I was just curious.Vegetarians/Vegans: Is your spouse/fiance/boy-girlfriend a veg as well?
My boyfriend isn't!
He LOVES his meat!
He eats every type of meat under the sun!
BUT he knows the rules:
a) Don't eat it in front of me or put it near my food.
b) If he wants to kiss he better brush his teethVegetarians/Vegans: Is your spouse/fiance/boy-girlfriend a veg as well?
My boyfriend isn't, but he eats vegetarian/vegan whenever I'm around. He knows how I feel about it, and I know I can't force anyone to make a decision when they're not ready.
I'm not gonna lie though, I'm totally hoping for the veg thing, eventually =D
My boyfriend is vegetarian, like me. He wasn't when we met, but became vegetarian a couple of years into our relationship, after witnessing a highway incident involving ducks heading to slaughter.
My girlfriend isn't a veggie (yet) but she only has meat a few times a week and that's usually chicken. She eats food like Morningstar and Amy's a lot.
single :( but i wood prefer a veg. bf. Or a meat eater that would change to a veg 4 me! that wood b sweet!
I'm single but my last girlfriend wasn't a vegetarian or veg@n.
My partner is vegan and I'm an ovo-vegetarian.
no but he eats a lot of my tofu, fake meat etc and likes it, which is nice
i'm single at the mo, but i want a veggie bf.
Thursday, July 29, 2010
Do you have a very special friend or acquaintance outside of spouse or family members that you especially?
admire for their personality and integrity?
Would you like to share just what ';personality characteristic'; it is that makes them stand above all the other friends and acquaintances that you love as well.Do you have a very special friend or acquaintance outside of spouse or family members that you especially?
I have a friend in Baltimore,Md. who is the most
Godly person that I know.
She will take homeless women with or without children
and have them live in her home.
She began the prison, shelter, and women's ministries.
She began a mentoring program for at-risk youth.
She is a single parent, and now a grandmother.
She works full time, but still finds time to tend to the ';unchurched';.
Every morning, she wakes up at 4:30 , and for at least one hour,
She prays prayers of intercession, and spiritual warfare.
I met her while in a homeless shelter in Baltimore, Md.
Six weeks later, I was staying at her house.
Through her, I had the pleasure of seeing love lived before me;
For the first time in my life, I saw what love was .
Because of God using her, I was able to make peace with
My abusive past I was able to forgive my mother for the abuse:
Emotionally,physically, spiritually, verbally, and sexually.
Through this Godly woman, I was able to be delivered from the horrors
And nightmares of my childhood. I was able to forgive;
And in doing so, I gained my sanity, my life, sobriety, and love.
Love and forgiveness for my abuser, and myself,
I have learned how to love God, myself, and my friends and family.
God used this woman, and I am alive and grateful, and better for her.
Her friends and family call her Bessie; I call her an answer to prayer.
Excellent question. Thanks. God Bless You.Do you have a very special friend or acquaintance outside of spouse or family members that you especially?
I especially admire my friend who is a young mother of 2 very young, difficult, deaf children. (They have implants that have allowed them to hear since they were a year old.) I know she has a difficult life, %26amp; yet she typically puts forth a cheerful, encouraging demeanor. On top of the fact that she is so sweet %26amp; uplifting, she is absolutely about the most beautiful lady I know, but she is not stuck on that at all. She is very down-to-earth %26amp; perhaps doesn't even realize how gorgeous she is. When she sees anyone, she wants to know how they are -- I mean *really* are. She listens with interest and encouragement in all you have to say.
Although I meet people very easily and tend to be highly personable I don't really have a lot of close friends, but a lot of close acquaintances instead for I place friendship on a much higher level. Through YA I have developed a friendship with another member and one with whom I correspond almost daily and have been for about two years now. I have found her to meet my every expectation as such a friend for she is consistent in being exactly who she says she is with no pretense, no attitude, is spiritually and politically connected to core values, and is always willing to discuss any matter. It should go without saying that she is intelligent, imaginative, creative, and all the other attributes that I find attractive in any friend. We have not met, have no such plans, and probably never will, but just knowing that there's a person like her makes me happy because she, to me, is what a friend should be.
I have a fairly new and very dear friend that I met here on Y/A R%26amp;S. We may have known each other for two or three weeks when my husband was assaulted in the parking lot of our building. My husband works strictly on commission. So when he doesn't work he doesn't get paid. When we were talking one day, I mentioned to her that I didn't know how we were going to pay for our mortgage. Without hesitation she asked me how much I needed. I told her that if I had $500 it would help to get it paid. She offered to send me the money and I kept refusing because I didn't know how long it would be before I would be able to pay her back. She said, ';Did I ask you to pay me back?'; I told her the only way I would accept it would be with the understanding it would be a loan. She sent me the money and I have since paid her back but her generosity has melded our hearts together.
My husband was out of work for a little over 4 months. He sustained a concussion and permanent inner ear damage which causes his equilibrium to be off even with all the physical therapy. This happened in October, 2008 and our friendship has grown by leaps and bounds since.
I praise God for bringing her into my life. I've discovered so much about her. Besides being a ';cheerful giver'; she's very intelligent, caring, loving, and has a quirky sense of humor like mine. She loves the Lord and shows it by her deeds to others. There is so much I could share with you about her but I think she would be embarrassed by all the accolades. I guess what I'm trying to say is we have become soul mates and I love her dearly. She's the sister I never had. I love you, Molly.
I ';met'; this person on YA a long time ago. This person has a wonderful sense of humor that gets my sense of humor going! He also has a lot of plain old common sense, is highly intelligent, and very compassionate. I guess I have to say that no local friends have all of this, rolled into one neat package !
I can't say I would single out any one person as someone I would describe like that.
I admire everyone I know, because they all have some special gift or strength that sets them apart from everyone else. Every personality has something truly great about it.
Peace
Yes, the man and woman in charge of the prayer team at my church are people of marvelous integrity and strength in the Lord and I can't help but admire them greatly!
I've been let down by two such people in my life. I'm not sure I'll ever feel that way about anyone again.
Would you like to share just what ';personality characteristic'; it is that makes them stand above all the other friends and acquaintances that you love as well.Do you have a very special friend or acquaintance outside of spouse or family members that you especially?
I have a friend in Baltimore,Md. who is the most
Godly person that I know.
She will take homeless women with or without children
and have them live in her home.
She began the prison, shelter, and women's ministries.
She began a mentoring program for at-risk youth.
She is a single parent, and now a grandmother.
She works full time, but still finds time to tend to the ';unchurched';.
Every morning, she wakes up at 4:30 , and for at least one hour,
She prays prayers of intercession, and spiritual warfare.
I met her while in a homeless shelter in Baltimore, Md.
Six weeks later, I was staying at her house.
Through her, I had the pleasure of seeing love lived before me;
For the first time in my life, I saw what love was .
Because of God using her, I was able to make peace with
My abusive past I was able to forgive my mother for the abuse:
Emotionally,physically, spiritually, verbally, and sexually.
Through this Godly woman, I was able to be delivered from the horrors
And nightmares of my childhood. I was able to forgive;
And in doing so, I gained my sanity, my life, sobriety, and love.
Love and forgiveness for my abuser, and myself,
I have learned how to love God, myself, and my friends and family.
God used this woman, and I am alive and grateful, and better for her.
Her friends and family call her Bessie; I call her an answer to prayer.
Excellent question. Thanks. God Bless You.Do you have a very special friend or acquaintance outside of spouse or family members that you especially?
I especially admire my friend who is a young mother of 2 very young, difficult, deaf children. (They have implants that have allowed them to hear since they were a year old.) I know she has a difficult life, %26amp; yet she typically puts forth a cheerful, encouraging demeanor. On top of the fact that she is so sweet %26amp; uplifting, she is absolutely about the most beautiful lady I know, but she is not stuck on that at all. She is very down-to-earth %26amp; perhaps doesn't even realize how gorgeous she is. When she sees anyone, she wants to know how they are -- I mean *really* are. She listens with interest and encouragement in all you have to say.
Although I meet people very easily and tend to be highly personable I don't really have a lot of close friends, but a lot of close acquaintances instead for I place friendship on a much higher level. Through YA I have developed a friendship with another member and one with whom I correspond almost daily and have been for about two years now. I have found her to meet my every expectation as such a friend for she is consistent in being exactly who she says she is with no pretense, no attitude, is spiritually and politically connected to core values, and is always willing to discuss any matter. It should go without saying that she is intelligent, imaginative, creative, and all the other attributes that I find attractive in any friend. We have not met, have no such plans, and probably never will, but just knowing that there's a person like her makes me happy because she, to me, is what a friend should be.
I have a fairly new and very dear friend that I met here on Y/A R%26amp;S. We may have known each other for two or three weeks when my husband was assaulted in the parking lot of our building. My husband works strictly on commission. So when he doesn't work he doesn't get paid. When we were talking one day, I mentioned to her that I didn't know how we were going to pay for our mortgage. Without hesitation she asked me how much I needed. I told her that if I had $500 it would help to get it paid. She offered to send me the money and I kept refusing because I didn't know how long it would be before I would be able to pay her back. She said, ';Did I ask you to pay me back?'; I told her the only way I would accept it would be with the understanding it would be a loan. She sent me the money and I have since paid her back but her generosity has melded our hearts together.
My husband was out of work for a little over 4 months. He sustained a concussion and permanent inner ear damage which causes his equilibrium to be off even with all the physical therapy. This happened in October, 2008 and our friendship has grown by leaps and bounds since.
I praise God for bringing her into my life. I've discovered so much about her. Besides being a ';cheerful giver'; she's very intelligent, caring, loving, and has a quirky sense of humor like mine. She loves the Lord and shows it by her deeds to others. There is so much I could share with you about her but I think she would be embarrassed by all the accolades. I guess what I'm trying to say is we have become soul mates and I love her dearly. She's the sister I never had. I love you, Molly.
I ';met'; this person on YA a long time ago. This person has a wonderful sense of humor that gets my sense of humor going! He also has a lot of plain old common sense, is highly intelligent, and very compassionate. I guess I have to say that no local friends have all of this, rolled into one neat package !
I can't say I would single out any one person as someone I would describe like that.
I admire everyone I know, because they all have some special gift or strength that sets them apart from everyone else. Every personality has something truly great about it.
Peace
Yes, the man and woman in charge of the prayer team at my church are people of marvelous integrity and strength in the Lord and I can't help but admire them greatly!
I've been let down by two such people in my life. I'm not sure I'll ever feel that way about anyone again.
Do you think a couple can be happy together after one spouse cheated ? Does having children affect the outcome?
This is a topic that came at my girl's-night supper tonight. Seems that opinions have really changed since we all started having kids. Before, most everyone said a resounding NO. Now that there are children, seems like at least part of them would make an extra effort to stay together.
What do you think ?Do you think a couple can be happy together after one spouse cheated ? Does having children affect the outcome?
My BIL had an affair - he used to work in the mines and only come home for a week out of the month. They have 2 children, a 5 year old and a 1 year old, and she took him back for the sake of the kids. It has been 6m since it happened, and their relationship is terrible - they rarely talk, when they do they fight, and the affair is ALWAYS brought up when they are arguing. Its like the old saying, you can forgive but you can't forget, and when you can't forget - well it's over.
It was really sad when it all happened and my partner asked his nephew what was wrong because he wasn't talking and he said ';Daddy has a new girlfriend'; - it broke my heart, and my partner and I made a vow to each other there and then that we could NEVER do that to each other - we saw first hand how devastating it is for a family and how much life changes.
ETA: My SIL was convinced that her partner would never cheat on her, they had been together 10 years with 2 kids. She said that if he did, she would leave him in a flash. It wasn't until she saw all the text messages that she actually believed it, and I can say it only took her 2 days to work out that she wanted to stay with him. She totally went back on her word, but I could see why ...
When your partner cheats, it is something so out of your control. You need to decide if you are willing to throw your life away, as you know it, because of what someone else has done.
Because her partner slept with someone else, should she have to become a single mother, sell her home, move interstate, raise her children without a father whose there all the time? Thats basically what it comes down to. Its not your fault, but its YOUR life they are playing with.
Its definately a tough oneDo you think a couple can be happy together after one spouse cheated ? Does having children affect the outcome?
I think it really depends on the situation. If the cheating has occurred over a period of time and the cheating spouse does it behind your back with the plotting and secret meetings and such, that's not forgivable at all.
If it was a one-time fling in the peak of frustration and anger (ie: after a fight, maybe) and the cheating spouse admitted to it, then that is probably forgivable, but if it happened again, then the second time would be the end of the relationship.
Children don't even come into the mix. I strongly believe that ';staying together for the sake of the child'; is a very, very bad idea because children can tell if you have a rocky relationship with your spouse, and what's more, they base all their future relationships on their parents.
Well if it was one time, I think I would stay with him, but it would take along time for me to trust him again, and until then anything could happen (like we would probably fight all the time and I would constantly use it against him and that could cause us to split)
If he did it a second time that would be it...
Having said that, I can't imagine my life without him, if it did actually happen, i don't know if I would still feel like that.
Years ago i would have said dump him but now that i am older i like to think that i am just a bit wiser. of course there will be trust issue and a world of pain but if the marriage was good before it can be again get some christian counseling call your church if you don't have one find a Bible believing church they can help this to can be healed life is to hard to go it alone but it will take a lot of hard work from both to make it work and if you have kids it's so much better to keep things together they did not ask for this so give it a try
I think no, the fact that they cheated will forever haunt you and no matter who you are you will have a lot of trust issues which are key to a relationship, when there are kids involved its worse not only did he cheat on you but your family as well, he picked his one night drunk stand over his family and his familys sanity. Honestly Id dump him like a rock thats if I let him live.
If it was a one time thing, I could get over it. I would never tell my husband that - no need to give him a free pass =P - but I love him to death. I don't think he would ever cheat on me (obviously - I wouldn't have married him otherwise) but I do think that people do stupid things sometimes and that I would be able to really forgive him if he wanted to make things right and still wanted to be with me. I felt the same before we had a child together as well.
I couldn't stay with him.
Knowing my husband, he would hate himself too much afterwards, and realize what he did wrong, and actually leave custody of the kids to me. I wouldn't want him around in our lives anyway if he did this. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
Yes a couple can be happy.. but you really have to forgive the cheater and sometimes its hard to forget... you'll always be scared they'll do it again.. but if they really love you and forgive you its possible.. that trust will just have to be re-gained. and of course having a kid affects the outcome!
My good friend just found out her common law hubby is cheating. They have a 1 year old daughter and another on the way and she's staying with him because she's scared of doing it alone.
If it was my husband, i'd throw him a great big going away party - also known as a funeral. Well maybe not, but i'd change the locks.
Mistakes happen, we're only human after all. If it was a one-time thing, I think I would be far more willing to forgive than if it were an on-going relationship. I love my husband and at the end of the day, I know he loves me. So, yes I would go to counseling and give it another chance. But after that, I'd be out the door and on my own with my son if it happened again.
I think with a lot of work the right couple can overcome it. If it was a one night thing and not an actual affair where there had been feelings and attachment it would be possible to work it out. I would definitely not be as quick to walk now that we have a little one.
I personally couldn't. I am the only woman my husband has been with and I plan on keeping it that way. If he was with another woman I would never be able to be with him again. I would just think back of him with her or constantly remember this and the jealousy/anger would never end.
I think no because it will always be in the back of you're head and will always spark arguments and always come up. Its possible to forgive but believe me they will never forget. The kids nake it worse too because a man may question whether they are his.
I think they could try and I think some could be successful at it, but I don't think I'd be one of those people.
Cheating is the ultimate betrayal of trust. I wouldn't be able to get it out of my head and our relationship would suffer more because of it.
I also think that cheating is often a symptom of a larger problem and sometimes those can't be fixed.
I admire those that can work through something like that, but I know myself well enough to know that I couldn't. I love my husband and I think my daughter deserves to be raised by us as a married couple, but if he strayed I'd have to leave him. I'd expect him to do the same if the situation were reversed.eyeliner cosmetics
What do you think ?Do you think a couple can be happy together after one spouse cheated ? Does having children affect the outcome?
My BIL had an affair - he used to work in the mines and only come home for a week out of the month. They have 2 children, a 5 year old and a 1 year old, and she took him back for the sake of the kids. It has been 6m since it happened, and their relationship is terrible - they rarely talk, when they do they fight, and the affair is ALWAYS brought up when they are arguing. Its like the old saying, you can forgive but you can't forget, and when you can't forget - well it's over.
It was really sad when it all happened and my partner asked his nephew what was wrong because he wasn't talking and he said ';Daddy has a new girlfriend'; - it broke my heart, and my partner and I made a vow to each other there and then that we could NEVER do that to each other - we saw first hand how devastating it is for a family and how much life changes.
ETA: My SIL was convinced that her partner would never cheat on her, they had been together 10 years with 2 kids. She said that if he did, she would leave him in a flash. It wasn't until she saw all the text messages that she actually believed it, and I can say it only took her 2 days to work out that she wanted to stay with him. She totally went back on her word, but I could see why ...
When your partner cheats, it is something so out of your control. You need to decide if you are willing to throw your life away, as you know it, because of what someone else has done.
Because her partner slept with someone else, should she have to become a single mother, sell her home, move interstate, raise her children without a father whose there all the time? Thats basically what it comes down to. Its not your fault, but its YOUR life they are playing with.
