I was just wondering and when you seen him/her was it love at first sight?Did you know then and then and there or did it hit you later???How old were you when you met your spouse?
I met my husband when I was 15. I pointed at him from across a birthday party and said I am going to marry him. I don't know if I really knew I was going to marry him but he just seemed so interesting to me and I really wanted to know more about him. We dated for 9 years and we just got married. But because we went through the trials of growing up we break up and get back together a couple times. I still find him really interesting, I always want to pick his brain and figure out why he thinks the way he does. I knew he was the one, when I realized we could make it through anything together. When ever I dated someone else I always compared them to him. There was a drive in me to be with him, even when we were having difficult times. How old were you when you met your spouse?
I was 20 when I met my hubby and had been dating a different guy for about 4 years- so it wasn't love at first sight for me. (although I found out later that it was for him- awww!) We became really good friends. I eventually broke up with my boyfriend, and we became BEST friends. And in the process of about a month- I fell madly in love with him!!
It wasn't the way he looked- it was the way he looked at me!
I was 19. I was with another guy going on 3 years. When I saw my soon to be hubby at work. (It was his first day.) I fell in love. I was a waitress. He was a cook. I walked in the kitchen introduced myself and walked out. I told my waitress friends how awesome and cute he was. 2 weeks later we were dating, 2 months later we moved in together, 2 years later we were married, 1 year later we had a son. I believe in love at first sight, I lived it!
We met when he was a senior in high school and I was a sophomore. We didn't start dating until I was a senior in High school. When we first met I knew He may be the one, however, at that time I was still dating around. Not until He purposed to me is when I knew I wanted to be with him forever. (which was 3 weeks into dating)
I met my wife in grade school. We went to high school together, and sang in the church choir too. We didn't start dating until we were both in college.
I told her I was going to marry her on our first date. She almost didn't go out with me again. That was 44 years, and three children ago.
Her mother warned her it wouldn't last! I don't like her mother, and the old bat doesn't like me either.
My wife and I argue every day. But we still love each other. I just happen to think she is full of $hit, and she feels the same way about me. Nothing wrong with that!
I was 28 and yes it was love at first sight... it hit me right there, only I had never really felt that and it took me a couple of weeks and a couple of conversations with my siblings before I found out that I was lovesick... 9 years later I am still the luckiest guy ever.
Met my 2nd husband at my first wedding. Don't remember meeting him that day. Met him again a year later and wasn't impressed with him, but liked his first wife. 1st husband died, and they divorced. I was 29 when he and I got together. He grew on me, lol. He was more worried about making sure my infant daught was raised right. She was 14 months old when we got married.
I had just turned 21 he was 23. I NEVER thought he would go for me, I thought he was too good looking I guess, plus he had just got out of a 6 year relationship and was talking to all kinds of girls. But I just rilled him right in lol. I wouldn't say love at first sight but I definately knew that there was something about him that I wanted sooooo bad :D
my first one, 19... got married the same year.. took me six years to build up the confidence to leave his abusive azz... the second one, almost 26... and it wasnt love at first sight... definately not! for him, he says it was, but for me, well, he's older so i didnt really believe all his love and affections were for real... so i gave it some time, and here we are, madly in love and engaged... took me about 3 weeks to realize i loved him too, over a year to realize he really wasnt ever going to leave no matter what!!! :)
I am married now. I met my wife when I was 25. I was crazy about her from the very beginning.
I had an ex girlfriend before that. I met my ex girlfriend when I was 21. We broke up for reasons somewhat out of our control. Had we stayed together, I am sure we would have married. She was definately love at first sight.
We met each other maybe 3 - 4 yrs before we started dating. I didn't like him to start with, then he grew on me.
We started dating when I was about 19ish, at the start of us dating I wasn't convinced anything would progress. But he grew on me.
Most other guys I got sick of over time, but not him. He still annoys me to this day but I like it :)
I was 19 and he just turned 20. Yes it was love at first sight. Being in love with someone is the most wonderful feeling you have in your heart that you don't want it to end......If you are truly in love with someone you well know it.... Love comes from Jesus he is the one that can show you what really true love is and happiness.......
I was 18 and he was 20. He told his roommate at college that he ';Had just met his wife'; the night we met. I was involved with someone else and it took me 4 months to see what I was missing and dump the guy I was with.
met him when i was 19 he was 21 and now i'm 20 and we can't get enough of each other, we were only dating for 4 months engaged for 5 married for 4 and couldn't be happier.
I was 21 and my husband was 25 when we met and started dating and no it wasn't love at first sight but i was very attracted to him and i still am.
