate what you are looking to do.
Good luck!
I can get this rolling for you! The monthly payment would depend on your rate, which would depend on your credit score. I am online right now, shoot me an email to msmith@premierloangroup.com, and I'll see what I can do!
Marty
Can my bank account be garnished if my spouse is sole proprietor of his business and he owes back taxes?
The taxes from your spouse's sole proprietorship are part of your joint return. A sole proprietorship is not separated from the taxpayer, which in this case is you and your spouse.
You and your spouse are equally responsible for those taxes. The IRS will recover those taxes from any assets you or your spouse have.Can my bank account be garnished if my spouse is sole proprietor of his business and he owes back taxes?
Your separate property cannot be levied upon to satisfy your spouse's separate debt. If you owe income tax on a joint return based on profits from the spouse's business, you and your assets can be levied upon. IRS can levy on bank accounts and wages without a court order. A levy on other assets may require an order rubber-stamped by a judge. In a community property state separate debts can be collected by levy on community property.Can my bank account be garnished if my spouse is sole proprietor of his business and he owes back taxes?
If you filed a joint return you are BOTH liable for the full amount of the tax debt regardless of whose bank accounts are involved.
BTW, the IRS doesn't ';garnish'; bank accounts. Only wages can be garnished and only with a court order. The IRS doesn't need a court order to seize your bank or other financial accounts. The present your bank with a seizure order and the money is turned over by your bank.
yes whether or not you are joint owners.. once you are married what is his is yours also.. funny that way ain`t it?
Only if it's a joint account, I think.
You and your spouse are equally responsible for those taxes. The IRS will recover those taxes from any assets you or your spouse have.Can my bank account be garnished if my spouse is sole proprietor of his business and he owes back taxes?
Your separate property cannot be levied upon to satisfy your spouse's separate debt. If you owe income tax on a joint return based on profits from the spouse's business, you and your assets can be levied upon. IRS can levy on bank accounts and wages without a court order. A levy on other assets may require an order rubber-stamped by a judge. In a community property state separate debts can be collected by levy on community property.Can my bank account be garnished if my spouse is sole proprietor of his business and he owes back taxes?
If you filed a joint return you are BOTH liable for the full amount of the tax debt regardless of whose bank accounts are involved.
BTW, the IRS doesn't ';garnish'; bank accounts. Only wages can be garnished and only with a court order. The IRS doesn't need a court order to seize your bank or other financial accounts. The present your bank with a seizure order and the money is turned over by your bank.
yes whether or not you are joint owners.. once you are married what is his is yours also.. funny that way ain`t it?
Only if it's a joint account, I think.
What if sex with someone other than your spouse was not considered ';cheating';?
Would the world be a happier place? Safer?What if sex with someone other than your spouse was not considered ';cheating';?
than 50% of the divorced couples would still be togetherWhat if sex with someone other than your spouse was not considered ';cheating';?
In open relationships it isn't considered cheating. I think honesty and open communication are more important factors than having sex with someone else, and I think this makes for happier relationships for many people. People aren't afraid to admit they are attracted to other people and everyone knows where they stand.
I don't think it could really work out the way you are thinking. Some people tend to get attached to the person they are Intimate with most people just can't have a one night stand if you will. Also again the STD'S would be a lot higher. I think in the long run people would end up fighting a lot more and marriages wouldn't last. I think we would all feel good about our selves if are spouse was off with someone else doing the dirty.
The only way that sex with someone other than your spouse wouldn't be considered cheating would be if you were in an open or poly marriage. Personally, I don't see the point of that. If you want to have multiple sex partners, why get married in the first place?
Happier? hardly... im sure you wouldnt mind going off and ';F';ing someone else.... put yourself in the other persons shoes.... would you want your girl (assuming your a guy LoL), would you really want your girl screwing some random dudes?
Safer? Uhhh... no... thats just dumb.
And someones said something about jesus... your an idoit.. go be single if you wanna do that.. and another said something about STDs... agreed..
So to answer your question simply... It is considered cheating (unless you have an open relationship)
It wouldn't be a happier place for some people as:
The other woman may get more attention than the other which leads to jelousy etc.
And I don't see how it would be safer. I think the same thing will just happen but on a wider scale.