Its definately a tough oneDo you think a couple can be happy together after one spouse cheated ? Does having children affect the outcome?
I think it really depends on the situation. If the cheating has occurred over a period of time and the cheating spouse does it behind your back with the plotting and secret meetings and such, that's not forgivable at all.
If it was a one-time fling in the peak of frustration and anger (ie: after a fight, maybe) and the cheating spouse admitted to it, then that is probably forgivable, but if it happened again, then the second time would be the end of the relationship.
Children don't even come into the mix. I strongly believe that ';staying together for the sake of the child'; is a very, very bad idea because children can tell if you have a rocky relationship with your spouse, and what's more, they base all their future relationships on their parents.
Well if it was one time, I think I would stay with him, but it would take along time for me to trust him again, and until then anything could happen (like we would probably fight all the time and I would constantly use it against him and that could cause us to split)
If he did it a second time that would be it...
Having said that, I can't imagine my life without him, if it did actually happen, i don't know if I would still feel like that.
Years ago i would have said dump him but now that i am older i like to think that i am just a bit wiser. of course there will be trust issue and a world of pain but if the marriage was good before it can be again get some christian counseling call your church if you don't have one find a Bible believing church they can help this to can be healed life is to hard to go it alone but it will take a lot of hard work from both to make it work and if you have kids it's so much better to keep things together they did not ask for this so give it a try
I think no, the fact that they cheated will forever haunt you and no matter who you are you will have a lot of trust issues which are key to a relationship, when there are kids involved its worse not only did he cheat on you but your family as well, he picked his one night drunk stand over his family and his familys sanity. Honestly Id dump him like a rock thats if I let him live.
If it was a one time thing, I could get over it. I would never tell my husband that - no need to give him a free pass =P - but I love him to death. I don't think he would ever cheat on me (obviously - I wouldn't have married him otherwise) but I do think that people do stupid things sometimes and that I would be able to really forgive him if he wanted to make things right and still wanted to be with me. I felt the same before we had a child together as well.
I couldn't stay with him.
Knowing my husband, he would hate himself too much afterwards, and realize what he did wrong, and actually leave custody of the kids to me. I wouldn't want him around in our lives anyway if he did this. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
Yes a couple can be happy.. but you really have to forgive the cheater and sometimes its hard to forget... you'll always be scared they'll do it again.. but if they really love you and forgive you its possible.. that trust will just have to be re-gained. and of course having a kid affects the outcome!
My good friend just found out her common law hubby is cheating. They have a 1 year old daughter and another on the way and she's staying with him because she's scared of doing it alone.
If it was my husband, i'd throw him a great big going away party - also known as a funeral. Well maybe not, but i'd change the locks.
Mistakes happen, we're only human after all. If it was a one-time thing, I think I would be far more willing to forgive than if it were an on-going relationship. I love my husband and at the end of the day, I know he loves me. So, yes I would go to counseling and give it another chance. But after that, I'd be out the door and on my own with my son if it happened again.
I think with a lot of work the right couple can overcome it. If it was a one night thing and not an actual affair where there had been feelings and attachment it would be possible to work it out. I would definitely not be as quick to walk now that we have a little one.
I personally couldn't. I am the only woman my husband has been with and I plan on keeping it that way. If he was with another woman I would never be able to be with him again. I would just think back of him with her or constantly remember this and the jealousy/anger would never end.
I think no because it will always be in the back of you're head and will always spark arguments and always come up. Its possible to forgive but believe me they will never forget. The kids nake it worse too because a man may question whether they are his.
I think they could try and I think some could be successful at it, but I don't think I'd be one of those people.
Cheating is the ultimate betrayal of trust. I wouldn't be able to get it out of my head and our relationship would suffer more because of it.
I also think that cheating is often a symptom of a larger problem and sometimes those can't be fixed.
I admire those that can work through something like that, but I know myself well enough to know that I couldn't. I love my husband and I think my daughter deserves to be raised by us as a married couple, but if he strayed I'd have to leave him. I'd expect him to do the same if the situation were reversed.
Would you forgive your spouse if they confessed to an affair and were genuinely sorry and regretful for it?
Why or why not?
I am not in this situation, this is just a surveyWould you forgive your spouse if they confessed to an affair and were genuinely sorry and regretful for it?
yes, if I loved themWould you forgive your spouse if they confessed to an affair and were genuinely sorry and regretful for it?
If they did it once, chances are they'd do it again. Especially if I forgive them.
yes, but i wouldn't fully trust them again
Yes
but it's still over.
I am not in this situation, this is just a surveyWould you forgive your spouse if they confessed to an affair and were genuinely sorry and regretful for it?
yes, if I loved themWould you forgive your spouse if they confessed to an affair and were genuinely sorry and regretful for it?
If they did it once, chances are they'd do it again. Especially if I forgive them.
yes, but i wouldn't fully trust them again
Yes
but it's still over.
What are some military-spouse friendly careers?
I have a bachelors degree in anthropology, which is difficult to find a job in even without the added difficulty of moving every 2-3 years. I want to start on my masters degree but want to get something that I will be mobile as my hubbie still has at least 12 years left in the marines.What are some military-spouse friendly careers?
Since I work in military personnel. I will recommend human resource management if you want to find a job on the installation where your husband is station. I pays quiet well and not too hard to learn. However, a nursing program seem to have a bright future and pays more than most of the other career field but it is a challenging one.
Since I work in military personnel. I will recommend human resource management if you want to find a job on the installation where your husband is station. I pays quiet well and not too hard to learn. However, a nursing program seem to have a bright future and pays more than most of the other career field but it is a challenging one.
Can a person's spouse keep family members from getting information about someone in the hospital?
I have an aunt how is in the hospital she's is coming around now, but before, she was unconsicous for about a week. Her husband visited on the first few days, but now isn't visiting at all. My grandma (her mother) is getting there everyday even though it is an hour away from where we live. My family keeps trying to get him to visit (she is asking where he is) but they are worried that he may tell them not to give us any info about her. Would he be able to do this even though it has been my grandmother signing consent forms and going up there everyday?Can a person's spouse keep family members from getting information about someone in the hospital?
I'm not sure if he could do that, but at the hospital I work at all patients are assigned a passcode when they're admitted. This passcode is given to any family members who are with the patient when they are admitted. They are told that in order to get any kind of information as to the patient's status they must give the nurse the passcode in order to to be told about their condition. Your grandmother should have something similar to this and give it to all the family members, if the hospital she is staying at is too far away.Can a person's spouse keep family members from getting information about someone in the hospital?
A spouse must inform other direct relatives about the status and other pertinent information of the other spouse that is unconcious in a hospital. Otherwise, file a special civil action court to order the other spouse for support and appearance before the relatives.
Some hospitals will use their discretion in matter such as this. Yes legally, only the spouse or the nominated next of kin can receive information, however if it is made clear that they are not the best person for that, the family may speak to the hospital. Don't get your hopes up, they will most likely say no, but they are generally in business for the patient, so whatever is best for them. Simply asking will not cost anything.
I'm not sure if he could do that, but at the hospital I work at all patients are assigned a passcode when they're admitted. This passcode is given to any family members who are with the patient when they are admitted. They are told that in order to get any kind of information as to the patient's status they must give the nurse the passcode in order to to be told about their condition. Your grandmother should have something similar to this and give it to all the family members, if the hospital she is staying at is too far away.Can a person's spouse keep family members from getting information about someone in the hospital?
A spouse must inform other direct relatives about the status and other pertinent information of the other spouse that is unconcious in a hospital. Otherwise, file a special civil action court to order the other spouse for support and appearance before the relatives.
Some hospitals will use their discretion in matter such as this. Yes legally, only the spouse or the nominated next of kin can receive information, however if it is made clear that they are not the best person for that, the family may speak to the hospital. Don't get your hopes up, they will most likely say no, but they are generally in business for the patient, so whatever is best for them. Simply asking will not cost anything.
What happens if your spouse or boyfriend breaks all your things?
just leave, this generally means it is the end.
it would not be worth the effort.
item can be replaced.What happens if your spouse or boyfriend breaks all your things?
Then your relationship is broken like his feelings for you.
Why stay with someone who can't respect you or your stuff?
Is love really worth sacrificing so much?
Seriously, he isn't worth your life.
Stay away from him and get help for your own safety,
or he will hurt you by doing more damage to you and then leaving himself! Spare yourself the pain. Get him under control!What happens if your spouse or boyfriend breaks all your things?
If or DID.
If as in not yet just a question, many options as to inventory and value and then file a report of loss for damages.
DID: File an arrest report as damage to your personal property.
I have to agree with ';identity'; - if it's over, then lesson learned. If you go back, then you're giving him permission to act that way and it's going to happen again and again.
Pray and ask God for guidance and help,then call the police and think about getting a restraining order.No one should have to put up with that.
I recommend breaking all their things in retaliation.. Remember, one wrong deserves another.. I think thats how that goes..
call the police and maybe you can have half of his things. Thats what i did to kyle that one time...
You call the police and then you go to a shelter and get yourself out of that relationship before your end up broken.
You need to have him arrested for vandalism and then get to work with the glue and bailing wire.
sound like a child.find a more mature person to share your things with.
They get a boot in their ***
you will need a LOT of glue??
it would not be worth the effort.
item can be replaced.What happens if your spouse or boyfriend breaks all your things?
Then your relationship is broken like his feelings for you.
Why stay with someone who can't respect you or your stuff?
Is love really worth sacrificing so much?
Seriously, he isn't worth your life.
Stay away from him and get help for your own safety,
or he will hurt you by doing more damage to you and then leaving himself! Spare yourself the pain. Get him under control!What happens if your spouse or boyfriend breaks all your things?
If or DID.
If as in not yet just a question, many options as to inventory and value and then file a report of loss for damages.
DID: File an arrest report as damage to your personal property.
I have to agree with ';identity'; - if it's over, then lesson learned. If you go back, then you're giving him permission to act that way and it's going to happen again and again.
Pray and ask God for guidance and help,then call the police and think about getting a restraining order.No one should have to put up with that.
I recommend breaking all their things in retaliation.. Remember, one wrong deserves another.. I think thats how that goes..
call the police and maybe you can have half of his things. Thats what i did to kyle that one time...
You call the police and then you go to a shelter and get yourself out of that relationship before your end up broken.
You need to have him arrested for vandalism and then get to work with the glue and bailing wire.
sound like a child.find a more mature person to share your things with.
They get a boot in their ***
you will need a LOT of glue??
Do you consider your spouse to be family?
While your spouse may not be a personal family member, but do you consider them family anyway?
Can couples with no kids be considered family? Could it be classified as a 2-person family?Do you consider your spouse to be family?
Of course I do!
My husband and I dont have kids and I consider us a family.Do you consider your spouse to be family?
Yes family can be family if bound by blood or not.
My husband is most certainly part of our family... he is in fact a personal family member since he and I are married, we have had children together and he has been through everything with us.
Before we had children we were also family, both a 2 person family and part of a larger family unit which includes my parents.
It has as much to do with state of mind as it does the belief of the individuals in that family.
Yes, your spouse is part of your family no matter what. You do not have to have kids to consider you %26amp; your other half part of your family.
Of course , when u married your spouse u two became a family regardless of children or anything else... The spouse and u should come first and foremost before anyother members of either family...
Most definitely. They are considered ';your other half';....a part of ';you';. Every family tree began with two people.
i consider me and my husband to be a family and its just us and the puppy.
Of course! When you marry, you become family.
yes they are your family.
yes. what else would they be?
Can couples with no kids be considered family? Could it be classified as a 2-person family?Do you consider your spouse to be family?
Of course I do!
My husband and I dont have kids and I consider us a family.Do you consider your spouse to be family?
Yes family can be family if bound by blood or not.
My husband is most certainly part of our family... he is in fact a personal family member since he and I are married, we have had children together and he has been through everything with us.
Before we had children we were also family, both a 2 person family and part of a larger family unit which includes my parents.
It has as much to do with state of mind as it does the belief of the individuals in that family.
Yes, your spouse is part of your family no matter what. You do not have to have kids to consider you %26amp; your other half part of your family.
Of course , when u married your spouse u two became a family regardless of children or anything else... The spouse and u should come first and foremost before anyother members of either family...
Most definitely. They are considered ';your other half';....a part of ';you';. Every family tree began with two people.
i consider me and my husband to be a family and its just us and the puppy.
Of course! When you marry, you become family.
yes they are your family.
yes. what else would they be?
Has you and your spouse made a decision not to go for health care due to the expense unless you think that you?
are in a life threatening situation? Many here in northeastern Montana are saying that they aren't going to the Doctor unless they think that they are dying. Have you and your spouse talked about this?Has you and your spouse made a decision not to go for health care due to the expense unless you think that you?
The cost to see a doc in our state - if you do not have health ins - is about 95 to 120 per visit. This does not include blood work, urine samples, or any other screenings you may need. That is just to walk in the door and speak to him! Emergency room visit 1 hr is 500.
If you have ins co pays run from $10 to $30 and hospital $100. It costs us (out of my husbands check) 129 a wk to have it. Doctor, Hospital, and Dental (that doesn't cover much to start with). Then you have to find a doctor that is in your coverage list.
The cost for malpractice insurance for one doctor is about $20000 a yr to $100,000 a yr, depending on his type of work. Then you have his staff, nurses, and office expenses including rent, utilities and such. This is why you will see ';partners'; now more so than individual doctors offices now. Then the charges for disposable equipment - they buy in bulk - are sent to your insurance company at the cost of a full gross box such as exam gloves, needles, syringes, alcohol swabs, qtips, down to the toilet paper. I saw a breakdown of one of my visits (I asked them to itemize by bill they were sending to my insurance company and it was crazy! A syringe for a shot, alcohol packet, exam gloves, and a band aid was $80! That didn't include the med (2 cc's of an antibiotic which if bought by pill would cost $2) was $25. I researched the cost of a case of exam gloves with 200 per box ran $2.10 per box by case, per item 2 cents. Bought at pharmacy was $3.85 per box. 10 cc syringe per gross was $42. Per item is .25 cents. Needles sold by specific size individually wrapped per 50 was $38, per item .76. Box of Hello Kitty band aids was $1.89 at store, gross would be about .75 per box, 3cents a strip. Cost to doctor approximately $2.!
I sent an accompanying letter with the itemized bill - which I sent to insurance AND the doctors office - and the doctors office reduced their ';expenses'; bill by 42%! The insurance company sent me a thank you letter and also said they wished more people would do this. It would help keep insurance costs down.
I have quit going to the doctor unless absolutely necessary. Even with my kids. I don't remember, when I was a kid, going to the doctor every time I had the flu or the sniffles and I survived. If a flu lasts more than 6 days or a cold is a re occuring thing over a 30 day period then yes it is time to get a thorough exam, but anything else would be a waste of money and time. These doctors and pharmaceutical companies prey on our minds and fears to sell their services and products. Are we that ignorant and paranoid over the little things now? Seriously, if you have a mole that itches or grows in size and has never done so then yes, see a doctor. If you get reoccuring headaches you can do the same thing they do, write down what you have done in the past week, what you have eaten (maybe something different or new), how much water or fluids you have taken in or the lack of, and any meds that you have used or scripts that have been changed in the past 90 days. If you see a reoccuring pattern, then cut it out of your life for a while or call your doctor about a prescription reaction. If that doesn't work THEN see a doctor. Common sense and knowing your body is a big reason to pay attention to yourself instead of relying on these doctors and such. They are not miracle workers, they are not always positive about your current problems, and most times use us as a guinie pig for ';samples'; of meds that may cause more harm than good. If we can control the insurance companies and help keep costs down as well as the costs to doctors, the healthcare system would be easier to deal with. But, as long as we listen to their schpeil over ';New strains of virus''; ';New miracle drugs that can - so called - cure it'; and end up hypochodriacs over them, then nothing will change. I like the way Canada handles their healthcare. Monitoring, yearly audits, insurance caps and expense caps for doctors, and approval of alternative medicines and treatments, all covered by the government. Even insurance companies are managed and checked by their government. If over 40 countries can do it then why can't we?
Sorry, it touches a nerve in my brain that makes me drag out my soap box. I will put it away for now. lol
BlessingsHas you and your spouse made a decision not to go for health care due to the expense unless you think that you?
I sometimes skip the doctor for little things like a cold and even for mild sinus infections/head colds or sore throats. I have really good insurance too, so it's not even a issue of money. But, if I'm able to go to work, I'm able to function. So, I often skip the doctor, unless I feel like I'm serverly contagious or that my illness is going to effect my overall productivity at work or in my everday life.
I would never skip the doctor for routine screens and check-ups though. You just never know what's going on in your body. My father had cancer at 53 and we never saw it coming. Thank God, it was detected early and was treated.
In the end, skipping for that type of stuff, might end up costing you more money, if you become extremely sick and need to be treated.
Once, in college, I didn't have the money to go to the eye doctor and I had pink eye. Well, it ended up getting really, really bad. I couldn't go to work and I couldn't open my eyes for 2 days, there were so swollen and pink, they were closed shut! I did it because I didn't have the money.
Looking back, I should have known better. I ended up missing almost 4 days of work (and I was paid by the hour at the time) and I fell behind. If I had gone to the doctor, I could have been treated early and maybe only missed one day. So, sometimes, the cost is worth it in the end. Not to mention, it took almost 3 weeks for the redness and swelling to subside. I had to walk around in public looking like I had a disease.