I was 14 the first time I met him. We didn't start dating until I was 16 it was love at first sight though I can tell you that. I'm 21 now and I am loving the married life.
I was 23, and yes, I fell in love with her when I first met her. However, I didn't admit it to myself until 6 months later.
I was 17, and we worked together. And it definitely wasn't love at first sight lol. I didn't love him til about 6 months of dating him passed.
I was 19 years old. It was not love at first sight, in fact I thought he was GAY! HAHA!
Boy did he prove me wrong :)
18. And I don't believe in love at first sight...but it was definitely lust at first sight...we fell in love....then he fell out of love and now we are divorced!
31. at a wine bar in pasadena, ca.
i knew it immediately. it was like a movie or dream.
Wednesday, November 23, 2011
Would you share an email account with your spouse?
When my husband and I got married almost 5 years ago, we dropped our individual email accounts and have always shared one. It has never been a problem for either of us. Would anyone else share their email account with their spouse?Would you share an email account with your spouse?
I don't share one with my wife, but we have the same passwords for our accounts. Doesn't bother me at all since I am not hiding anything from her.Would you share an email account with your spouse?
I would if he wanted to. But personally I don't find the need to. I think it's actually good to have separate accounts--we both have different friends from childhood/high school/college and we both have different relationships with different people. Just because you get married doesn't mean you automatically become the same person.
I used to think that married couples SHOULD have joint everything--email, accounts, etc. But after keeping things separate in some areas for the past three years I actually much prefer things separate in certain areas. We know each others' passwords so it's not like anything is private--but there's just a separation because we are not the same individual.
As they say, once you be taking a poop while the other is brushing your to others, there is no more privacy. PRivacy is an issue between the state and an individual as far as I'm concerned there is no privacy between two people if they are married.
My wife and I had separate email accounts but we knew each other passwords. I never had a problem with her checking my mail, web log, history folder of my phone call record on my cell phone.
No his would drive me crazy. Once in a while I have to log in to it because he has given someone his email address instead of mine when I need the information. He has almost 200 unread emails. I think it's all junk and he won't delete them. Anyway why would you share when you can get free email from Hotmail or Yahoo?
Only for household bills if you pay on line, or have a joint checking account, something like that. I would not want a husband looking at my man jokes from friends, nor would I want him reading someone elses personal information that was trusted for me to read only.
I would share an email account since there's nothing to hide but it's easier to have separate emails.
I have my own account and one I share with my husband. Never thought about sharing until we had a project that we are doing together.
i dont see why, having an email is so easy, there would be no need to share one, plus i like getting weekly updates from websites and maybe my spouse wouldnt.
we have our individual ones, but we have each others passwords
Already do :D
it is much better then sharing bank accounts.
Sure would.
Sure, why not!
umm no because she might read stuff that i dont want to see...
but there is positives and negatives.....
no.
yes and I do
never in a trillion years..... i like to be sneaky
no, I prefer that each should have his/her own privacy...z
I don't share one with my wife, but we have the same passwords for our accounts. Doesn't bother me at all since I am not hiding anything from her.Would you share an email account with your spouse?
I would if he wanted to. But personally I don't find the need to. I think it's actually good to have separate accounts--we both have different friends from childhood/high school/college and we both have different relationships with different people. Just because you get married doesn't mean you automatically become the same person.
I used to think that married couples SHOULD have joint everything--email, accounts, etc. But after keeping things separate in some areas for the past three years I actually much prefer things separate in certain areas. We know each others' passwords so it's not like anything is private--but there's just a separation because we are not the same individual.
As they say, once you be taking a poop while the other is brushing your to others, there is no more privacy. PRivacy is an issue between the state and an individual as far as I'm concerned there is no privacy between two people if they are married.
My wife and I had separate email accounts but we knew each other passwords. I never had a problem with her checking my mail, web log, history folder of my phone call record on my cell phone.
No his would drive me crazy. Once in a while I have to log in to it because he has given someone his email address instead of mine when I need the information. He has almost 200 unread emails. I think it's all junk and he won't delete them. Anyway why would you share when you can get free email from Hotmail or Yahoo?
Only for household bills if you pay on line, or have a joint checking account, something like that. I would not want a husband looking at my man jokes from friends, nor would I want him reading someone elses personal information that was trusted for me to read only.
I would share an email account since there's nothing to hide but it's easier to have separate emails.
I have my own account and one I share with my husband. Never thought about sharing until we had a project that we are doing together.
i dont see why, having an email is so easy, there would be no need to share one, plus i like getting weekly updates from websites and maybe my spouse wouldnt.
we have our individual ones, but we have each others passwords
Already do :D
it is much better then sharing bank accounts.