*shrugs*
maybe happier physically if your sex life sucked!
but safer? eh probably not there would probably
be a bigger spread of diseases !
Well if that were true then I guess when my Mom cheated it wouldn't have been such a big deal. But also if that were true, there would be no point in getting married.
You shouldn't want to cheat on your spouse and if you do why are you with them? go find someone you actually want to be with.
It works in Japan as long as you don't love the other person your ';cheating'; with
It wouldn't effect me, I couldn't get laid when I was young, I doubt I would now.
then everybody would be a bastard (literally) and have aids...
STD's would be even more rampant, for one.
I think monogamy is a tall order and almost impossible to live up to .... so yeah
That'll be when Jesus comes
than 50% of the divorced couples would still be togetherWhat if sex with someone other than your spouse was not considered ';cheating';?
In open relationships it isn't considered cheating. I think honesty and open communication are more important factors than having sex with someone else, and I think this makes for happier relationships for many people. People aren't afraid to admit they are attracted to other people and everyone knows where they stand.
I don't think it could really work out the way you are thinking. Some people tend to get attached to the person they are Intimate with most people just can't have a one night stand if you will. Also again the STD'S would be a lot higher. I think in the long run people would end up fighting a lot more and marriages wouldn't last. I think we would all feel good about our selves if are spouse was off with someone else doing the dirty.
The only way that sex with someone other than your spouse wouldn't be considered cheating would be if you were in an open or poly marriage. Personally, I don't see the point of that. If you want to have multiple sex partners, why get married in the first place?
Happier? hardly... im sure you wouldnt mind going off and ';F';ing someone else.... put yourself in the other persons shoes.... would you want your girl (assuming your a guy LoL), would you really want your girl screwing some random dudes?
Safer? Uhhh... no... thats just dumb.
And someones said something about jesus... your an idoit.. go be single if you wanna do that.. and another said something about STDs... agreed..
So to answer your question simply... It is considered cheating (unless you have an open relationship)
It wouldn't be a happier place for some people as:
The other woman may get more attention than the other which leads to jelousy etc.
And I don't see how it would be safer. I think the same thing will just happen but on a wider scale.
*shrugs*
maybe happier physically if your sex life sucked!
but safer? eh probably not there would probably
be a bigger spread of diseases !
Well if that were true then I guess when my Mom cheated it wouldn't have been such a big deal. But also if that were true, there would be no point in getting married.
You shouldn't want to cheat on your spouse and if you do why are you with them? go find someone you actually want to be with.
It works in Japan as long as you don't love the other person your ';cheating'; with
It wouldn't effect me, I couldn't get laid when I was young, I doubt I would now.
then everybody would be a bastard (literally) and have aids...
STD's would be even more rampant, for one.
I think monogamy is a tall order and almost impossible to live up to .... so yeah
That'll be when Jesus comes
Has your spouse ever made you feel insecure?
My wife called an Ex-boyfriend behind my back. She did it to catch up on old times. He was the one that actually emailed her and asked if they could chat a bit on the phone. She was really sorry about this and promised not to call him again.
I have not gotten over this yet but I don't bring it up anymore as if I do she gets mad and she said I should let it go. , it has been about 2 weeks. I feel a bit insecure about the whole situation.
Has anything like this ever happened to you. Has your spouse ever made you feel insecure?
I have contacted my ex too. It didnt mean anything. You need to let it go and stop bringing it up. Has your spouse ever made you feel insecure?
I can say that I think about people from my past both male and female, and consider reaching out to them to catch up, but it is just out of curiosity not any feeling of unhappiness with my husband. I trust my husband and know that if he were to feel the same way I would trust him to make those connections without feeling threatened. I know that he loves me and I love him. That is what is most important, if he didn't trust me it would hurt.
My husband still gets calls from his ex. Their two children are grown and gone. For many years and yet, she still calls. It bothers me. She will send him a text for his birthday, fathers day and all the other holidays. Greetings and wishes. It bothers me. He said it should not since nothing is going on between them. Then, I asked him how he would like it if I got the same from my ex. When I turned the tables, his tone changed on the subject real quick and sent his ex a message telling her to stop it all.