I know money is tight. But, don't wait to the last possible second to visit a doctor. It often makes the situation worse, in terms of money and health.
Listen to your body, never ignore the signs! Best of Luck!
Before I got married, I went to a place called Crusader Clinic. It was for people who had no health insurance. A doctor visit was $20 , and they had a pharmacy in the office where you could sign up for programs through the companies that made the drugs, you had to show proof of your income, and if you qualified, you could get the drugs for $5 or for free and you had to do this every year. I have diabeties and high cholesterol due to that. After I got married, my husband made too much money to qualify, so my prescriptions went from $5 to $30 . He has crappy insurance. Since I'm not working right now, I have had to miss out on meds due to other bills having to be paid. Well, Feb 1st, his company changed policies(We were notified only a month in advance). We have to pay $1,000 out of pocket and then the rest of the year we don't pay any money for anything, that includes meds, doctor, hospital, tests, you name it. Sounds good right? Not really! My meds alone cost $700 a month with out insurance, it was only $150 before with the old policy and we couldn't afford that! I swear, I am going to have a stroke or a heart attack before I reach that thousand dollar deductible! I think that the government needs to let people who have serious diseases like I do who can not afford the medication be able to get a medical card. It is not fair, nobody asks to have these illnesses!
My husband and i have never had health care because we cant afford it and ONLY go to a dr or to the emergency room if is a serious health problem.
My husband works full-time and has been at the same job for a little over 12 yrs but his job doesn't offer health insurance.
We are low-income and maybe could get some kind of health insurance but we have never looked into.
Were I live you can go and see the doctor ever day if you need to, for we do not pay for there services and this is in Canada in the north west territories . We pay nothing to see a doctor that is the way it is up here for ever one . You could be ship down south for an operation and you pay for nothing free health care, what a blessing to live in Canada.
Yep, we have. I am in a funky place pay wise....I make too much for state medical, but if I applied for medical through my job, I wouldn't be able to pay basic bills like rent, utilities, food. And going through a medical program like Blue Cross would be useless because they don't accept people with ';pre-existing'; conditions or if they do accept you, they will not pay for those conditions. Like I was told they would accept my wife, but not pay for her Epilepsy....but that is what she needs treated *sigh* it is frustrating and hard. I have free medical through the VA, my kids I pay out of pocket and my poor wife, who desperately needs medical, refuses to see a DR cause she doesn't want to burden us financially. It is a big mess. Hopefully, I will be able to find another job that pays enough where I can afford medical.
We have never been in that position to forgo health care for money. I guess if I were I would not go. The kids need to go no matter what.
I've never went to the doctor unless I was desperate and still don't because I don't trust them.
Well I need a refill on my Ambien and I have actually thought about buying them on the black market.
yes. save up for such expense
yeah we just flat out cant afford it. kids are different tho we'll do what it takes to keep our babies healthy.eyeliner cosmetics
The cost to see a doc in our state - if you do not have health ins - is about 95 to 120 per visit. This does not include blood work, urine samples, or any other screenings you may need. That is just to walk in the door and speak to him! Emergency room visit 1 hr is 500.
If you have ins co pays run from $10 to $30 and hospital $100. It costs us (out of my husbands check) 129 a wk to have it. Doctor, Hospital, and Dental (that doesn't cover much to start with). Then you have to find a doctor that is in your coverage list.
The cost for malpractice insurance for one doctor is about $20000 a yr to $100,000 a yr, depending on his type of work. Then you have his staff, nurses, and office expenses including rent, utilities and such. This is why you will see ';partners'; now more so than individual doctors offices now. Then the charges for disposable equipment - they buy in bulk - are sent to your insurance company at the cost of a full gross box such as exam gloves, needles, syringes, alcohol swabs, qtips, down to the toilet paper. I saw a breakdown of one of my visits (I asked them to itemize by bill they were sending to my insurance company and it was crazy! A syringe for a shot, alcohol packet, exam gloves, and a band aid was $80! That didn't include the med (2 cc's of an antibiotic which if bought by pill would cost $2) was $25. I researched the cost of a case of exam gloves with 200 per box ran $2.10 per box by case, per item 2 cents. Bought at pharmacy was $3.85 per box. 10 cc syringe per gross was $42. Per item is .25 cents. Needles sold by specific size individually wrapped per 50 was $38, per item .76. Box of Hello Kitty band aids was $1.89 at store, gross would be about .75 per box, 3cents a strip. Cost to doctor approximately $2.!
I sent an accompanying letter with the itemized bill - which I sent to insurance AND the doctors office - and the doctors office reduced their ';expenses'; bill by 42%! The insurance company sent me a thank you letter and also said they wished more people would do this. It would help keep insurance costs down.
I have quit going to the doctor unless absolutely necessary. Even with my kids. I don't remember, when I was a kid, going to the doctor every time I had the flu or the sniffles and I survived. If a flu lasts more than 6 days or a cold is a re occuring thing over a 30 day period then yes it is time to get a thorough exam, but anything else would be a waste of money and time. These doctors and pharmaceutical companies prey on our minds and fears to sell their services and products. Are we that ignorant and paranoid over the little things now? Seriously, if you have a mole that itches or grows in size and has never done so then yes, see a doctor. If you get reoccuring headaches you can do the same thing they do, write down what you have done in the past week, what you have eaten (maybe something different or new), how much water or fluids you have taken in or the lack of, and any meds that you have used or scripts that have been changed in the past 90 days. If you see a reoccuring pattern, then cut it out of your life for a while or call your doctor about a prescription reaction. If that doesn't work THEN see a doctor. Common sense and knowing your body is a big reason to pay attention to yourself instead of relying on these doctors and such. They are not miracle workers, they are not always positive about your current problems, and most times use us as a guinie pig for ';samples'; of meds that may cause more harm than good. If we can control the insurance companies and help keep costs down as well as the costs to doctors, the healthcare system would be easier to deal with. But, as long as we listen to their schpeil over ';New strains of virus''; ';New miracle drugs that can - so called - cure it'; and end up hypochodriacs over them, then nothing will change. I like the way Canada handles their healthcare. Monitoring, yearly audits, insurance caps and expense caps for doctors, and approval of alternative medicines and treatments, all covered by the government. Even insurance companies are managed and checked by their government. If over 40 countries can do it then why can't we?
Sorry, it touches a nerve in my brain that makes me drag out my soap box. I will put it away for now. lol
BlessingsHas you and your spouse made a decision not to go for health care due to the expense unless you think that you?
I sometimes skip the doctor for little things like a cold and even for mild sinus infections/head colds or sore throats. I have really good insurance too, so it's not even a issue of money. But, if I'm able to go to work, I'm able to function. So, I often skip the doctor, unless I feel like I'm serverly contagious or that my illness is going to effect my overall productivity at work or in my everday life.
I would never skip the doctor for routine screens and check-ups though. You just never know what's going on in your body. My father had cancer at 53 and we never saw it coming. Thank God, it was detected early and was treated.
In the end, skipping for that type of stuff, might end up costing you more money, if you become extremely sick and need to be treated.
Once, in college, I didn't have the money to go to the eye doctor and I had pink eye. Well, it ended up getting really, really bad. I couldn't go to work and I couldn't open my eyes for 2 days, there were so swollen and pink, they were closed shut! I did it because I didn't have the money.
Looking back, I should have known better. I ended up missing almost 4 days of work (and I was paid by the hour at the time) and I fell behind. If I had gone to the doctor, I could have been treated early and maybe only missed one day. So, sometimes, the cost is worth it in the end. Not to mention, it took almost 3 weeks for the redness and swelling to subside. I had to walk around in public looking like I had a disease.
I know money is tight. But, don't wait to the last possible second to visit a doctor. It often makes the situation worse, in terms of money and health.
Listen to your body, never ignore the signs! Best of Luck!
Before I got married, I went to a place called Crusader Clinic. It was for people who had no health insurance. A doctor visit was $20 , and they had a pharmacy in the office where you could sign up for programs through the companies that made the drugs, you had to show proof of your income, and if you qualified, you could get the drugs for $5 or for free and you had to do this every year. I have diabeties and high cholesterol due to that. After I got married, my husband made too much money to qualify, so my prescriptions went from $5 to $30 . He has crappy insurance. Since I'm not working right now, I have had to miss out on meds due to other bills having to be paid. Well, Feb 1st, his company changed policies(We were notified only a month in advance). We have to pay $1,000 out of pocket and then the rest of the year we don't pay any money for anything, that includes meds, doctor, hospital, tests, you name it. Sounds good right? Not really! My meds alone cost $700 a month with out insurance, it was only $150 before with the old policy and we couldn't afford that! I swear, I am going to have a stroke or a heart attack before I reach that thousand dollar deductible! I think that the government needs to let people who have serious diseases like I do who can not afford the medication be able to get a medical card. It is not fair, nobody asks to have these illnesses!
My husband and i have never had health care because we cant afford it and ONLY go to a dr or to the emergency room if is a serious health problem.
My husband works full-time and has been at the same job for a little over 12 yrs but his job doesn't offer health insurance.
We are low-income and maybe could get some kind of health insurance but we have never looked into.
Were I live you can go and see the doctor ever day if you need to, for we do not pay for there services and this is in Canada in the north west territories . We pay nothing to see a doctor that is the way it is up here for ever one . You could be ship down south for an operation and you pay for nothing free health care, what a blessing to live in Canada.
Yep, we have. I am in a funky place pay wise....I make too much for state medical, but if I applied for medical through my job, I wouldn't be able to pay basic bills like rent, utilities, food. And going through a medical program like Blue Cross would be useless because they don't accept people with ';pre-existing'; conditions or if they do accept you, they will not pay for those conditions. Like I was told they would accept my wife, but not pay for her Epilepsy....but that is what she needs treated *sigh* it is frustrating and hard. I have free medical through the VA, my kids I pay out of pocket and my poor wife, who desperately needs medical, refuses to see a DR cause she doesn't want to burden us financially. It is a big mess. Hopefully, I will be able to find another job that pays enough where I can afford medical.
We have never been in that position to forgo health care for money. I guess if I were I would not go. The kids need to go no matter what.
I've never went to the doctor unless I was desperate and still don't because I don't trust them.
Well I need a refill on my Ambien and I have actually thought about buying them on the black market.
yes. save up for such expense
yeah we just flat out cant afford it. kids are different tho we'll do what it takes to keep our babies healthy.
Would you forgive your spouse if they confessed to an affair and were genuinely sorry and regretful for it?
Why or why not?
I am not in this situation, this is just a surveyWould you forgive your spouse if they confessed to an affair and were genuinely sorry and regretful for it?
I would and I did. I love her, and while I was somewhat hurt, her behavior didn't change my love for her a bit. It's the same reason you don't abandon your child when they lie to you or betray you in some way.
As it turned out, forgiving her was one of the best moves I ever made. I completely understood why she felt the need to seek human comfort elsewhere, and I was to blame, in good measure. I took steps to ensure that I wouldn't put her in that same position again, and we've been together for 18 years since then, and I'm very happy I stuck with her.Would you forgive your spouse if they confessed to an affair and were genuinely sorry and regretful for it?
hmm... well... they could be sorry all they want, but they need to be willing to be honest and recognize what made them stray in the first place. Forgiveness is only the first step... but its fixing what went wrong and figuring out why they strayed that will fix the real problem.
Forgiving is almost like just putting a bandaid on the situation... but you need to get to the real issue of WHY it happened. Is there something they are missing from the relationship?
something they aren't willing to give to the marriage?
big thing is... why did they do it and is it something that we can fix together... thats the only reason I would stay.
In past relationships, not marriage, when this has happened, I could not forgive or forget. Once the trust was broken, it was over.
Im my marriage, I don't think I will need to worry about that issue. But, if an alien stole my wife and replaced her with a cheater, I doubt I could get over it. I may be able to forgive her eventually, but I think it would end the marriage.
Yes. But you won't forget. That level of trust and closeness you once had has been reduced and will very likely never regain those heights again.
They have to offer how they will make it up and prove their fidelity.Their actions have to be atoned for in a caring and compassionate way.
Look at yourselves in a mirror and work on improving your relationship by embarking on a lifelong committment to achieve that goal. Start by removing obstacles like drinking, porn, gambling, resolving differences, financial crisis... anything you can identify which is an obstacle to a great marriage.
Do your best to grieve it and leave it.
There are a lot of circumstances bit for the most part I wouldnt be willing to throw away my marriage because of a bad decision on his part.
We would definately have to work on some trust issues and what made him decide to do this but yes I believe we could move forward
Read some great relationship articles below.
If it was a one-time thing, MAYBE.
If it was a full-fledged affair he carried on for weeks or months or years, then no. That means he was living a full-on double life. I'd rather not live the rest of my marriage wondering if he'll do it again.
I don't know since I've never been in the situation.
You have to forgive but then you also have to forget.
That's the part I'm not sure I'd ever be able to do.
I know people make mistakes though so I'd try to.
Absolutely, if I loved him, and he was genuinely sorry and would be willing to change and rebuild the trust.
to be honest i dont know what i would do in that situation. i know i would feel hurt and betrayed. i hope i never have to go through that.
No, because it would always be in the back of my mind whenever he touched me.
Just a survey?? Right. Been there done that and left that. It is called trust. Once you loose that you don't get it back.
Before I take he/she back they would have to prove to me that they are willing to be faithful
Only once.
I would. I don't really know why, I just would be
understanding of this type of thing.
Although we may not do anything sexual together for a season....
I would, and have. Had the same done for me as well
yes, especially if there were children involved, and if we could go to counseling,
no
I couldn't. My exwife had an affair, and even if she hadn't have left, I could not have gotten past it. It's a trust thing
Sure. We are all human after all.
I am not in this situation, this is just a surveyWould you forgive your spouse if they confessed to an affair and were genuinely sorry and regretful for it?
I would and I did. I love her, and while I was somewhat hurt, her behavior didn't change my love for her a bit. It's the same reason you don't abandon your child when they lie to you or betray you in some way.
As it turned out, forgiving her was one of the best moves I ever made. I completely understood why she felt the need to seek human comfort elsewhere, and I was to blame, in good measure. I took steps to ensure that I wouldn't put her in that same position again, and we've been together for 18 years since then, and I'm very happy I stuck with her.Would you forgive your spouse if they confessed to an affair and were genuinely sorry and regretful for it?
hmm... well... they could be sorry all they want, but they need to be willing to be honest and recognize what made them stray in the first place. Forgiveness is only the first step... but its fixing what went wrong and figuring out why they strayed that will fix the real problem.
Forgiving is almost like just putting a bandaid on the situation... but you need to get to the real issue of WHY it happened. Is there something they are missing from the relationship?
something they aren't willing to give to the marriage?
big thing is... why did they do it and is it something that we can fix together... thats the only reason I would stay.
In past relationships, not marriage, when this has happened, I could not forgive or forget. Once the trust was broken, it was over.
Im my marriage, I don't think I will need to worry about that issue. But, if an alien stole my wife and replaced her with a cheater, I doubt I could get over it. I may be able to forgive her eventually, but I think it would end the marriage.
Yes. But you won't forget. That level of trust and closeness you once had has been reduced and will very likely never regain those heights again.
They have to offer how they will make it up and prove their fidelity.Their actions have to be atoned for in a caring and compassionate way.
Look at yourselves in a mirror and work on improving your relationship by embarking on a lifelong committment to achieve that goal. Start by removing obstacles like drinking, porn, gambling, resolving differences, financial crisis... anything you can identify which is an obstacle to a great marriage.
Do your best to grieve it and leave it.
There are a lot of circumstances bit for the most part I wouldnt be willing to throw away my marriage because of a bad decision on his part.
We would definately have to work on some trust issues and what made him decide to do this but yes I believe we could move forward
Read some great relationship articles below.
If it was a one-time thing, MAYBE.
If it was a full-fledged affair he carried on for weeks or months or years, then no. That means he was living a full-on double life. I'd rather not live the rest of my marriage wondering if he'll do it again.
I don't know since I've never been in the situation.
You have to forgive but then you also have to forget.
That's the part I'm not sure I'd ever be able to do.
I know people make mistakes though so I'd try to.
Absolutely, if I loved him, and he was genuinely sorry and would be willing to change and rebuild the trust.
to be honest i dont know what i would do in that situation. i know i would feel hurt and betrayed. i hope i never have to go through that.
No, because it would always be in the back of my mind whenever he touched me.
Just a survey?? Right. Been there done that and left that. It is called trust. Once you loose that you don't get it back.
Before I take he/she back they would have to prove to me that they are willing to be faithful
Only once.
I would. I don't really know why, I just would be
understanding of this type of thing.
Although we may not do anything sexual together for a season....
I would, and have. Had the same done for me as well
yes, especially if there were children involved, and if we could go to counseling,
no
I couldn't. My exwife had an affair, and even if she hadn't have left, I could not have gotten past it. It's a trust thing
Sure. We are all human after all.
How to divorce a spouse that ignores the paper work? They do not want to sign the papers!?
even though a spouse won't sign u can still get a divorce, they only have a certain time limit to respond to the paperwork, if they don't respond or show up on court day, u will get your divorce anyway by default.How to divorce a spouse that ignores the paper work? They do not want to sign the papers!?
sorry to say it takes a little longer but you can go to a lawyer have him serve or reserve your husband with the divorce papers showing proof that he did receive them so he cant deny it then you or your lawyer need to petition the court (have a court date set up) and explain it to the judge and the judge can and will rule that you are divorce so don't waste your time worrying it can be done been there done that !!!!!!!!!!!!How to divorce a spouse that ignores the paper work? They do not want to sign the papers!?