Sure would.
Sure, why not!
umm no because she might read stuff that i dont want to see...
but there is positives and negatives.....
no.
yes and I do
never in a trillion years..... i like to be sneaky
no, I prefer that each should have his/her own privacy...z
How long did it take for you to realise that you wanted to marry your spouse?
Was it instant? Or did you gradually realise this over time?How long did it take for you to realise that you wanted to marry your spouse?
The day he took me on our first date. I have been on many great 1st dates before, but this one was different. It sounds corney, but I just KNEW we were soulmates. Its hard to explain. I remember thinking to myself afterwards ';wow...';. I was just the best connection I had ever felt, and the connection was so deep. Suprisingly our date was just going for a swim, and then the movies...nothing fancy. Our date started at 7am in the morning...and then ended at 8pm that night! A 13 hour date! Nothing sexual of course, but after the movies we just went and sat somewhere and talked and talked and before we knew it, it was night time. We had talked for 13 hours straight! Thats when I knew he was the one. There was such a connection
I suffered bulemia before I met him. I have never told anyone at all about this, not friends, not family, not doctor. Yet for some reason on our 13 hour date I had this urge to tell him...thats how deep our connection was. And he was so supportive. Thats when I knew he was something special. And with his love and support I am now better
Although we talked about getting married for ages, it took 3 years of dating before he proposed.
But that is my story...everyone falls in love differently. I do believe in people ';just knowing'; the first time they meet...but I also believe that in other cases the love is something that has to develop over many years.How long did it take for you to realise that you wanted to marry your spouse?
I was attracted to my spouse the first time I saw him and he was always funny which made him grow even more on me. Even thou we were just friends at first but when I knew I wanted to marry him was the very first time we sat down and had a serious conversation as friends I knew I found my soul mate and he said he knew to. We had our first serious conversation about a month or so after we met. We married about a few months later and have never been a part a full day. :)
Well we met when I was seventeen. I had just had an intense week of training for skiing and passed out on my way home. He found me and stayed with me the whole week. My parents were overseas and he was a twenty-two year old medical student so i was in safe hands. He was funny, smart, handsome, never made me bored and in that one week i knew he was the one. We married 2years later and have now been married eight gorgeous years with twins on the way.
Even though this was the case with my husband and I it may not be for you. My mum spent seven years with a guy before she realised they were meant to be and that she really loved him and he loved her.
Its not always love at first sight and it's okay for it to take time
- Amber
I knew when I first seen his picture. (His friend was dating one of my friends, and I was looking through her pictures of when she went to visit her boyfriend and hung out with him and his friends.) Then when I actually met him, I could see the rest of my life and it looked great. We have been together 6 1/2 years, and our 5th wedding anniversary is coming up in October.
For me it was love at first sight, and in the beginning i was happy just to be with her, but after a couple of months marriage seem like the thing too do, we wanted too show everyone that we were totally committed to each other.
i knew withing a few dates that i wanted to be with him but marrying that took 5 long years of dating.. and it was wortht he wait...we knew each other inside and out there was no hidden anyting and thats the best way to start a relationship!
I knew he was something special within the first date.
I knew he was going to long term by the third date.
I knew he was the one I wanted to be with the rest of my life within about a month or so.
Oh, totally instant!! We met in October, engaged in November and married in February!
16 years and going strong!!!!!
Believe it or not, I knew within a few weeks for sure, but had a ';gut feeling'; immediately. She was just different than anyone else, ever.
I actually never thought about it.
We had already bought our house and had been living together for a few years when he popped the question. That is when I realised I did want to marry him.
It came gradually when we stayed in the relationship en know how iam missinghim oftenely en i cant stay away from him,i could miss him so much till i cry
instant
The day I met her
Within a WEEK! We married 3 months later!
The day he took me on our first date. I have been on many great 1st dates before, but this one was different. It sounds corney, but I just KNEW we were soulmates. Its hard to explain. I remember thinking to myself afterwards ';wow...';. I was just the best connection I had ever felt, and the connection was so deep. Suprisingly our date was just going for a swim, and then the movies...nothing fancy. Our date started at 7am in the morning...and then ended at 8pm that night! A 13 hour date! Nothing sexual of course, but after the movies we just went and sat somewhere and talked and talked and before we knew it, it was night time. We had talked for 13 hours straight! Thats when I knew he was the one. There was such a connection
I suffered bulemia before I met him. I have never told anyone at all about this, not friends, not family, not doctor. Yet for some reason on our 13 hour date I had this urge to tell him...thats how deep our connection was. And he was so supportive. Thats when I knew he was something special. And with his love and support I am now better
Although we talked about getting married for ages, it took 3 years of dating before he proposed.