She should never have done that, you need to go to marital counseling together and the fact she gets mad is even worse. Tell her she has two options, go to joint counseling or divorce and she gets zero.
A phone call is nothing. Just wait till your spouse tell his friends wife he wants to have sex with her. Then you can complain.
my wife questions every single decision i make, yes, she tries (and occasionally) succeeds.
That has never happened to me, you should try marriage counselor.
Yeah, she did but it was harmless fun.
No he hasnt
That situation would never happen with me because my first husband had died while we were married. I don't have an ex.
However, the reason you gave for feeling insecure doesn't make sense. Talking over the phone is nothing and it's not really a ';behind your back'; situation. Was she supposed to talk to him while you were sitting there in front of her? If she had met him for lunch or something, that would be behind your back. I can see why you'd wanna monitor the situation, though.
As long as you're doing your part as a husband, there should be nothing to feel insecure or regret over. Even if she fancies this guy, if she does something foul like cheat on you, you can take comfort in knowing that you never did anything wrong and that she has a character flaw- not you. If you guys have an honest marriage, her promise to not call him anymore is probably genuine. If she was just catching up with the guy, there isn't really anymore reason to talk to him anyway. He should have caught her up during that initial phone call. If there are subsequent phone calls, then you should worry.bridal makeup good makeup
I have not gotten over this yet but I don't bring it up anymore as if I do she gets mad and she said I should let it go. , it has been about 2 weeks. I feel a bit insecure about the whole situation.
Has anything like this ever happened to you. Has your spouse ever made you feel insecure?
I have contacted my ex too. It didnt mean anything. You need to let it go and stop bringing it up. Has your spouse ever made you feel insecure?
I can say that I think about people from my past both male and female, and consider reaching out to them to catch up, but it is just out of curiosity not any feeling of unhappiness with my husband. I trust my husband and know that if he were to feel the same way I would trust him to make those connections without feeling threatened. I know that he loves me and I love him. That is what is most important, if he didn't trust me it would hurt.
My husband still gets calls from his ex. Their two children are grown and gone. For many years and yet, she still calls. It bothers me. She will send him a text for his birthday, fathers day and all the other holidays. Greetings and wishes. It bothers me. He said it should not since nothing is going on between them. Then, I asked him how he would like it if I got the same from my ex. When I turned the tables, his tone changed on the subject real quick and sent his ex a message telling her to stop it all.
She should never have done that, you need to go to marital counseling together and the fact she gets mad is even worse. Tell her she has two options, go to joint counseling or divorce and she gets zero.
A phone call is nothing. Just wait till your spouse tell his friends wife he wants to have sex with her. Then you can complain.
my wife questions every single decision i make, yes, she tries (and occasionally) succeeds.
That has never happened to me, you should try marriage counselor.
Yeah, she did but it was harmless fun.
No he hasnt
That situation would never happen with me because my first husband had died while we were married. I don't have an ex.
However, the reason you gave for feeling insecure doesn't make sense. Talking over the phone is nothing and it's not really a ';behind your back'; situation. Was she supposed to talk to him while you were sitting there in front of her? If she had met him for lunch or something, that would be behind your back. I can see why you'd wanna monitor the situation, though.
As long as you're doing your part as a husband, there should be nothing to feel insecure or regret over. Even if she fancies this guy, if she does something foul like cheat on you, you can take comfort in knowing that you never did anything wrong and that she has a character flaw- not you. If you guys have an honest marriage, her promise to not call him anymore is probably genuine. If she was just catching up with the guy, there isn't really anymore reason to talk to him anyway. He should have caught her up during that initial phone call. If there are subsequent phone calls, then you should worry.
Can you buy a plane ticket here for spouse in thailand to come to Aus. with thai air?
I was told if buying with credit card you have to be the holder to use ticket.I want to buy ticket in australia for wife to immigrate.Can you buy a plane ticket here for spouse in thailand to come to Aus. with thai air?
You can purchase a ticket for someone who is not the credit card holder, but on airlines such as Thai Airways you need to complete a Form of Consent. Other airlines may have similar rules, but you'll need to contact them to find out. Here's what Thai Airways requires when the person traveling is not the credit card holder.
http://www.thaiair.com/booking/non_pax_t鈥?/a>Can you buy a plane ticket here for spouse in thailand to come to Aus. with thai air?