If they are not signing the papers then you may be able to get a default divorce granted (default divorces do not require both spouses to sign) I would contact your local court clerk and ask about the specifics of a default divorce.
However if they are contesting the divorce, meaning they disagree with the details of the divorce, you will need to get a lawyer as all contested divorces require lawyers to get them finalized.
I was divorced in 2004 without paperwork or notice. I was in the same town I always was, she was the one that moved, but I'm sure they filed something like ';abandonment';, like they couldn't find me. If they won't sign after a certain amount of time, and haven't gone back to court to fight something else, you can get it done anyway.
Depends on your state's laws. In Pennsylvania, if the other party will not consent, you must wait 2 years, then the divorce is almost always granted. There are a few states that are 2 years for a contested divorce, but no states have a longer waiting period.
just pack up and go
depending on the state there are varying waiting periods to file for divorce - but once you have completed the waiting period all you have to do is fill out the paperwork and file them at the courthouse - he doesn't have to sign anything
You can still apply for divorce. Visit the link below on how to do it.
sorry to say it takes a little longer but you can go to a lawyer have him serve or reserve your husband with the divorce papers showing proof that he did receive them so he cant deny it then you or your lawyer need to petition the court (have a court date set up) and explain it to the judge and the judge can and will rule that you are divorce so don't waste your time worrying it can be done been there done that !!!!!!!!!!!!How to divorce a spouse that ignores the paper work? They do not want to sign the papers!?
If they are not signing the papers then you may be able to get a default divorce granted (default divorces do not require both spouses to sign) I would contact your local court clerk and ask about the specifics of a default divorce.
However if they are contesting the divorce, meaning they disagree with the details of the divorce, you will need to get a lawyer as all contested divorces require lawyers to get them finalized.
I was divorced in 2004 without paperwork or notice. I was in the same town I always was, she was the one that moved, but I'm sure they filed something like ';abandonment';, like they couldn't find me. If they won't sign after a certain amount of time, and haven't gone back to court to fight something else, you can get it done anyway.
Depends on your state's laws. In Pennsylvania, if the other party will not consent, you must wait 2 years, then the divorce is almost always granted. There are a few states that are 2 years for a contested divorce, but no states have a longer waiting period.
just pack up and go
depending on the state there are varying waiting periods to file for divorce - but once you have completed the waiting period all you have to do is fill out the paperwork and file them at the courthouse - he doesn't have to sign anything
You can still apply for divorce. Visit the link below on how to do it.
Do you want your spouse to remarry if you die?
My wife and I were talking about this. I know that it sounds wrong but I told my wife that I did not want her to re-marry if I died. My reasoning is as follows. What if I die go to heaven and she gets re-married and stays married for 40 years. We have only been re-married for 10. What happens when she finally does come to heaven is she going to be with me or her husband of 40 years.
Am I fruit loop or what.Do you want your spouse to remarry if you die?
oooh
that's good Q!
i will discuss wit my fiancee about it!!
thanks!
oh kind of...do you want your wife to be happy? is her happiness important to you? then let her remarry when you dies. =)
EDIT: my fiancee said same thing, and i don't want to be with my ';2nd husband'; in heaven, i want to be with my ';1st husband'; tell your wife when you die, you will be buried right? and if she got remarry, and that mean her ';remarried husband'; die then she die, she would have bury next to him...
that's what my fiancee told me last night...i don't want that...i want to buried next to him when i die.
also i talked to my fiancee about it and he not want me to remarry and he not want to remarry if i die. bc he don't believe in remarriage, and i don't really considered about it either...so if my fiancee die, i don't want to remarry, bc i will still have my family, and if i die, he don't want to remarry bc he will still have his family too.
plus he have good points to not get remarry...Do you want your spouse to remarry if you die?
Since you believe in heaven, you must have some faith in the next life. So, it would seem that behaving as all Christian religions believe should be good enough. When you marry, both partners vow to adhere to the ';rules'; contained in the vows. The responsibilities end, ';When Death Does us Part.'; Meaning as ,long as you both live, you ARE married, and bound by your vows and obligations. But, AFTER death, the other partner's life goes on. My wife is younger than me, and will most likely outlive me. If so, I just hope that she will have a happy satisfying life after I'm gone. Exactly what that life contains isn't important. I know as long as I live, my wife is my wife. I wouldn't want her to pass up happiness, if a new guy was a person who loved her, and she loved him. My mother died 4 months from their 60th anniversary, and my Dad was lost. Only 2 years later he was an 81 year old newlywed. My new mom made his life happy until he died at 84. She's gone too now, but I'll always love her for making my Dad's last few years happy. I feel it was a compliment to my real mom, that while Dad missed her and still loved her. he knew that life is to be lived, not wasted in mourning instead of living.
Your in Heaven, paradise, completely happy so why would you want your wife to be alone and unhappy. I told my husband he can remarry if I die, I want him happy and taken care of.
In heaven are there even husband and wives? I think it will be worked out, Heaven is supposed to be perfect so I do not think there is going to be a war of spouses!!
i think that;s very wrong of you because no one know what happens once we pass on and you love her would you want her to spend the rest of her life alone and sad,
if she found someone good to her you should want her to be happy.
it doesn;t mean she never loved toy because she starts a new life and that she wont be with you in heaven if thats what happens.
i will not ask my husband not to marry if i die, it is his right to continue his life and move on, i think it is impossible that he lives without love or a family.
but i think after death she will have the right to choose if she wants to be with u or her other husband. this is my opinion, hope answered.
hehehee.... u know wat its up to u if u want to be married even if ur dead..... bat actual on my part its a bitter thing to let ur partner to get stock on u for 40 years bt the ur dead........ set her free... it would be up to ur wife if she wont marry again or if she will have anther husband........ stting free fro the 1 u luv is also setting free of ur on self.... let be both of u happy at the end. n in heaven.......... no 1 will be such as husdnd n wife........... we are al brther n sisters there full of hppiness... so dnt ask things that u cant pridict for the future.oks.........hehehe
you won't know if she remarried or not. we don't know what happens in the after life you might not even remember each other the way you think you will. beside one could go other direction to hell we don't know and won't know. i figure if someone else wants to put up with him and all his crap go right ahead.
You are a fruit loop for sure. you will not have spouses in heaven, and yes, i would like my husband to be happy after i am gone.
Yes I'd want her to remarry so she'd see, if nothing else, just how good she had it with me!
My question to you would be: what if you don't go to heaven when you die? Then what?
Kind of. If you die, you don't want her to pine over you for 40 yrs. Dont you love her enough to let her find happiness after her heart is broken in the loss of you?
She chose you, that sez her taste in men are great, so you'll probably like him. And by that time, you'll change your mind.
Not a fruit loop you just love your wife . But until death do you part . And who knows you may find some sweet angel up there
Absolutely. She's a young vibrant woman full of life that shouldn't be wasted simply because I've passed on.
I think in Heaven everyone just hangs out together, so after you go, just let her get along here on Earth the best she can; don't be so SELFISH.
I mean, YOU'RE DEAD!!!
Seriously!!!!
xoxoxoxo
wow.... yes you are a fruit loop
I DONT KNOW!
Till death do us part.
well im divorced so i guess it counts me out but if i was i wouldn't want him to be sad forever
Am I fruit loop or what.Do you want your spouse to remarry if you die?
oooh
that's good Q!
i will discuss wit my fiancee about it!!
thanks!
oh kind of...do you want your wife to be happy? is her happiness important to you? then let her remarry when you dies. =)
EDIT: my fiancee said same thing, and i don't want to be with my ';2nd husband'; in heaven, i want to be with my ';1st husband'; tell your wife when you die, you will be buried right? and if she got remarry, and that mean her ';remarried husband'; die then she die, she would have bury next to him...
that's what my fiancee told me last night...i don't want that...i want to buried next to him when i die.
also i talked to my fiancee about it and he not want me to remarry and he not want to remarry if i die. bc he don't believe in remarriage, and i don't really considered about it either...so if my fiancee die, i don't want to remarry, bc i will still have my family, and if i die, he don't want to remarry bc he will still have his family too.
plus he have good points to not get remarry...Do you want your spouse to remarry if you die?
Since you believe in heaven, you must have some faith in the next life. So, it would seem that behaving as all Christian religions believe should be good enough. When you marry, both partners vow to adhere to the ';rules'; contained in the vows. The responsibilities end, ';When Death Does us Part.'; Meaning as ,long as you both live, you ARE married, and bound by your vows and obligations. But, AFTER death, the other partner's life goes on. My wife is younger than me, and will most likely outlive me. If so, I just hope that she will have a happy satisfying life after I'm gone. Exactly what that life contains isn't important. I know as long as I live, my wife is my wife. I wouldn't want her to pass up happiness, if a new guy was a person who loved her, and she loved him. My mother died 4 months from their 60th anniversary, and my Dad was lost. Only 2 years later he was an 81 year old newlywed. My new mom made his life happy until he died at 84. She's gone too now, but I'll always love her for making my Dad's last few years happy. I feel it was a compliment to my real mom, that while Dad missed her and still loved her. he knew that life is to be lived, not wasted in mourning instead of living.
Your in Heaven, paradise, completely happy so why would you want your wife to be alone and unhappy. I told my husband he can remarry if I die, I want him happy and taken care of.
In heaven are there even husband and wives? I think it will be worked out, Heaven is supposed to be perfect so I do not think there is going to be a war of spouses!!
i think that;s very wrong of you because no one know what happens once we pass on and you love her would you want her to spend the rest of her life alone and sad,
if she found someone good to her you should want her to be happy.
it doesn;t mean she never loved toy because she starts a new life and that she wont be with you in heaven if thats what happens.
i will not ask my husband not to marry if i die, it is his right to continue his life and move on, i think it is impossible that he lives without love or a family.
but i think after death she will have the right to choose if she wants to be with u or her other husband. this is my opinion, hope answered.
hehehee.... u know wat its up to u if u want to be married even if ur dead..... bat actual on my part its a bitter thing to let ur partner to get stock on u for 40 years bt the ur dead........ set her free... it would be up to ur wife if she wont marry again or if she will have anther husband........ stting free fro the 1 u luv is also setting free of ur on self.... let be both of u happy at the end. n in heaven.......... no 1 will be such as husdnd n wife........... we are al brther n sisters there full of hppiness... so dnt ask things that u cant pridict for the future.oks.........hehehe
you won't know if she remarried or not. we don't know what happens in the after life you might not even remember each other the way you think you will. beside one could go other direction to hell we don't know and won't know. i figure if someone else wants to put up with him and all his crap go right ahead.
You are a fruit loop for sure. you will not have spouses in heaven, and yes, i would like my husband to be happy after i am gone.
Yes I'd want her to remarry so she'd see, if nothing else, just how good she had it with me!
My question to you would be: what if you don't go to heaven when you die? Then what?
Kind of. If you die, you don't want her to pine over you for 40 yrs. Dont you love her enough to let her find happiness after her heart is broken in the loss of you?
She chose you, that sez her taste in men are great, so you'll probably like him. And by that time, you'll change your mind.
Not a fruit loop you just love your wife . But until death do you part . And who knows you may find some sweet angel up there
Absolutely. She's a young vibrant woman full of life that shouldn't be wasted simply because I've passed on.
I think in Heaven everyone just hangs out together, so after you go, just let her get along here on Earth the best she can; don't be so SELFISH.
I mean, YOU'RE DEAD!!!
Seriously!!!!
xoxoxoxo
wow.... yes you are a fruit loop
I DONT KNOW!
Till death do us part.
well im divorced so i guess it counts me out but if i was i wouldn't want him to be sad forever
Proof of income is necesarry for filling a visa petition for spouse to the US?
My husband and I are married for 2 years. This year in December we'll have our 3rd anniversary. He is American national. I am not. We have not applied for visa yet because he does not have proof of income. We have two children, both American citizens.
I was told that he needs to provide proof of support for me. I read the US government website to check for petitions, but I could not figure out.
Could you please help me with more detailed information?
Thank you!Proof of income is necesarry for filling a visa petition for spouse to the US?
Yes, the Affidavit of Support (I-864) is necessary form in a spouse visa petition to be filled up and sign by your husband and he will provide the required proof along with the form which is his latest Income Tax Return, W2s and Certificate of Employment.There is a required income which should be 125% of Poverty Guidelines depending how many dependents your husband has.Unless your husband is in the military which the required income should be 100% of Poverty Guidelines.
For the I-864 instruction:
http://www.uscis.gov/files/form/I-864.pd鈥?/a>
For the 2009 Poverty Guidelines:
http://travel.state.gov/visa/laws/telegr鈥?/a>
In case that he lacks in the income, he has the option to find a relative who can also be a co-sponsor so he will meet the 125% Poverty Guidelines income requirement.Proof of income is necesarry for filling a visa petition for spouse to the US?
He not only needs to prove he can support you. By having 2 kids in 2 years of marriage, you have raised the bar for the income requirements. He has to prove he can support 4 people. That's a significant increase in income requirements that he faces.
What is now %26amp; has been your status for all this time? If you are here illegally, you have to return to your own country. If you came legally but overstayed, you need the funds for a fat fine plus all the paperwork costs on top of sufficient income for support.
From what you say here, it sounds like you have made a right proper mess of this, and it looks like you need a great deal more money and income than you planned.
Proof of income is not required to simply send in an I 130 or 129f petition, however, once that form in approved then would need the I 864 form to show you can financially support the spouse. If your income does not meet the qualifications you can use assets, and if no assets then you need a co sponsor.
Form I-864.
http://www.uscis.gov/portal/site/uscis/m鈥?/a>
The instructions and all give you lots of information about requirements.
I just went through all this. If you need any help, feel free to email me. I'm happy to help to save others the trouble I went through.
i believe u will have to file an I-864
use the website to help u! im not sure tho because i know this is for residency but not sure if its the same process w/ visa
I was told that he needs to provide proof of support for me. I read the US government website to check for petitions, but I could not figure out.
Could you please help me with more detailed information?
Thank you!Proof of income is necesarry for filling a visa petition for spouse to the US?
Yes, the Affidavit of Support (I-864) is necessary form in a spouse visa petition to be filled up and sign by your husband and he will provide the required proof along with the form which is his latest Income Tax Return, W2s and Certificate of Employment.There is a required income which should be 125% of Poverty Guidelines depending how many dependents your husband has.Unless your husband is in the military which the required income should be 100% of Poverty Guidelines.
For the I-864 instruction:
http://www.uscis.gov/files/form/I-864.pd鈥?/a>
For the 2009 Poverty Guidelines:
http://travel.state.gov/visa/laws/telegr鈥?/a>
In case that he lacks in the income, he has the option to find a relative who can also be a co-sponsor so he will meet the 125% Poverty Guidelines income requirement.Proof of income is necesarry for filling a visa petition for spouse to the US?
He not only needs to prove he can support you. By having 2 kids in 2 years of marriage, you have raised the bar for the income requirements. He has to prove he can support 4 people. That's a significant increase in income requirements that he faces.
What is now %26amp; has been your status for all this time? If you are here illegally, you have to return to your own country. If you came legally but overstayed, you need the funds for a fat fine plus all the paperwork costs on top of sufficient income for support.
From what you say here, it sounds like you have made a right proper mess of this, and it looks like you need a great deal more money and income than you planned.
Proof of income is not required to simply send in an I 130 or 129f petition, however, once that form in approved then would need the I 864 form to show you can financially support the spouse. If your income does not meet the qualifications you can use assets, and if no assets then you need a co sponsor.
Form I-864.
http://www.uscis.gov/portal/site/uscis/m鈥?/a>
The instructions and all give you lots of information about requirements.
I just went through all this. If you need any help, feel free to email me. I'm happy to help to save others the trouble I went through.
i believe u will have to file an I-864
use the website to help u! im not sure tho because i know this is for residency but not sure if its the same process w/ visa
How long does the process take to petition your alien spouse from Morocco to the States using the I-130?
Assuming the petitioner is an American citizen, the IR-1 petition can take up to a year from the time it is filed in the US through USCIS, to the time it goes through the National Visa Center to the US consulate in Casablanca, before the interview takes place and the visa is issued. There are lots of variables, including how long it takes the petitioner to respond to the NVC's request for an Affidavit of Support and how long it takes the spouse to fill out the forms sent out by the consulate and get the police clearances and other things.
Assuming the petitioner is a legal permanent resident, the petition isn't valid for at least 5 years, then you would have to add the processing time at the NVC and the consulate.How long does the process take to petition your alien spouse from Morocco to the States using the I-130?
That petition is now taking up to 3 years to process.Go to www.uscis.gov for more information.How long does the process take to petition your alien spouse from Morocco to the States using the I-130?
It takes at least 6-8 months to a year or could be longer.
The process is the same as for a citizens of any other countries. You, as a US citizen spouse, shall file the I-130 with the appropriate USCIS Service Center in the USA. When it is approved (in a several months), they will forward it to the NVC. Then NVC will ask you for the affidavit of support. Then they will send the case to the US embassy in Morocco. As to how long it currently takes in Morocco, you can see at the appropriate US embassy's website.
Since his there probably 1 year or more. If he would have been here only 5 months.
Assuming the petitioner is a legal permanent resident, the petition isn't valid for at least 5 years, then you would have to add the processing time at the NVC and the consulate.How long does the process take to petition your alien spouse from Morocco to the States using the I-130?
