What is the one thing you and your spouse argue about most often in regard to raising your children?

i believe his parents should keep their mouths shut when it comes to how i care for my kids. he thinks they arent harming anyone. they have 3 kids (yeah look how 2 of those kids turned out) and they know what they are talking about. bull!What is the one thing you and your spouse argue about most often in regard to raising your children?
My daughter is nine years, and his daughter is six years.





We argue most (Though they're more like, debates that lead to shrugs and hugs), over the fact that he believes the six year old is 'only six' and therefore should get away with alot more things (Like not helping tidy their room, or getting her own way all the time). I hear the ';She's only six!'; alot..





To me, both kids are equal.. The nine year old gets more chores, and more responsibility, and alot more school work. Therefore the six year old shouldnt always get her own way, it should be even. And she should tidy her messes up, she made them.





Other then that, we debate the punishment issue alot too. He's used to spanking, I'm originally from a country where spanking is illegal. I prefer time out, grounding from tv/games etc, and explaining whats gone wrong, compared to a whooping.What is the one thing you and your spouse argue about most often in regard to raising your children?
Discipline.





He thinks yelling and spanking on the butt are the way to get through to the kids. Where as I feel that time out, taking toys or fun activities away, and explaining to them why what they are doing is wrong and unacceptable is a better solution. I think spankings should only be resorted to in extreme cases.
definitely discipline .





my husband likes to let our son do whatever his little heart desires , where as i believe in a stern no . there are things he shouldnt touch and play with and he needs to learn that .





i think thats the biggest thing for all parents really .


but we all have to find a common ground
I argue about the bad examples that are being shown around them,scary movies,some words that I feel should not be used around them.
Discipline and what actions call for it while some others may not need a punishment but a stern no.
What she eats鈥?although it鈥檚 not so much an argument, more of a difference in opinions. However, we come to a consensus 9 times out of 10, and we鈥檙e all happy.
discipline i have a 1 year old and just had twins yesterday =] but sometimes i think he's a little harsh it's like he expects her to know all these things when she's only one ya know