Last year I had a similar situation as your.
I had to buy a ticket from Bangkok to Italy with Thai Air and my Thai Wife was the holder of the credit card and she was not flying with me.
I phoned to Thai airways in Bangkok to check if she could use her card to buy ticket for me, but they told me that she has to fly with me too.
So I bought the ticket from this travel agency in Bangkok http://www.saveflights.com/ managed by foreigners.
I transferred the amount of the ticket on their bank account in Bangkok and after a couples of hours I got my e-ticket in my email box.
Really excellent service. This website has been used also in the past from few friends of mine. It is reliable and the prices are on the average.
They offer ticket to all destination starting from Thailand only.
This is the page you should look at http://www.saveflights.com/country/austr鈥?/a>
You can check this out but once you have the ticket it has nothing more to do with how you bought it... Just make sure your wife is allowed to immigrate and her name on the ticket is identical to her name on her passport.... and her passport is valid,
Be sure you have all this information.
yes you can, i do it all the time for my son, but as she is Thai i think you have to have a return ticket within a 3 month time frame.
You can purchase a ticket for someone who is not the credit card holder, but on airlines such as Thai Airways you need to complete a Form of Consent. Other airlines may have similar rules, but you'll need to contact them to find out. Here's what Thai Airways requires when the person traveling is not the credit card holder.
http://www.thaiair.com/booking/non_pax_t鈥?/a>Can you buy a plane ticket here for spouse in thailand to come to Aus. with thai air?
Last year I had a similar situation as your.
I had to buy a ticket from Bangkok to Italy with Thai Air and my Thai Wife was the holder of the credit card and she was not flying with me.
I phoned to Thai airways in Bangkok to check if she could use her card to buy ticket for me, but they told me that she has to fly with me too.
So I bought the ticket from this travel agency in Bangkok http://www.saveflights.com/ managed by foreigners.
I transferred the amount of the ticket on their bank account in Bangkok and after a couples of hours I got my e-ticket in my email box.
Really excellent service. This website has been used also in the past from few friends of mine. It is reliable and the prices are on the average.
They offer ticket to all destination starting from Thailand only.
This is the page you should look at http://www.saveflights.com/country/austr鈥?/a>
You can check this out but once you have the ticket it has nothing more to do with how you bought it... Just make sure your wife is allowed to immigrate and her name on the ticket is identical to her name on her passport.... and her passport is valid,
Be sure you have all this information.
yes you can, i do it all the time for my son, but as she is Thai i think you have to have a return ticket within a 3 month time frame.
What is the pisition of a common law spouse during seperation?
i need to where the partner/spouse will go!!!!!!!!!! that's alll it's my homework. so any one can answer this question please post your respond as soon as possilbe.thank youWhat is the pisition of a common law spouse during seperation?
most states don't recognize common law marriages any more. a partner would probably have no financial protection when separating. What is the pisition of a common law spouse during seperation?
what kinda homework it this???
most states don't recognize common law marriages any more. a partner would probably have no financial protection when separating. What is the pisition of a common law spouse during seperation?
what kinda homework it this???
If your spouse doubted your love would it make you angry?
Or would you try and find out why they feel doubt?If your spouse doubted your love would it make you angry?
i would try to find out why they doubted my love and work toward being a better wife.If your spouse doubted your love would it make you angry?
yes, I'd angry and tell him to cut the s hit
no i dont care thats his problem
i would try to find out why they doubted my love and work toward being a better wife.If your spouse doubted your love would it make you angry?
yes, I'd angry and tell him to cut the s hit
no i dont care thats his problem
Does my spouse(we now) qualify for the first time home buyers rebate.?
Here it is. 6 years ago I bought a house. 3 years ago I got married to someone that has never bought a house. My question is-- Does my wife qualify for the first time buyers plan if we put our new house in both of our names, with her name being on it first? Can she get the rebate we file married but separately?Does my spouse(we now) qualify for the first time home buyers rebate.?
Since you still own the home that you bought 6 years ago the ONLY way that you would be eligible today is if you moved out of the home at least 3 years ago and it ceased to be your main home. If you converted it to a rental or just kept it as a second home over 3 years ago, you'd be good to go.