That petition is now taking up to 3 years to process.Go to www.uscis.gov for more information.How long does the process take to petition your alien spouse from Morocco to the States using the I-130?
It takes at least 6-8 months to a year or could be longer.
The process is the same as for a citizens of any other countries. You, as a US citizen spouse, shall file the I-130 with the appropriate USCIS Service Center in the USA. When it is approved (in a several months), they will forward it to the NVC. Then NVC will ask you for the affidavit of support. Then they will send the case to the US embassy in Morocco. As to how long it currently takes in Morocco, you can see at the appropriate US embassy's website.
Since his there probably 1 year or more. If he would have been here only 5 months.
How do you feel when a military member's civilian spouse says ';we'; were ordered, ';we've been in for...'; etc?
I might use the ';we'; if I';m talking to my neighbors about when we're moving or where we're going because it's something that affects the entire family, but when I refer to my husband service, I would say ';he';. Regardless of how some spouses feel, they should not try to wear their husband's rank.How do you feel when a military member's civilian spouse says ';we'; were ordered, ';we've been in for...'; etc?
cordelia- kiss my grits!
How do you feel when a military member's civilian spouse says ';we'; were ordered, ';we've been in for...'; etc?
I usually dont think twice about it. Its not really a big deal. but if they make it a point to say ';we'; ';we'; then its rather annoying and I ignore them
Everything my spouse and I did was ';we';. She went where ever I went. We are ';one flesh';. When I retired, she was presented a ';retirement'; certificate for all the years of ';her'; service to the USAF as my spouse. As my support.
I feel that it's appropriate. It's a real team effort to raise a family in the military, especially when the service member deploys and the spouse has to handle all family affairs.
Chief Petty Officer
U.S. Navy, Retired
Hey MAN the Family Serves also.
Vet-USAF / Military Brat
Bill , If the info you added had been there at first I would not have answered quite in the way I did, as you know the family does serve in a different way but it does take a toll. The family can make a difference in the Military members service.
Doesn't bother me a bit......
I expect my spouse to go with me when I PCS, even though he has the option not to. We are a family and are in this together. My career has a direct impact on his life. Its not for the faint-hearted.
If JT can't stand the heat, he/she needs to get out of the kitchen.
A married couple becomes a we when they marry. It is a unit now. When a person marrys a service member, they also marry the military. They are more of the mistress. There is a lot of stress involved in being at home during deployments, etc. A lot of people are so used to saying we for everything, that sometimes it just happens. Deployment on the spouse is difficult, and a job in itself. If someone is married to someone for 15 years, and their spouse has been in for 15 years then they HAVE been in for 15 years, even though never physically served, they did a service. Without them, could the servicemember have been the person they are?
They face more potential stress than non-military spouses. They're entitled.
I believe it is perfectly ok. My husband has been in for 15 years and I really feel as if we have been in that long. Although he is the one that reports to the Army everyday, when the Army says go here or you are deploying in five days, it affects us all. My husband and I have had talks about this exact topic, and as he says, your job is harder than mine and we are definately both serving the military. He says that I am serving the country through my support, dedication, and strength to our family and to him and he, in turn, is able to serve our country with a clear mind. Therefore, I feel a military spouse has every right to say that they both have served.
What`s the matter? the C.I.A have you pushing too many pencils?
Bill - Obviously you are not married?
Military members and their families work as a team!
The spouse and children help or hinder the military member 's success or failure in the military!
At ease Bill! You are addressing a superior officer! ME!
It is right and proper. The family of military members have a tough time of it. You should try it.
I believe it's appropriate. When your spouse is a military man it's a family affair. The stress is on his wife too. And when he's gone, it's hard on the family. I agree his wife shouldn't wear his rank, but as far as moving and such, it's not just him moving, it's the family.
I wouldnt be upset, even if my spouse was always a civilian. Theyre in it with us.. They are lonely when we are, they are as broke as we are, and they are the ones who lose everything if (or when) we leave them in the dust.
For better or worse. People need to comprehend that, ya know!!
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cordelia- kiss my grits!
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How do you feel when a military member's civilian spouse says ';we'; were ordered, ';we've been in for...'; etc?
I usually dont think twice about it. Its not really a big deal. but if they make it a point to say ';we'; ';we'; then its rather annoying and I ignore them
Everything my spouse and I did was ';we';. She went where ever I went. We are ';one flesh';. When I retired, she was presented a ';retirement'; certificate for all the years of ';her'; service to the USAF as my spouse. As my support.
I feel that it's appropriate. It's a real team effort to raise a family in the military, especially when the service member deploys and the spouse has to handle all family affairs.
Chief Petty Officer
U.S. Navy, Retired
Hey MAN the Family Serves also.
Vet-USAF / Military Brat
Bill , If the info you added had been there at first I would not have answered quite in the way I did, as you know the family does serve in a different way but it does take a toll. The family can make a difference in the Military members service.
Doesn't bother me a bit......
I expect my spouse to go with me when I PCS, even though he has the option not to. We are a family and are in this together. My career has a direct impact on his life. Its not for the faint-hearted.
If JT can't stand the heat, he/she needs to get out of the kitchen.
A married couple becomes a we when they marry. It is a unit now. When a person marrys a service member, they also marry the military. They are more of the mistress. There is a lot of stress involved in being at home during deployments, etc. A lot of people are so used to saying we for everything, that sometimes it just happens. Deployment on the spouse is difficult, and a job in itself. If someone is married to someone for 15 years, and their spouse has been in for 15 years then they HAVE been in for 15 years, even though never physically served, they did a service. Without them, could the servicemember have been the person they are?
They face more potential stress than non-military spouses. They're entitled.
I believe it is perfectly ok. My husband has been in for 15 years and I really feel as if we have been in that long. Although he is the one that reports to the Army everyday, when the Army says go here or you are deploying in five days, it affects us all. My husband and I have had talks about this exact topic, and as he says, your job is harder than mine and we are definately both serving the military. He says that I am serving the country through my support, dedication, and strength to our family and to him and he, in turn, is able to serve our country with a clear mind. Therefore, I feel a military spouse has every right to say that they both have served.
What`s the matter? the C.I.A have you pushing too many pencils?
Bill - Obviously you are not married?
Military members and their families work as a team!
The spouse and children help or hinder the military member 's success or failure in the military!
At ease Bill! You are addressing a superior officer! ME!
It is right and proper. The family of military members have a tough time of it. You should try it.
I believe it's appropriate. When your spouse is a military man it's a family affair. The stress is on his wife too. And when he's gone, it's hard on the family. I agree his wife shouldn't wear his rank, but as far as moving and such, it's not just him moving, it's the family.
I wouldnt be upset, even if my spouse was always a civilian. Theyre in it with us.. They are lonely when we are, they are as broke as we are, and they are the ones who lose everything if (or when) we leave them in the dust.
For better or worse. People need to comprehend that, ya know!!
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Is there a way to divde the property income with spouse when the property is in my name.?
I have a property which i earn rentals, but when i add my income with that the tax amount becomes high, is there any possibility to share the rental income with the spouse. Here the property is in my name. Please advice.Is there a way to divde the property income with spouse when the property is in my name.?
Are you in US?
If you are married, you file a joint return and the schedule E rental amount is plugged into the 1040.
On the schedule E you reduce the rental income by the expenses and deductions you have related to it: utilities, upkeep, maintenance, repairs, mortgage interest and taxes, depreciation..
Are you in US?
If you are married, you file a joint return and the schedule E rental amount is plugged into the 1040.
On the schedule E you reduce the rental income by the expenses and deductions you have related to it: utilities, upkeep, maintenance, repairs, mortgage interest and taxes, depreciation..
Help!, I tidy our 7-rm apt., but the kids & spouse keep messing it all up! I'm tired & can't afford a?
What can I do to keep this place neat?Help!, I tidy our 7-rm apt., but the kids %26amp; spouse keep messing it all up! I'm tired %26amp; can't afford a?
You can make it a game or a contest for the kids to help clean up. You can also get rid of alot of extra clutter by have a garage sale, or selling things to the salvation army for extra cash. Also you can get bins/baskets for the kids to help you tidy things up. Or do what I do, I bribe my mine with sex! Today he did the dishes, vacuumed and took out the trash! Hope that helps you out!Help!, I tidy our 7-rm apt., but the kids %26amp; spouse keep messing it all up! I'm tired %26amp; can't afford a?
You need to set up a cleaning schedule and assign everyone a chore. Your husband should be more than willing to help out, and if he isn't, explain to him that the burden of taking care of a household should be shared by everyone.
As for the kids, provide them with incentives for completing a certain amount of chores. It's amazing how something as simple as a sucker or something can motivate a kid to clean. You'll have to adjust that obviously for the age of the kids, but you'll come up with ideas.
But the bottom line is, you need help, and you've got people there who can and should help you, because they create part of the mess. You're a mommy...not a maid.
Good luck!
you better whoop your kids i mean give them spankings when they messed up the house and oh yea your hubbie too lol....no on a serious note just teach them that it is not ok to make a mess and if they do they need to clean it up. Just teach them cause when you teach them young they will learn now for your hubbie he should know better than that
GIVE THEM CHORES TO DO AND EVERY TIME THEY DONT DO THE CHORE THEY LOSE A TOY.I DID THIS AND AFTER MY KIDS LOST HALF THERE TOYS BELIEVE ME THEY STARTED PICKING UP AFTER THEM SELVES AND THEY KNEW IF THEY DIDNT THEN THEY WOULD LOSE THE TOYS.DO NOT GIVE THEM THE TOYS BACK DONATE OR THROW AWAY THAT WAY THEY KNOW YOURE NOT KIDDING .GOOD LUCK!
Yeah do what they said that sounds right
You can make it a game or a contest for the kids to help clean up. You can also get rid of alot of extra clutter by have a garage sale, or selling things to the salvation army for extra cash. Also you can get bins/baskets for the kids to help you tidy things up. Or do what I do, I bribe my mine with sex! Today he did the dishes, vacuumed and took out the trash! Hope that helps you out!Help!, I tidy our 7-rm apt., but the kids %26amp; spouse keep messing it all up! I'm tired %26amp; can't afford a?
You need to set up a cleaning schedule and assign everyone a chore. Your husband should be more than willing to help out, and if he isn't, explain to him that the burden of taking care of a household should be shared by everyone.
As for the kids, provide them with incentives for completing a certain amount of chores. It's amazing how something as simple as a sucker or something can motivate a kid to clean. You'll have to adjust that obviously for the age of the kids, but you'll come up with ideas.
But the bottom line is, you need help, and you've got people there who can and should help you, because they create part of the mess. You're a mommy...not a maid.
Good luck!
you better whoop your kids i mean give them spankings when they messed up the house and oh yea your hubbie too lol....no on a serious note just teach them that it is not ok to make a mess and if they do they need to clean it up. Just teach them cause when you teach them young they will learn now for your hubbie he should know better than that
GIVE THEM CHORES TO DO AND EVERY TIME THEY DONT DO THE CHORE THEY LOSE A TOY.I DID THIS AND AFTER MY KIDS LOST HALF THERE TOYS BELIEVE ME THEY STARTED PICKING UP AFTER THEM SELVES AND THEY KNEW IF THEY DIDNT THEN THEY WOULD LOSE THE TOYS.DO NOT GIVE THEM THE TOYS BACK DONATE OR THROW AWAY THAT WAY THEY KNOW YOURE NOT KIDDING .GOOD LUCK!
Yeah do what they said that sounds right
What is the worst gift you ever recieved from your spouse?
the worst gift is no gift. For my first and second mothers days (i have only had two so far) i got literally nothing. Not a dinner, not a card, not a thing. I am so hurt and he has done it two years in a row and still hasnt learnedWhat is the worst gift you ever recieved from your spouse?
Ex-spouse for this one: A pair of shoes that were 3 sizes too big.
I was confused as to how he could think I had larger feet than him and why he would think to buy me shoes. Later, I found out that there was a 'buy one - get one free' sale, so he bought himself some shoes and since they didn't have any others that he wanted, he thought he'd be 'nice' and 'buy' something for me. Yeah, I wasn't feeling it.What is the worst gift you ever recieved from your spouse?
A surprise party when I had specifically told her not too. I even sat her down and explained that I had made plans for just the two of us and that my saying not to have a surprise party was not a hint to have one.
Worse off she invited all her friends and none of mine.
I attended the party and smiled, as soon as it was over I left and went home. We broke up for a few days over that one.
Ok, this wasn't a gift from my husband (he knows better) but from an old boyfriend - still I HAD to share!! He got me one of those emergency tiny hammer things to keep in the glove box. It's for breaking out a window if your car should ever go into a body of water. Romantic huh? He was this really practical, science geek type with absolutely no romantic streak....glad I ditched him!! My sweet hubby is ultra romantic!! :)
We were just married and he gave me an exercise book. I must of mentioned i wanted to work out and he thought he was helping. My reaction wasn't a pleasant one. I still laugh to this day because 23 years later he remembers it.
for our one month anniversery of marriage he got me a pink baseball hat that says ''super bi***''. i hated it,then a couple months later i started wearing it and he hates it.lol
gift certificates to a movie theater with an IOU on the envelope.
-it was Christmas Eve and everything was closed.
The 1st year we dated, before marrying, he gave me a really ugly pair of snow boots.
The best thing he ever gave me? A divorce, 24 years later. Should have known from the stupid boots...
money- not that money is bad but I want him to put some thought into a gift %26amp; pick out something he thinks I will like not just give me money %26amp; tell me to buy something pretty!
Clothes that he buys me every year. Either they are too big, too small, or not my style. He never learns even after 15 years.
She gave me this ugly K-Swiss shoes for Christmas. It was black with red stripes. I hated that shoes so much, glad it's gone from my house. Used it to go fishing.
Nothing. Literally, he got me nothing, for my birthday.
He gave me a puzzle he got at WalMart on our first Christmas as husband and wife.
A wedding ring!
BWHAHHAHAHA!!
I got a spray nozzle for the garden hose (because he thought I needed it). Go figure
a size M t-shirt when he knows i am a SX .what was he thinking about ?
cleaning products
her clutter lol
an old lady's handbag, he wanted me to look more mature
my divorce papers
Ex-spouse for this one: A pair of shoes that were 3 sizes too big.
I was confused as to how he could think I had larger feet than him and why he would think to buy me shoes. Later, I found out that there was a 'buy one - get one free' sale, so he bought himself some shoes and since they didn't have any others that he wanted, he thought he'd be 'nice' and 'buy' something for me. Yeah, I wasn't feeling it.What is the worst gift you ever recieved from your spouse?
A surprise party when I had specifically told her not too. I even sat her down and explained that I had made plans for just the two of us and that my saying not to have a surprise party was not a hint to have one.
Worse off she invited all her friends and none of mine.
I attended the party and smiled, as soon as it was over I left and went home. We broke up for a few days over that one.
Ok, this wasn't a gift from my husband (he knows better) but from an old boyfriend - still I HAD to share!! He got me one of those emergency tiny hammer things to keep in the glove box. It's for breaking out a window if your car should ever go into a body of water. Romantic huh? He was this really practical, science geek type with absolutely no romantic streak....glad I ditched him!! My sweet hubby is ultra romantic!! :)
We were just married and he gave me an exercise book. I must of mentioned i wanted to work out and he thought he was helping. My reaction wasn't a pleasant one. I still laugh to this day because 23 years later he remembers it.
for our one month anniversery of marriage he got me a pink baseball hat that says ''super bi***''. i hated it,then a couple months later i started wearing it and he hates it.lol
gift certificates to a movie theater with an IOU on the envelope.
-it was Christmas Eve and everything was closed.
The 1st year we dated, before marrying, he gave me a really ugly pair of snow boots.
The best thing he ever gave me? A divorce, 24 years later. Should have known from the stupid boots...
money- not that money is bad but I want him to put some thought into a gift %26amp; pick out something he thinks I will like not just give me money %26amp; tell me to buy something pretty!
Clothes that he buys me every year. Either they are too big, too small, or not my style. He never learns even after 15 years.
She gave me this ugly K-Swiss shoes for Christmas. It was black with red stripes. I hated that shoes so much, glad it's gone from my house. Used it to go fishing.
Nothing. Literally, he got me nothing, for my birthday.
He gave me a puzzle he got at WalMart on our first Christmas as husband and wife.
A wedding ring!
BWHAHHAHAHA!!
I got a spray nozzle for the garden hose (because he thought I needed it). Go figure
a size M t-shirt when he knows i am a SX .what was he thinking about ?
cleaning products
her clutter lol
an old lady's handbag, he wanted me to look more mature
my divorce papers
How much help did you receive from someone other than spouse/partner withyour newborn? How long did they stay?
IT's just y husband and I withour newborn. My mom came for a week, but I felt more stressed with her here due to our relationship. I can only tolerate her in short spurts of time. Just wondering if everyone receives help with newborn or if more folks go it alone...How much help did you receive from someone other than spouse/partner withyour newborn? How long did they stay?
We didn't have anyone help, it's just easier to get settled into your own routine that wayHow much help did you receive from someone other than spouse/partner withyour newborn? How long did they stay?
My husband and I didn't get any help at all except my mother in law will take my son overnight once in awhile and give us a break which is great. Other then that we didn't have any help. We also live in a one bedroom apartment.
even with a husband and other family members giving me the occasional break... I pretty much did it alone. :( I wish my support system were better
Your parents are the usual source of support, and so is your spouse's parents. That is the nature of things, the continuation of the extended families.
