Would you forgive your spouse if they confessed to an affair and were genuinely sorry and regretful for it?

Why or why not?








I am not in this situation, this is just a surveyWould you forgive your spouse if they confessed to an affair and were genuinely sorry and regretful for it?
I would and I did. I love her, and while I was somewhat hurt, her behavior didn't change my love for her a bit. It's the same reason you don't abandon your child when they lie to you or betray you in some way.





As it turned out, forgiving her was one of the best moves I ever made. I completely understood why she felt the need to seek human comfort elsewhere, and I was to blame, in good measure. I took steps to ensure that I wouldn't put her in that same position again, and we've been together for 18 years since then, and I'm very happy I stuck with her.Would you forgive your spouse if they confessed to an affair and were genuinely sorry and regretful for it?
hmm... well... they could be sorry all they want, but they need to be willing to be honest and recognize what made them stray in the first place. Forgiveness is only the first step... but its fixing what went wrong and figuring out why they strayed that will fix the real problem.





Forgiving is almost like just putting a bandaid on the situation... but you need to get to the real issue of WHY it happened. Is there something they are missing from the relationship?


something they aren't willing to give to the marriage?


big thing is... why did they do it and is it something that we can fix together... thats the only reason I would stay.
In past relationships, not marriage, when this has happened, I could not forgive or forget. Once the trust was broken, it was over.





Im my marriage, I don't think I will need to worry about that issue. But, if an alien stole my wife and replaced her with a cheater, I doubt I could get over it. I may be able to forgive her eventually, but I think it would end the marriage.
Yes. But you won't forget. That level of trust and closeness you once had has been reduced and will very likely never regain those heights again.





They have to offer how they will make it up and prove their fidelity.Their actions have to be atoned for in a caring and compassionate way.





Look at yourselves in a mirror and work on improving your relationship by embarking on a lifelong committment to achieve that goal. Start by removing obstacles like drinking, porn, gambling, resolving differences, financial crisis... anything you can identify which is an obstacle to a great marriage.





Do your best to grieve it and leave it.
There are a lot of circumstances bit for the most part I wouldnt be willing to throw away my marriage because of a bad decision on his part.





We would definately have to work on some trust issues and what made him decide to do this but yes I believe we could move forward





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If it was a one-time thing, MAYBE.





If it was a full-fledged affair he carried on for weeks or months or years, then no. That means he was living a full-on double life. I'd rather not live the rest of my marriage wondering if he'll do it again.
I don't know since I've never been in the situation.


You have to forgive but then you also have to forget.


That's the part I'm not sure I'd ever be able to do.


I know people make mistakes though so I'd try to.
Absolutely, if I loved him, and he was genuinely sorry and would be willing to change and rebuild the trust.
to be honest i dont know what i would do in that situation. i know i would feel hurt and betrayed. i hope i never have to go through that.
No, because it would always be in the back of my mind whenever he touched me.
Just a survey?? Right. Been there done that and left that. It is called trust. Once you loose that you don't get it back.
Before I take he/she back they would have to prove to me that they are willing to be faithful
Only once.
I would. I don't really know why, I just would be


understanding of this type of thing.


Although we may not do anything sexual together for a season....
I would, and have. Had the same done for me as well
yes, especially if there were children involved, and if we could go to counseling,
no
I couldn't. My exwife had an affair, and even if she hadn't have left, I could not have gotten past it. It's a trust thing
Sure. We are all human after all.