However if you are still living in it as your main home you are not eligible for the FTHB credit at all. A married couple must BOTH meet the eligibility requirements or they are both ineligible. It does not matter if you file separate or joint returns, you don't qualify. You do not qualify so neither does your wife.
It's different if the buyers are unmarried. In that case if either of them qualifies then that person can claim the entire credit themselves.
Sorry, but those are the rules.Does my spouse(we now) qualify for the first time home buyers rebate.?
You're welcome. TFTP.
What happened to house you bought 6 years ago? Do you still own it?
THEN NO you two do not qualify.
If you sold it more than 3 years ago and did not buy anything else in interim, they you both qualify.
Either you qualify together or not at all. That's the Rules.
www.irs.gov form 5405
Since you still own the home that you bought 6 years ago the ONLY way that you would be eligible today is if you moved out of the home at least 3 years ago and it ceased to be your main home. If you converted it to a rental or just kept it as a second home over 3 years ago, you'd be good to go.
However if you are still living in it as your main home you are not eligible for the FTHB credit at all. A married couple must BOTH meet the eligibility requirements or they are both ineligible. It does not matter if you file separate or joint returns, you don't qualify. You do not qualify so neither does your wife.
It's different if the buyers are unmarried. In that case if either of them qualifies then that person can claim the entire credit themselves.
Sorry, but those are the rules.Does my spouse(we now) qualify for the first time home buyers rebate.?
You're welcome. TFTP.
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What happened to house you bought 6 years ago? Do you still own it?
THEN NO you two do not qualify.
If you sold it more than 3 years ago and did not buy anything else in interim, they you both qualify.
Either you qualify together or not at all. That's the Rules.
www.irs.gov form 5405
My fiancee is english and I am peruvian.We are getting married on december.When can I ask for the spouse visa?
We both want to live in the Uk together. We want to get the spouse visa as soon as possible so we can start building our life in England. Please, could you give me advices to make the process a little easier? THANKS A LOT!My fiancee is english and I am peruvian.We are getting married on december.When can I ask for the spouse visa?
I would suggest calling the UK immigration office and asking them this question - and get started immediately on whatever they tell you.
Good luck!
Shira
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I would suggest calling the UK immigration office and asking them this question - and get started immediately on whatever they tell you.
Good luck!
Shira
shiradrissman.com
How are stocks held in joint account divided for stepped-up basis upon death of spouse?
Multiple stocks bought over 18 years in a joint account. Which stocks should be stepped-up and is the total dollar amount of account divided in half before stepped-up basis is applied? Which IRS document is used? Thank you.How are stocks held in joint account divided for stepped-up basis upon death of spouse?
This question has been asked previously on the boards.
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?鈥?/a>
See IRS Publication 551:
Qualified Joint Interest
Include one-half of the value of a qualified joint interest in the decedent's gross estate. It does not matter how much each spouse contributed to the purchase price. Also, it does not matter which spouse dies first.
A qualified joint interest is any interest in property held by husband and wife as either of the following.
Tenants by the entirety.
Joint tenants with right of survivorship if husband and wife are the only joint tenants.
Basis. As the surviving spouse, your basis in property you owned with your spouse as a qualified joint interest is the cost of your half of the property with certain adjustments. Decrease the cost by any deductions allowed to you for depreciation and depletion. Increase the reduced cost by your basis in the half you inherited.bridal makeup good makeup
This question has been asked previously on the boards.
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?鈥?/a>
See IRS Publication 551:
Qualified Joint Interest
Include one-half of the value of a qualified joint interest in the decedent's gross estate. It does not matter how much each spouse contributed to the purchase price. Also, it does not matter which spouse dies first.
A qualified joint interest is any interest in property held by husband and wife as either of the following.
Tenants by the entirety.
Joint tenants with right of survivorship if husband and wife are the only joint tenants.
Basis. As the surviving spouse, your basis in property you owned with your spouse as a qualified joint interest is the cost of your half of the property with certain adjustments. Decrease the cost by any deductions allowed to you for depreciation and depletion. Increase the reduced cost by your basis in the half you inherited.
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