DIstance is a factor and maybe that is not at all possible. If you have bad relations with your own, check out a favorite aunt or your grandparents.
Lots of people have done it alone. You may have good friends to help you out evry now and then.
Courage ! You are not alone. Take turns. Sleep as much as the baby does.
With my first daughter it was just me. With my twins, my husband and I did it all. My mother came over all the time to help and still does. They are 21 months old now and are had to handle sometimes. Their sister, who is now 17, helps out sometimes also. Nobody else volunteered to help. If you don't have family or close friends then your on your own. Good Luck.
With my first I lived at home so if I were sleeping my mom would come take the baby, but with this one I dont live with her anymore so I am thinking I am oging to do it on my own or she or one of my sisters will come drop in time to time for a couple hours to help out.
Pretty much went it alone. Which was really difficult at times but then I agree with you that it can be stressful to have someone else there. For me it was my mother in law who was stressing me out. We went to stay at the in-laws for 1 mth when my daughter was 5 mths and I felt like she would invalidate me. I'd constantly get ?'s on why I wasnt giving solids at 5 mths, or she would go against what I said if we left my daughter with her (i.e. I said I would feed her as soon as we got back so not to feed her... when we got back she says, 'oh, she didnt really want a bottle.' When I asked why she even offered as I asked her not to, she said she looked thirsty. No, she wasnt crying, but she looked thirsty. For a nursing mother this was irritating. Ok, as I write this it doesnt sound that bad, but I was always getting comments on my 'starving baby' not getting anything but breastmilk. Anywho...) Besides that month with the in-laws, our first Yr has been mostly just myself as a stay at home mom. I'm going back to work shortly and it will be my husband who is going to stay home with her while he searches for a new job.
Hopefully you are able to stay home with your little one as they are def. a LOT of work. You need to have moments of calm to yourself though (which I very much needed and didnt get) the first few months, so if you can have someone there for an afternoon here or there that would be great! A friend, your mother, your in-laws. But no week long stays!
My daughter had a baby last Friday and I've helped her out a little every day but I try to do it around her schedule. Most of the time she feeds her %26amp; then I play with her or ';watch'; her sleep while my daughter takes a nap. If there was a day that she didn't ';want'; me to come over though I would not be offended - eventually she has to ';do it on her own'; but as long as she needs my help I'm willing. Good luck!
My parents stayed for a week. Then it was just my hubby, me and our baby. I liked it better that way too. I was stressed with them here and felt like I needed to be the ';hostess'; as long as they stayed, even though they did help.
See if any neighbors or friends can help if you start getting stressed. Good luck to you!
i .....um...do not no what you are talking about
I had my in laws come while I was giving birth (to watch my older son) and they stayed for a week. (I can only take them in spurts too) So while they were at my house I was on medication so I didn't really care about them. My husband had 2 weeks off (He works 2 hours away and is only home on the weekends) and my family came after that for a week. It was wonderful to have the help.
My mother-in-law was living with us when my daughter was born. She was a lot of help!!
Alone...family is out of state and can't travel (health issues). My husband is in the military and left for 3 weeks of BNCOC on her 4 week b-day, and went back for 31 days yesterday (she's 3.5 mos old now). He also works 8-8 M-F, and 9-3 on Saturday, so, it's pretty much all me.
I was living with the father, and he helped a bit with the baby, but didn't help with meals or housework. As I was breastfeeding, he couldn't help with feeding, so that meant I was still doing most of the work. It was very tiring, but worth it. I kicked him out 11 months later and did it on my own for 3 more years before remarrying. My house wasn't big enough to have someone come and stay to help me but there was no one anyway. I couldn't have stood having my mother there but she worked so couldn't have anyway. Everyone else also worked.
My husband helped me alot. My mom help me a little with my last one but the other two she helped me a llot.
My mom came for a week for the births of my first son. We, too, have a strained relationship and even though she was a HUGE help, I was almost glad to see her leave. It meant I had to actually get busy and do the laundry and cook and all the other stuff she'd been doing, but oh well. :)
After the birth of my second son, my mom came for a week again. He was a c-section baby, so I REALLY needed help. My husband was home with us for the first week, then my mom came for a week, then my sister stayed for about two weeks. After that, I was well/able to do for myself, so it was just me, my husband and our kids.
We did it alone. There were times when I would have appreciated some help so I could sleep.
My mom came over every day for a few hours the first week after we came home from the hospital. It was kind of nice. She did dishes and cooked dinner while I got some sleep. My mom %26amp; I have a decent relationship although there have been times when it has been VERY strained. I have to say she really stepped up to the plate that time.
My Dad and Mom came up to NorCal to help me and my hubby the first two weeks. It was brutal. Especially having twins. They helped feed and change their diapers.
Talk about NO SLEEP! Or sanity...that has all but gone out the window. Well, at least the first 6 to 7 months...
I am getting better now. My parents came up to help us out ever 2 to 3 months and they were such and still are blessings to us.
On the other hand, my inlaws who live right near me did not lift a finger to help me. I do harbor some resentment because I really wanted their help. I guess they really wanted me to ASK them. Well, I never call anyone anymore and it was just not going to happen.
Also, in Apri, I was diagnosed with sympoms of MS and they again did not help me it was my Dad and Mom to the rescue...
Hope this has some...
I had my mother in law out for three weeks. but my daughter was in the NICU for two of those weeks. it was very help full having her there. but once my baby came home from the hospital. things became a bit tense in the house. before the last week was over I was very happy that we would be able to do it on our own then. but then the realization hit in and it was a bit intimidating. while she was out we knew that she knew what she was doing so the baby would be fine. but we were both new parents. so when she left it was hard to figure out what we would do! We did it though and if i ever need any help my mom only lives 35 Min's away. so i would say yeah it helped.
i got help from my mother who stayed one month - she was a great help - don't know how we would have managed without her (of course we would have managed somehow, but it would have been really stressful)
We received about the same amount of help (for us, it was husband-me, wife, and two daughters age 6 and 4) with our last one. Family had to come in from a long distance. It is more stressful to have the guest AND the newborn than the value of the help in my opinion.
We didn't have anyone help, it's just easier to get settled into your own routine that wayHow much help did you receive from someone other than spouse/partner withyour newborn? How long did they stay?
My husband and I didn't get any help at all except my mother in law will take my son overnight once in awhile and give us a break which is great. Other then that we didn't have any help. We also live in a one bedroom apartment.
even with a husband and other family members giving me the occasional break... I pretty much did it alone. :( I wish my support system were better
Your parents are the usual source of support, and so is your spouse's parents. That is the nature of things, the continuation of the extended families.
DIstance is a factor and maybe that is not at all possible. If you have bad relations with your own, check out a favorite aunt or your grandparents.
Lots of people have done it alone. You may have good friends to help you out evry now and then.
Courage ! You are not alone. Take turns. Sleep as much as the baby does.
With my first daughter it was just me. With my twins, my husband and I did it all. My mother came over all the time to help and still does. They are 21 months old now and are had to handle sometimes. Their sister, who is now 17, helps out sometimes also. Nobody else volunteered to help. If you don't have family or close friends then your on your own. Good Luck.
With my first I lived at home so if I were sleeping my mom would come take the baby, but with this one I dont live with her anymore so I am thinking I am oging to do it on my own or she or one of my sisters will come drop in time to time for a couple hours to help out.
Pretty much went it alone. Which was really difficult at times but then I agree with you that it can be stressful to have someone else there. For me it was my mother in law who was stressing me out. We went to stay at the in-laws for 1 mth when my daughter was 5 mths and I felt like she would invalidate me. I'd constantly get ?'s on why I wasnt giving solids at 5 mths, or she would go against what I said if we left my daughter with her (i.e. I said I would feed her as soon as we got back so not to feed her... when we got back she says, 'oh, she didnt really want a bottle.' When I asked why she even offered as I asked her not to, she said she looked thirsty. No, she wasnt crying, but she looked thirsty. For a nursing mother this was irritating. Ok, as I write this it doesnt sound that bad, but I was always getting comments on my 'starving baby' not getting anything but breastmilk. Anywho...) Besides that month with the in-laws, our first Yr has been mostly just myself as a stay at home mom. I'm going back to work shortly and it will be my husband who is going to stay home with her while he searches for a new job.
Hopefully you are able to stay home with your little one as they are def. a LOT of work. You need to have moments of calm to yourself though (which I very much needed and didnt get) the first few months, so if you can have someone there for an afternoon here or there that would be great! A friend, your mother, your in-laws. But no week long stays!
My daughter had a baby last Friday and I've helped her out a little every day but I try to do it around her schedule. Most of the time she feeds her %26amp; then I play with her or ';watch'; her sleep while my daughter takes a nap. If there was a day that she didn't ';want'; me to come over though I would not be offended - eventually she has to ';do it on her own'; but as long as she needs my help I'm willing. Good luck!
My parents stayed for a week. Then it was just my hubby, me and our baby. I liked it better that way too. I was stressed with them here and felt like I needed to be the ';hostess'; as long as they stayed, even though they did help.
See if any neighbors or friends can help if you start getting stressed. Good luck to you!
i .....um...do not no what you are talking about
I had my in laws come while I was giving birth (to watch my older son) and they stayed for a week. (I can only take them in spurts too) So while they were at my house I was on medication so I didn't really care about them. My husband had 2 weeks off (He works 2 hours away and is only home on the weekends) and my family came after that for a week. It was wonderful to have the help.
My mother-in-law was living with us when my daughter was born. She was a lot of help!!
Alone...family is out of state and can't travel (health issues). My husband is in the military and left for 3 weeks of BNCOC on her 4 week b-day, and went back for 31 days yesterday (she's 3.5 mos old now). He also works 8-8 M-F, and 9-3 on Saturday, so, it's pretty much all me.
I was living with the father, and he helped a bit with the baby, but didn't help with meals or housework. As I was breastfeeding, he couldn't help with feeding, so that meant I was still doing most of the work. It was very tiring, but worth it. I kicked him out 11 months later and did it on my own for 3 more years before remarrying. My house wasn't big enough to have someone come and stay to help me but there was no one anyway. I couldn't have stood having my mother there but she worked so couldn't have anyway. Everyone else also worked.
My husband helped me alot. My mom help me a little with my last one but the other two she helped me a llot.
My mom came for a week for the births of my first son. We, too, have a strained relationship and even though she was a HUGE help, I was almost glad to see her leave. It meant I had to actually get busy and do the laundry and cook and all the other stuff she'd been doing, but oh well. :)
After the birth of my second son, my mom came for a week again. He was a c-section baby, so I REALLY needed help. My husband was home with us for the first week, then my mom came for a week, then my sister stayed for about two weeks. After that, I was well/able to do for myself, so it was just me, my husband and our kids.
We did it alone. There were times when I would have appreciated some help so I could sleep.
My mom came over every day for a few hours the first week after we came home from the hospital. It was kind of nice. She did dishes and cooked dinner while I got some sleep. My mom %26amp; I have a decent relationship although there have been times when it has been VERY strained. I have to say she really stepped up to the plate that time.
My Dad and Mom came up to NorCal to help me and my hubby the first two weeks. It was brutal. Especially having twins. They helped feed and change their diapers.
Talk about NO SLEEP! Or sanity...that has all but gone out the window. Well, at least the first 6 to 7 months...
I am getting better now. My parents came up to help us out ever 2 to 3 months and they were such and still are blessings to us.
On the other hand, my inlaws who live right near me did not lift a finger to help me. I do harbor some resentment because I really wanted their help. I guess they really wanted me to ASK them. Well, I never call anyone anymore and it was just not going to happen.
Also, in Apri, I was diagnosed with sympoms of MS and they again did not help me it was my Dad and Mom to the rescue...
Hope this has some...
I had my mother in law out for three weeks. but my daughter was in the NICU for two of those weeks. it was very help full having her there. but once my baby came home from the hospital. things became a bit tense in the house. before the last week was over I was very happy that we would be able to do it on our own then. but then the realization hit in and it was a bit intimidating. while she was out we knew that she knew what she was doing so the baby would be fine. but we were both new parents. so when she left it was hard to figure out what we would do! We did it though and if i ever need any help my mom only lives 35 Min's away. so i would say yeah it helped.
i got help from my mother who stayed one month - she was a great help - don't know how we would have managed without her (of course we would have managed somehow, but it would have been really stressful)
We received about the same amount of help (for us, it was husband-me, wife, and two daughters age 6 and 4) with our last one. Family had to come in from a long distance. It is more stressful to have the guest AND the newborn than the value of the help in my opinion.
How is it for a first time father watching his spouse give birth in the delivery room?
I am a 19 years old, and my girlfriend is 4 months pregnant, she's due in June. Every one's happy about the new baby coming I am also, but I am very skeptical of what kind of feelings I will have, or how I shall console my girlfriend while she's giving birth in the delivery room? I mean this is my first child how long will the delivery take?, will the doctors ask the father to do anything?, and how should I make my girlfriend feel calm? during the birth giving process? I am ready for my child but I am also very, very nervous about the delivery part once that part is over I think I will be relieved a ton, and what happens after the baby is out the womb?How is it for a first time father watching his spouse give birth in the delivery room?
It is AWESOME!..
I would suggest just try to be there for her and know she WILL be in pain and will be grumpy! But let that all slide and enjoy the miracle of birth. Hold your girlfriends hand during the process and have a wet cold wash cloth handy to wipe her forehead.. The Doctor should ask you if you want to cut the umbilical cord (If not.. Make sure you tell him you want to).. He will clamp it in two places and leave a gap for you to cut with scissors. After the baby is out and momma got to enjoy holding her baby for the first time and you have cut the cord.. The baby will passed on to a few nurses and be cleaned and vitals checked.
Congratulations!How is it for a first time father watching his spouse give birth in the delivery room?
You can let the doctors know ahead of time which end you want to be at, if you have a weak stomach i would stay stay away from that end.Explain it to the dr so you wont get any surprises because sometimes it happens so fast. Deliverys can go fast are they can take forever it seems like,but i suggest if you can handle it do it all. Tell them you want to experience everythng that you can, including cuttimg the cord. Video it if you can, you dont have to get the yukky stuff.Do it ALL, its something you can never get back if you miss it. you will be just fine GOODLUCK!!!!
I think you need to sign up for childbirth classes. Going with your girlfriend will help you prepare for the process of childbirth. The educator will teach you how to help her cope and what to expect. It is well worth the time and money. I could write you a long old description here but I think it would be easier for you to attend the class instead. :-)
Good job, daddy! Good luck to you.
every women's delivery is different and i hope she has a easy one i did my husband was with me when i was in labor and it was our first and he did great and I'm sure you will too... good luck with everything
Im right there with you. My fiance is pregnant, pushing 6 months now. Shes had one before, but this is my first time around. So im the new guy at this and SCARED TO DEATH! I am eager for it, cant wait for the day to get here yet i know that im either gonna throw up or even faint while its happening. I get grossed out looking at raw chicken, so you can just image.....
Im certain we both can get through it though, and in the end it will be worth it. Good luck!
there a lot of mixed feelings involved. you will probably be excited, nervous, scared all at the same time. it is hard, however, to watch someone you love go through that kind of grueling ordeal. the best thing you can do for her is just be there for her. tell her she is doing great. don't try to tell her what to do because she will most likey resent it because in her mind, you have no idea what she is going through. there is probably some truth to that so just be supportive. in the end she will respect you for it.
It is AWESOME!..
I would suggest just try to be there for her and know she WILL be in pain and will be grumpy! But let that all slide and enjoy the miracle of birth. Hold your girlfriends hand during the process and have a wet cold wash cloth handy to wipe her forehead.. The Doctor should ask you if you want to cut the umbilical cord (If not.. Make sure you tell him you want to).. He will clamp it in two places and leave a gap for you to cut with scissors. After the baby is out and momma got to enjoy holding her baby for the first time and you have cut the cord.. The baby will passed on to a few nurses and be cleaned and vitals checked.
Congratulations!How is it for a first time father watching his spouse give birth in the delivery room?
You can let the doctors know ahead of time which end you want to be at, if you have a weak stomach i would stay stay away from that end.Explain it to the dr so you wont get any surprises because sometimes it happens so fast. Deliverys can go fast are they can take forever it seems like,but i suggest if you can handle it do it all. Tell them you want to experience everythng that you can, including cuttimg the cord. Video it if you can, you dont have to get the yukky stuff.Do it ALL, its something you can never get back if you miss it. you will be just fine GOODLUCK!!!!
I think you need to sign up for childbirth classes. Going with your girlfriend will help you prepare for the process of childbirth. The educator will teach you how to help her cope and what to expect. It is well worth the time and money. I could write you a long old description here but I think it would be easier for you to attend the class instead. :-)
Good job, daddy! Good luck to you.
every women's delivery is different and i hope she has a easy one i did my husband was with me when i was in labor and it was our first and he did great and I'm sure you will too... good luck with everything
Im right there with you. My fiance is pregnant, pushing 6 months now. Shes had one before, but this is my first time around. So im the new guy at this and SCARED TO DEATH! I am eager for it, cant wait for the day to get here yet i know that im either gonna throw up or even faint while its happening. I get grossed out looking at raw chicken, so you can just image.....
Im certain we both can get through it though, and in the end it will be worth it. Good luck!
there a lot of mixed feelings involved. you will probably be excited, nervous, scared all at the same time. it is hard, however, to watch someone you love go through that kind of grueling ordeal. the best thing you can do for her is just be there for her. tell her she is doing great. don't try to tell her what to do because she will most likey resent it because in her mind, you have no idea what she is going through. there is probably some truth to that so just be supportive. in the end she will respect you for it.
If a person has a joint bank account with their spouse or another person can a judgement sieze that account?
If a person has a bank account with another person and they have a judgment on them, lets say for support arrears or repossession can those judgements legally seize those accounts when they dont know whose money actually goes into the account? I know with support arears if a husband a wife file jointly on their income taxes the government cannot take all the taxes they actually have to figure out the wifes contribution and the husbands and take from whatever contribution was from the one who has the arearsIf a person has a joint bank account with their spouse or another person can a judgement sieze that account?
In most western countries, yes, they can.If a person has a joint bank account with their spouse or another person can a judgement sieze that account?
They can sieze the whole account so long as the name of the person with the judgement is on the account. It sucks, but hey it's the government, they can do whatever they want or so it seems! The Lord giveth, the Government taketh away.....
Yes they can. The government can also take all of the taxes, they don't figure out what portion belongs to the wife and husband, since it's a joint return, so is the money.
yes, a judgment against either can cause a joint account to be seizedfacial moisturizer makeup
In most western countries, yes, they can.If a person has a joint bank account with their spouse or another person can a judgement sieze that account?
They can sieze the whole account so long as the name of the person with the judgement is on the account. It sucks, but hey it's the government, they can do whatever they want or so it seems! The Lord giveth, the Government taketh away.....
Yes they can. The government can also take all of the taxes, they don't figure out what portion belongs to the wife and husband, since it's a joint return, so is the money.
yes, a judgment against either can cause a joint account to be seized
How can i get free immigration help on bringing my spouse to the US?
You should make friend with an immigration attorney.How can i get free immigration help on bringing my spouse to the US?
Hi Jay, obtaining free immigration help is calling the headquarters (immigrations office) and asking them. Now whatever your response is from them, whether positive or negative, write them down for your future reference. Also I would call my state representive or any other political family in your ward or preicent. However it would have been easier to any your question if you would have mentioned the country she is from and what her faith is. Because beleive it or not ....However if your an American born individual you shouldn't have to must of a problem. But who knows. Good luck my friend.How can i get free immigration help on bringing my spouse to the US?
http://www.uscis.gov/portal/site/uscis
gimme $100.00 and I'll tell you. Your funny
The Citizenship and Immigration (USCIS) Service is not the best place to get information, but it is not the worst.
You can search the web for family based immigration discussion groups where people have been researching the process and learn there.
You can find information about free legal help at the uscis.gov site by following Home %26gt; Services %26amp; Benefits %26gt; Finding Legal Advice
just log onto the government's immigration website and find whatever help you need.
you dont really need an immigration lawyer - at least not early on.
just find out what first steps you need to take and start the process.
Go to a lib-Sanctuary City and tell them you want to bring her here illegally. I'm sure they have pamphlets telling you the best ways to do it.
Hi Jay, obtaining free immigration help is calling the headquarters (immigrations office) and asking them. Now whatever your response is from them, whether positive or negative, write them down for your future reference. Also I would call my state representive or any other political family in your ward or preicent. However it would have been easier to any your question if you would have mentioned the country she is from and what her faith is. Because beleive it or not ....However if your an American born individual you shouldn't have to must of a problem. But who knows. Good luck my friend.How can i get free immigration help on bringing my spouse to the US?
http://www.uscis.gov/portal/site/uscis
gimme $100.00 and I'll tell you. Your funny
The Citizenship and Immigration (USCIS) Service is not the best place to get information, but it is not the worst.
You can search the web for family based immigration discussion groups where people have been researching the process and learn there.
You can find information about free legal help at the uscis.gov site by following Home %26gt; Services %26amp; Benefits %26gt; Finding Legal Advice
just log onto the government's immigration website and find whatever help you need.
you dont really need an immigration lawyer - at least not early on.
just find out what first steps you need to take and start the process.
Go to a lib-Sanctuary City and tell them you want to bring her here illegally. I'm sure they have pamphlets telling you the best ways to do it.
What is the best thing to do for your spouse on your first Valentines day as a married couple?
aww i like spawn's answer
thanks exactly what we're doing
well, we're adding a couples massage session
but after we're going to eat sushi ccause i would never have tried it if it wasnt for him
then were going to chuck e cheese where we had our first date
and to the place of our first kiss(top of a parking lot that overlooks the city)
when you get married its always nice to re-do the things that kept you together in the first placeWhat is the best thing to do for your spouse on your first Valentines day as a married couple?
Relive your first date.
thanks exactly what we're doing
well, we're adding a couples massage session
but after we're going to eat sushi ccause i would never have tried it if it wasnt for him
then were going to chuck e cheese where we had our first date
and to the place of our first kiss(top of a parking lot that overlooks the city)
when you get married its always nice to re-do the things that kept you together in the first placeWhat is the best thing to do for your spouse on your first Valentines day as a married couple?
Relive your first date.
How long does the process take to bring a spouse to the united states from over seas if you are a U.S citizen?
because my husband lives in another country and i would like for him to come live with me.How long does the process take to bring a spouse to the united states from over seas if you are a U.S citizen?
My friend brought her husband from Guatemala and it it took nearly two years after they were married. Her husband had his masters degree and some money in the bank and it still took a long time.How long does the process take to bring a spouse to the united states from over seas if you are a U.S citizen?
Can you prove you have sufficient income and assets to support your spouse and guarantee a $30,000 bond for 10 years? If you qualify to complete the affidavit of support, you can apply for his spousal visa. It can take up to 2 or 2-1/2 years, depending on a number of factors.
Go to www.visajourney.com (its a visa forum)
You will get hooked up with people who are doing it all right now and can help you with all your questions.
I am in the process of bringing my husband to the U.S and used this site to get answers.
It took me about a year (with expedites) and he's now waiting on our joint sponsors 2008 tax returns to be completed. He's approved at the embassy level, but just waiting on that affidavit of support to get the visa stamp.
took me almost 2 years. My wife is from Mexico, so things move a little slower there due to the volume of people. Maybe a little faster if your husband is not mexican or filipino.
The ';average'; is between 12 and 18 months. However, it could take longer.... a lot longer.
my wife is from phils and it took us almost 2 years for all paperwork to clear.
My friend brought her husband from Guatemala and it it took nearly two years after they were married. Her husband had his masters degree and some money in the bank and it still took a long time.How long does the process take to bring a spouse to the united states from over seas if you are a U.S citizen?
Can you prove you have sufficient income and assets to support your spouse and guarantee a $30,000 bond for 10 years? If you qualify to complete the affidavit of support, you can apply for his spousal visa. It can take up to 2 or 2-1/2 years, depending on a number of factors.
Go to www.visajourney.com (its a visa forum)
You will get hooked up with people who are doing it all right now and can help you with all your questions.
I am in the process of bringing my husband to the U.S and used this site to get answers.
It took me about a year (with expedites) and he's now waiting on our joint sponsors 2008 tax returns to be completed. He's approved at the embassy level, but just waiting on that affidavit of support to get the visa stamp.
took me almost 2 years. My wife is from Mexico, so things move a little slower there due to the volume of people. Maybe a little faster if your husband is not mexican or filipino.
The ';average'; is between 12 and 18 months. However, it could take longer.... a lot longer.
my wife is from phils and it took us almost 2 years for all paperwork to clear.
Do any of you go out dancing with your spouse?
and does your spouse flirt with other people on the dance floor like my wife does?
I think my wife gets off on flirting and dancing with other men. Do any of you go out dancing with your spouse?
I wish! And I'd flirt too - there's something about dressing up and moving around to music that makes a girl feel flirty. Don't let it bother you!Do any of you go out dancing with your spouse?
I used to go to the club all the time. When me and my hubby started dating he didnt care for the club scene, I dont care for strip clubs (a plus since hes never been) so we dont go... we compromised. IMO it depends on what kind of person your with..
Ive had boyfriends that never went out to the club but didnt mind that I went. But Ive had the ex that went to the club and would flirt with other women and try to hook up.
If you have a problem w it talk to her about it. Its usually just a subconscious reaction when your dancing around a lot of people and they give you attention. Do you flirt with women on the dance floor? If she sees you do it then she'll think its okay for her to do it.
HAHAHAHA no. me and my husband havent danced since the day we started dating. we danced once but that was just 2 seconds and really was nothing but that was 5 yrs ago. we dont go out as a couple EVER so dancing as a couple is a definite NO. hahaha so funny though
your wife probly enjoys the attention she gets from other guys and it probly makes her feel like ';hey im still attractive and i can dance with whatever guy i want cool';
I wish. I would love to except there are 2 problems with going out-
1. If I may paraphrase the movie ';Love Stinks';, my husband and I both suffer from White Man's Syndrome, which is the #1 killer of rhythm.
2. My husband wouldn't want to even if we could dance.
I wouldn't want to dance with and flirt with other guys though.
I agree with Beatgnu.
She likes the attention.
Inform her of this fact--she might not even know and
Try to give her more attention from you and she should taper it.
Nope. Last time hubbie took me dancing was about 8 years ago.
But the kids are older now, it might make a comeback.
No, we do not do that, LOL, the last time we danced together was at our wedding!!!! :-)
My husband does not like the ';bar scene'; at all, and he just likes it nice and quiet and romantic at home.
Which I like also, because the dress code at home does not matter!!!!! :-)
I wish we'd go. I would love that. He might be up for it once or twice but he really doesn't care about dancing. I would probably enjoy the attention though flirting, I don't think I'd do that. He'd probably knock someone out if they flirted with me.
I have and I wouldnt let my wife dance with other people. Dancing IS flirting. Wives should NOT be flirting with other men. Shes probably testing the water for nights when you wont go. she'll see whos receptive and bang them later.
Yes! We go out dancing and no we are into ea. other when we are on the dance floor. If her flirting bothers you then you need to talk to her.
That because she is enjoying the attention of someone finding her sexy...
As for us, no we don't. Haven't since before we had our children... I'm sure we'll get back into when life slows down a bit.
no, my husband doesn't dance. :(
I think my wife gets off on flirting and dancing with other men. Do any of you go out dancing with your spouse?
I wish! And I'd flirt too - there's something about dressing up and moving around to music that makes a girl feel flirty. Don't let it bother you!Do any of you go out dancing with your spouse?
I used to go to the club all the time. When me and my hubby started dating he didnt care for the club scene, I dont care for strip clubs (a plus since hes never been) so we dont go... we compromised. IMO it depends on what kind of person your with..
Ive had boyfriends that never went out to the club but didnt mind that I went. But Ive had the ex that went to the club and would flirt with other women and try to hook up.
If you have a problem w it talk to her about it. Its usually just a subconscious reaction when your dancing around a lot of people and they give you attention. Do you flirt with women on the dance floor? If she sees you do it then she'll think its okay for her to do it.
HAHAHAHA no. me and my husband havent danced since the day we started dating. we danced once but that was just 2 seconds and really was nothing but that was 5 yrs ago. we dont go out as a couple EVER so dancing as a couple is a definite NO. hahaha so funny though
your wife probly enjoys the attention she gets from other guys and it probly makes her feel like ';hey im still attractive and i can dance with whatever guy i want cool';
I wish. I would love to except there are 2 problems with going out-
1. If I may paraphrase the movie ';Love Stinks';, my husband and I both suffer from White Man's Syndrome, which is the #1 killer of rhythm.
2. My husband wouldn't want to even if we could dance.
I wouldn't want to dance with and flirt with other guys though.
I agree with Beatgnu.
She likes the attention.
Inform her of this fact--she might not even know and
Try to give her more attention from you and she should taper it.
Nope. Last time hubbie took me dancing was about 8 years ago.
But the kids are older now, it might make a comeback.
No, we do not do that, LOL, the last time we danced together was at our wedding!!!! :-)
My husband does not like the ';bar scene'; at all, and he just likes it nice and quiet and romantic at home.
Which I like also, because the dress code at home does not matter!!!!! :-)
I wish we'd go. I would love that. He might be up for it once or twice but he really doesn't care about dancing. I would probably enjoy the attention though flirting, I don't think I'd do that. He'd probably knock someone out if they flirted with me.
I have and I wouldnt let my wife dance with other people. Dancing IS flirting. Wives should NOT be flirting with other men. Shes probably testing the water for nights when you wont go. she'll see whos receptive and bang them later.
Yes! We go out dancing and no we are into ea. other when we are on the dance floor. If her flirting bothers you then you need to talk to her.
That because she is enjoying the attention of someone finding her sexy...
As for us, no we don't. Haven't since before we had our children... I'm sure we'll get back into when life slows down a bit.
no, my husband doesn't dance. :(
What are some things that will annoy you about spouse,boy/girlfriend?
Examples like too much calling, being fat, talking to much, asking to many questions . . these are just example you can use your own words just curious.
What are some things that will annoy you about spouse,boy/girlfriend?
Loudly drinking tea/coffee/cocoa, and loudly eating soup.
What are some things that will annoy you about spouse,boy/girlfriend?
Okay so in half an hour you have asked
[1] what annoys you about your spouse
[2] you hate having sex with your husband
[3] you have hated your husband for a year but haven't told him.
Hmmmm.
Time to push away from the keyboard and go work on your relationship.
snoring!!!!!!!! I wake up in the middle of the night (to take a pee) and can't get back to sleep for all the snoring that goes on. I'm suprised I don't get calls from the neighbors for disturbing the peace. LOL:):):)
I have been married to the same wonderful man for 16 years, going on 17, and you learn to take the good with the bad, and you learn that no one is perfect.
Not even the wives are perfect.
Playing the computer too much.
Not listening to what I'm saying.
Tuning out when I talk to him.
General stuff lol.
cooking mostly healthy suppers and I dont like to eat healthy.like my bacon and beef red
being on the computer playing his game until 5 am.... AHHH! makes me want to scream
Discussing bedroom stuff with her mother...arrrgh
When she forgets to SHAVE THAT KITTY!!!
when my boyfriend is out of topic :)) sshhh.
What are some things that will annoy you about spouse,boy/girlfriend?
Loudly drinking tea/coffee/cocoa, and loudly eating soup.
What are some things that will annoy you about spouse,boy/girlfriend?
Okay so in half an hour you have asked
[1] what annoys you about your spouse
[2] you hate having sex with your husband
[3] you have hated your husband for a year but haven't told him.
Hmmmm.
Time to push away from the keyboard and go work on your relationship.
snoring!!!!!!!! I wake up in the middle of the night (to take a pee) and can't get back to sleep for all the snoring that goes on. I'm suprised I don't get calls from the neighbors for disturbing the peace. LOL:):):)
I have been married to the same wonderful man for 16 years, going on 17, and you learn to take the good with the bad, and you learn that no one is perfect.
Not even the wives are perfect.
Playing the computer too much.
Not listening to what I'm saying.
Tuning out when I talk to him.
General stuff lol.
cooking mostly healthy suppers and I dont like to eat healthy.like my bacon and beef red
being on the computer playing his game until 5 am.... AHHH! makes me want to scream
Discussing bedroom stuff with her mother...arrrgh
When she forgets to SHAVE THAT KITTY!!!
when my boyfriend is out of topic :)) sshhh.
As a military spouse what does it mean to me?
As a military spouse what does the new GI bill mean to me? What is in this new bill?As a military spouse what does it mean to me?
If your SPOUSE has served over ten years he can now transfer HIS GI bill to someone in his family such as a spouse or child, thats really the only thing it would mean to you.As a military spouse what does it mean to me?
i will tell you that i am pretty sure it has to be in your spouses enlistement or reenlistment contract for anyone other than him to be able to use to GI bill. that may have changed with the new bill but never assume. make sure your spouse asks about it before signing a new contract. thats what we were told anyways so we will make sure to add it to our new contract next year. your husband can probably find out more about it by asking someone at work or talking to the reenlistment people
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If your SPOUSE has served over ten years he can now transfer HIS GI bill to someone in his family such as a spouse or child, thats really the only thing it would mean to you.As a military spouse what does it mean to me?
i will tell you that i am pretty sure it has to be in your spouses enlistement or reenlistment contract for anyone other than him to be able to use to GI bill. that may have changed with the new bill but never assume. make sure your spouse asks about it before signing a new contract. thats what we were told anyways so we will make sure to add it to our new contract next year. your husband can probably find out more about it by asking someone at work or talking to the reenlistment people
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What if your spouse bestfriend is turning them against you and causing them to use drugs?
BF is definitely not BF. You didn't say how the BF is turning your spouse against you, but in any case you have to get the BF out of your spouse's life.
Approach the BF and find out what is going on. If he is in fact turning spouse against you and encouraging (can't make him use drugs) him to use drugs, tell the BF to get out of the picture and mean it.
Approach your spouse and tell him you no longer want him to keep company with this BF if what you say is true. If spouse doesn't listen, offer to attend counseling with him. If he will not go, perhaps you have already lost him to the BF and the drug use.
Get some counseling for yourself and try to go on without him.
Approach the BF and find out what is going on. If he is in fact turning spouse against you and encouraging (can't make him use drugs) him to use drugs, tell the BF to get out of the picture and mean it.
Approach your spouse and tell him you no longer want him to keep company with this BF if what you say is true. If spouse doesn't listen, offer to attend counseling with him. If he will not go, perhaps you have already lost him to the BF and the drug use.
Get some counseling for yourself and try to go on without him.
Can I bring spouse to France if I'm a student?
Hi, I am Canadian citizen and plan to go study in France for 1 year. I wonder if I can bring my spouse to France with me and what type of visa she can get?Can I bring spouse to France if I'm a student?
it would depend.Since so many different countries have their own rules with them.That's true that there is an Internationally recognized rules but there are some rules for their own too.
SO the best thing would be asking from them directly.After that there would not be any matter regarding this.Can I bring spouse to France if I'm a student?
Parlez vous Francais?
it would depend.Since so many different countries have their own rules with them.That's true that there is an Internationally recognized rules but there are some rules for their own too.
SO the best thing would be asking from them directly.After that there would not be any matter regarding this.Can I bring spouse to France if I'm a student?
Parlez vous Francais?
How is your parenting style different than your spouse's parenting style?
Oops! I deleted the first question by accident!
I am doing research on different parenting styles between mothers and fathers. I would appreciate any feedback.How is your parenting style different than your spouse's parenting style?
My husband is a totalitatrian (although he thinks differently), but only with our son. He has set ideas about everything from sports involvement to haircuts to physical affection. He's a pushover with our daughter, and is afraid to set any limits, or stick to any sort of punishment when it comes to her.
For the record, our son is a well-behaved, respectful, kind, intelligent child who does extremely well in school. Our daughter (the baby), is almost three years old - she is a sweet, intelligent little girl with an iron will and a profoundly spoiled streak.
I am a disciplinarian, but I strongly believe in explanations and negotiations with my kids. On one hand, I am the comforter, the fixer, the soother, while on the other hand, i also have to handle all the discipline and tantrums from our daughter. My son is old enough to talk things out, and I make a point of helping him understand the reasons behind any ';No'; or a punishment, while remaining firm in the limits that I set. My daughter is really a little young yet for any kind of reasonable explanations, but I am firm with the consequences of deliberate disobedience and tantrums.
Neither of us believes in corporal punishment.
Hmm...the main difference in our parenting styles, I suppose, is that my husband tends to react, while I am always planning, reading, and over-thinking.How is your parenting style different than your spouse's parenting style?
Well, I have a unique situation in that I have a child from my ex-husband and got remarried when my child was 3 1/2. My daughter lives with me and my husband, and sees her birth father twice a month on weekends.
My parenting style is far more consistent than that of my ex-husband. I am fair but firm, and if I say no I stick to my guns. My ex on the other hand will give in to whining and tears. So when my little girl comes back from her father's I have to undo the bad habits that she learns from him. He also doesn't make her clean up after she is done eating or playing (my daughter is now 5 1/2) but I do.
I was the hands on disciplinarian. He was the Disneyland daddy who got to break the rules and have fun then hit the road again while I dealt with the fallout.
parenting to me is being a teacher, guardian, guide and leader.
I take every opportunity to teach.
my job is to make sure my offspring can fly when they leave the nest.
we can be buddies later in life.
I've told my wife this many times... she is the best mother in the world from conception to weening the child. hands down. after that it all falls apart.
she is a more a friend or college roommate to her children. the only lessons she teaches are manners and grammar. she believes in kindness and equality until she's becomes fed up with the unruly behavior bred from not being taught to clean up or be respectful or anything.
my wife believes in sitting with the child to make sure that she(i have 2 daughters)does her home work, while i believe that the child should do it on their own and only if they have a problems with it and they have to ask for help and even so i would not give then the answer, but instead get them to focus on the question and understanding what is required and then asking them , then how they would solve giving them hints where required.
she would do their homework for them while i would not( as believe that they should answer for their decision not to do their homework, this is responsibility and doing their homework would defeat the purpose of it.)
i hope that this helped.
god bless,
gabe
the biggest difference is temper i'd say. my husband grew up in a home where they were always yelled at and spanked with a belt daily.
i grew up with virtually no spankings and very little yelling.
my husband is wanting to be quick to spank and yell(as this is what he was taught) so we have had to compromise, i do any spankings that need to happen(very few and far between) and he tries hard not to yell. i am able to ignore the small stuff easier than him. when he feels he is going to lose his temper he walks away and lets me deal with it.
this works well for us, and our children are doing great!
my husband likes to spank
I prefer timeouts
He wants to have 100% control
I think you should choose your battles
My husband is from a family of three boy's, I am the oldest and only daughter. My husband believes that children should not be made to do chores etc, and that this is the mother's responsiblity. He was raised with a stay at home mom (Italian) who would not let her boys raise a finger. I was raised that we all chipped in to make the house hold work. We do not yet have children so things may change at that point but we have discussed our parenting beliefs a number of times. I think that the nationality of the families plays a large role as well as birth order.
I am doing research on different parenting styles between mothers and fathers. I would appreciate any feedback.How is your parenting style different than your spouse's parenting style?
My husband is a totalitatrian (although he thinks differently), but only with our son. He has set ideas about everything from sports involvement to haircuts to physical affection. He's a pushover with our daughter, and is afraid to set any limits, or stick to any sort of punishment when it comes to her.
For the record, our son is a well-behaved, respectful, kind, intelligent child who does extremely well in school. Our daughter (the baby), is almost three years old - she is a sweet, intelligent little girl with an iron will and a profoundly spoiled streak.
I am a disciplinarian, but I strongly believe in explanations and negotiations with my kids. On one hand, I am the comforter, the fixer, the soother, while on the other hand, i also have to handle all the discipline and tantrums from our daughter. My son is old enough to talk things out, and I make a point of helping him understand the reasons behind any ';No'; or a punishment, while remaining firm in the limits that I set. My daughter is really a little young yet for any kind of reasonable explanations, but I am firm with the consequences of deliberate disobedience and tantrums.
Neither of us believes in corporal punishment.
Hmm...the main difference in our parenting styles, I suppose, is that my husband tends to react, while I am always planning, reading, and over-thinking.How is your parenting style different than your spouse's parenting style?
Well, I have a unique situation in that I have a child from my ex-husband and got remarried when my child was 3 1/2. My daughter lives with me and my husband, and sees her birth father twice a month on weekends.
My parenting style is far more consistent than that of my ex-husband. I am fair but firm, and if I say no I stick to my guns. My ex on the other hand will give in to whining and tears. So when my little girl comes back from her father's I have to undo the bad habits that she learns from him. He also doesn't make her clean up after she is done eating or playing (my daughter is now 5 1/2) but I do.
I was the hands on disciplinarian. He was the Disneyland daddy who got to break the rules and have fun then hit the road again while I dealt with the fallout.
parenting to me is being a teacher, guardian, guide and leader.
I take every opportunity to teach.
my job is to make sure my offspring can fly when they leave the nest.
we can be buddies later in life.
I've told my wife this many times... she is the best mother in the world from conception to weening the child. hands down. after that it all falls apart.
she is a more a friend or college roommate to her children. the only lessons she teaches are manners and grammar. she believes in kindness and equality until she's becomes fed up with the unruly behavior bred from not being taught to clean up or be respectful or anything.
my wife believes in sitting with the child to make sure that she(i have 2 daughters)does her home work, while i believe that the child should do it on their own and only if they have a problems with it and they have to ask for help and even so i would not give then the answer, but instead get them to focus on the question and understanding what is required and then asking them , then how they would solve giving them hints where required.
she would do their homework for them while i would not( as believe that they should answer for their decision not to do their homework, this is responsibility and doing their homework would defeat the purpose of it.)
i hope that this helped.
god bless,
gabe
the biggest difference is temper i'd say. my husband grew up in a home where they were always yelled at and spanked with a belt daily.
i grew up with virtually no spankings and very little yelling.
my husband is wanting to be quick to spank and yell(as this is what he was taught) so we have had to compromise, i do any spankings that need to happen(very few and far between) and he tries hard not to yell. i am able to ignore the small stuff easier than him. when he feels he is going to lose his temper he walks away and lets me deal with it.
this works well for us, and our children are doing great!
my husband likes to spank
I prefer timeouts
He wants to have 100% control
I think you should choose your battles
My husband is from a family of three boy's, I am the oldest and only daughter. My husband believes that children should not be made to do chores etc, and that this is the mother's responsiblity. He was raised with a stay at home mom (Italian) who would not let her boys raise a finger. I was raised that we all chipped in to make the house hold work. We do not yet have children so things may change at that point but we have discussed our parenting beliefs a number of times. I think that the nationality of the families plays a large role as well as birth order.
How long does it take to proccess a spouse (wife) australian visa in the UK?
up to 12 months. However you can also apply for this visa when you are both in australia, if you don't want to wait here. It just means that she will not be able to work while the application is being processed.
But when you are in australia she can apply for a temporary workers permit, a 457 visa. it is slightly complicated, but go to a migration agent and ask about applying for a 457 visa followed by an onshore partner temporary visa. After two years on the temporary visa she is eliguble for a permanent visa. This step can be bypassed if you have been together for more than 5 years, she can apply directly for an oshore partner permanent visa.
this means you can both go to australia now, she can start working immediatly, and then you can apply for a partner visa when you are already in australia.How long does it take to proccess a spouse (wife) australian visa in the UK?
usually 2 yrs. they want to know if your really married or its just a scheem and shes paying you..u guys will have to know alot about eachother...fav color,movie,book,inc. and other thingsHow long does it take to proccess a spouse (wife) australian visa in the UK?
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But when you are in australia she can apply for a temporary workers permit, a 457 visa. it is slightly complicated, but go to a migration agent and ask about applying for a 457 visa followed by an onshore partner temporary visa. After two years on the temporary visa she is eliguble for a permanent visa. This step can be bypassed if you have been together for more than 5 years, she can apply directly for an oshore partner permanent visa.
this means you can both go to australia now, she can start working immediatly, and then you can apply for a partner visa when you are already in australia.How long does it take to proccess a spouse (wife) australian visa in the UK?
usually 2 yrs. they want to know if your really married or its just a scheem and shes paying you..u guys will have to know alot about eachother...fav color,movie,book,inc. and other thingsHow long does it take to proccess a spouse (wife) australian visa in the UK?
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If a man commits bigamy.Can his new spouse be charged with bigamy charges?
If your husband marries some one at the same time he is still married to you can the new spouse be charged with bigamy?If a man commits bigamy.Can his new spouse be charged with bigamy charges?
If she knows he is already married and consents to another marriage, she is an equal partner in crime. If a man commits bigamy.Can his new spouse be charged with bigamy charges?
Why don't they ever prosecute for bigamy? The police seem to think it's a joke or something.
NO but.. if she pursued him knowing that he was married she can be charged with alienation of affection in some states. Many people do not consider this an option but it can be under certain circumstances. However it is just like any other court proceedings, you have to have proof.
No, because it's only the one that's married twice that's committing bigamy! Don't blame the other woman, it's your husband that went ahead and married someone else.
No because she did not commit bigamy. If you can prove that she married him with the knowledge of his marital status then she can be charged as 'Accessory after the fact'.
Don't think so, she's still just married to one person. Her marriage will just be considered invalid.
did she know he was married? that is the real question in ';forming intent';.
it can get crazy
NO she is the victim.
No, I don't believe so. The only person that gets in trouble with the law is the one that has two spouses.
If she knows he is already married and consents to another marriage, she is an equal partner in crime. If a man commits bigamy.Can his new spouse be charged with bigamy charges?
Why don't they ever prosecute for bigamy? The police seem to think it's a joke or something.
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NO but.. if she pursued him knowing that he was married she can be charged with alienation of affection in some states. Many people do not consider this an option but it can be under certain circumstances. However it is just like any other court proceedings, you have to have proof.
No, because it's only the one that's married twice that's committing bigamy! Don't blame the other woman, it's your husband that went ahead and married someone else.
No because she did not commit bigamy. If you can prove that she married him with the knowledge of his marital status then she can be charged as 'Accessory after the fact'.
Don't think so, she's still just married to one person. Her marriage will just be considered invalid.
did she know he was married? that is the real question in ';forming intent';.
it can get crazy
NO she is the victim.
No, I don't believe so. The only person that gets in trouble with the law is the one that has two spouses.
Interracial Couples: How do you react when someone insults your spouse's race/culture?
For example if you are white and your spouse is Asian and a bunch of your co-workers are standing around making derogatory comments about that race or telling insulting jokes in front of you because they don't know your spouse is of that race/culture.Interracial Couples: How do you react when someone insults your spouse's race/culture?
Im black and my boyfriend is white. I believe I'll feel offended at first, correct them and ask them to stop.... just like I know my boyfriend would do the same for me. Id probably avoid being in the company of people who think like that.Interracial Couples: How do you react when someone insults your spouse's race/culture?
Even IF you weren't married to someone of another ethnic background it would be wrong to just go along with the derogatory remarks. Although I am half-Asian most people assume that I am white. I've had people say nasty things about Asians in my presence and I say something about it. They're usually quite shocked to know my background.
My husband is Asian and it's not often you see a white female with an Asian man. I remember one occasion among classmates of mine that we were discussing which actors we thought were attractive. Because I named someone who white, everyone exclaimed ';But he's NOT Asian!'; As if marrying someone Asian meant that I couldn't find anyone of another race attractive. When a white woman marries outside of her race, many people assume you've got some kind of fetish. They don't look beyond the superficial and think ... well maybe he's a great guy. All Asians are lumped together.
The intent behind the jokes is important to consider. Growing up in Hawaii there is a large Asian population. And we all poke fun at one another (but it's never in a way that is demeaning). Racism is not something to ignore or put up with. When someone tells insulting jokes then something needs to be done about it.
When I worked at Autozone, my store manager (Scott) thought it was okay to call Blacks buckwheats. I never heard it, but my friend Claudia did. She told me about it, never him or upper management. Lawsuit Pending !!!
There are alot of ignorant people in the world.
I'm not in an interracial relationship but if I were DUH. I wouldn't want anybody insulting my spouse for race, how they look, talk, etc.
If someone insulted my spouse's race, i would knock them to the floor and do the A-town stomp on them!
I would get angry but I would laugh at their ignorance too. Anyone who thinks they are better then someone else has got more problems going on within themselves . Easier to attack then to look in the mirror. I also would pity them, what happens when and if their child brings someone home from another race? They either loose their child or accept their choosing. I am white and my husband is Puerto Rican and out kids are so incredibly gorgeous everyone comments. Just goes to show you, Why are the most beautiful babies, kids, etc are those from interracial relationships? Perhaps God is trying to tell us all something.
i just say:
do u think that is funny? well i dont so stop saying that i am felling insulted by what u are saying
and i would stop talking with that person
some one that insults my fiance or some friend or someone of my family because of race or something else its not someone i want to know
if they were my co-workers, they would know better than to talk that kind of BS. If it were some random guy/girl off the street, I'd ignore him/her if he/she looks like he/she might be carrying a concealed weapon .But if I was angry enough, I'd probably yell back insults (not racial) along his/her way.facial moisturizer makeup
Im black and my boyfriend is white. I believe I'll feel offended at first, correct them and ask them to stop.... just like I know my boyfriend would do the same for me. Id probably avoid being in the company of people who think like that.Interracial Couples: How do you react when someone insults your spouse's race/culture?
Even IF you weren't married to someone of another ethnic background it would be wrong to just go along with the derogatory remarks. Although I am half-Asian most people assume that I am white. I've had people say nasty things about Asians in my presence and I say something about it. They're usually quite shocked to know my background.
My husband is Asian and it's not often you see a white female with an Asian man. I remember one occasion among classmates of mine that we were discussing which actors we thought were attractive. Because I named someone who white, everyone exclaimed ';But he's NOT Asian!'; As if marrying someone Asian meant that I couldn't find anyone of another race attractive. When a white woman marries outside of her race, many people assume you've got some kind of fetish. They don't look beyond the superficial and think ... well maybe he's a great guy. All Asians are lumped together.
The intent behind the jokes is important to consider. Growing up in Hawaii there is a large Asian population. And we all poke fun at one another (but it's never in a way that is demeaning). Racism is not something to ignore or put up with. When someone tells insulting jokes then something needs to be done about it.
When I worked at Autozone, my store manager (Scott) thought it was okay to call Blacks buckwheats. I never heard it, but my friend Claudia did. She told me about it, never him or upper management. Lawsuit Pending !!!
There are alot of ignorant people in the world.
I'm not in an interracial relationship but if I were DUH. I wouldn't want anybody insulting my spouse for race, how they look, talk, etc.
If someone insulted my spouse's race, i would knock them to the floor and do the A-town stomp on them!
I would get angry but I would laugh at their ignorance too. Anyone who thinks they are better then someone else has got more problems going on within themselves . Easier to attack then to look in the mirror. I also would pity them, what happens when and if their child brings someone home from another race? They either loose their child or accept their choosing. I am white and my husband is Puerto Rican and out kids are so incredibly gorgeous everyone comments. Just goes to show you, Why are the most beautiful babies, kids, etc are those from interracial relationships? Perhaps God is trying to tell us all something.
i just say:
do u think that is funny? well i dont so stop saying that i am felling insulted by what u are saying
and i would stop talking with that person
some one that insults my fiance or some friend or someone of my family because of race or something else its not someone i want to know
if they were my co-workers, they would know better than to talk that kind of BS. If it were some random guy/girl off the street, I'd ignore him/her if he/she looks like he/she might be carrying a concealed weapon .But if I was angry enough, I'd probably yell back insults (not racial) along his/her way.
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