But that is my story...everyone falls in love differently. I do believe in people ';just knowing'; the first time they meet...but I also believe that in other cases the love is something that has to develop over many years.How long did it take for you to realise that you wanted to marry your spouse?
I was attracted to my spouse the first time I saw him and he was always funny which made him grow even more on me. Even thou we were just friends at first but when I knew I wanted to marry him was the very first time we sat down and had a serious conversation as friends I knew I found my soul mate and he said he knew to. We had our first serious conversation about a month or so after we met. We married about a few months later and have never been a part a full day. :)
Well we met when I was seventeen. I had just had an intense week of training for skiing and passed out on my way home. He found me and stayed with me the whole week. My parents were overseas and he was a twenty-two year old medical student so i was in safe hands. He was funny, smart, handsome, never made me bored and in that one week i knew he was the one. We married 2years later and have now been married eight gorgeous years with twins on the way.
Even though this was the case with my husband and I it may not be for you. My mum spent seven years with a guy before she realised they were meant to be and that she really loved him and he loved her.
Its not always love at first sight and it's okay for it to take time
- Amber
I knew when I first seen his picture. (His friend was dating one of my friends, and I was looking through her pictures of when she went to visit her boyfriend and hung out with him and his friends.) Then when I actually met him, I could see the rest of my life and it looked great. We have been together 6 1/2 years, and our 5th wedding anniversary is coming up in October.
For me it was love at first sight, and in the beginning i was happy just to be with her, but after a couple of months marriage seem like the thing too do, we wanted too show everyone that we were totally committed to each other.
i knew withing a few dates that i wanted to be with him but marrying that took 5 long years of dating.. and it was wortht he wait...we knew each other inside and out there was no hidden anyting and thats the best way to start a relationship!
I knew he was something special within the first date.
I knew he was going to long term by the third date.
I knew he was the one I wanted to be with the rest of my life within about a month or so.
Oh, totally instant!! We met in October, engaged in November and married in February!
16 years and going strong!!!!!
Believe it or not, I knew within a few weeks for sure, but had a ';gut feeling'; immediately. She was just different than anyone else, ever.
I actually never thought about it.
We had already bought our house and had been living together for a few years when he popped the question. That is when I realised I did want to marry him.
It came gradually when we stayed in the relationship en know how iam missinghim oftenely en i cant stay away from him,i could miss him so much till i cry
instant
The day I met her
Within a WEEK! We married 3 months later!
What does a dream about outliving children and spouse mean?
I would say that it all depends on what the feeling was for you in the dream. Did you feel Relieved or fearful/depressed that you outlived your family?
Dreams are inner workings of our minds.
Perhaps you are frightened of feeling lonely or not needed. On the other hand, if you felt some kind of relief, I would suggest that you are overwhelmed by your family situation right now.What does a dream about outliving children and spouse mean?
Dreams do not have secret meaning. They contain current emotions mixed with random memories.
Forget about itWhat does a dream about outliving children and spouse mean?
Maybe its signifying your fear of being left all alone.
Either you worry about this, or its nothing.
That means you may not be content with marriage life. You want to re-live a single life again.
Perhaps you are in denial, subconsciously you are evading from responsibilities. You feel that spouse and children are the burden somehow. But don't worry, this happens when you are stressed. it may not mean you really want to do it. It is just a vent from the dream
Nothing in particular, without more context. No particular content directly relates to a certain meaning. A question would be, what is the mood experienced while having the dream.
Probably that you view yourself as immortal. You might be having thoughts about living without them.
Dreams are inner workings of our minds.
Perhaps you are frightened of feeling lonely or not needed. On the other hand, if you felt some kind of relief, I would suggest that you are overwhelmed by your family situation right now.What does a dream about outliving children and spouse mean?
Dreams do not have secret meaning. They contain current emotions mixed with random memories.
Forget about itWhat does a dream about outliving children and spouse mean?
Maybe its signifying your fear of being left all alone.
Either you worry about this, or its nothing.
That means you may not be content with marriage life. You want to re-live a single life again.
Perhaps you are in denial, subconsciously you are evading from responsibilities. You feel that spouse and children are the burden somehow. But don't worry, this happens when you are stressed. it may not mean you really want to do it. It is just a vent from the dream
Nothing in particular, without more context. No particular content directly relates to a certain meaning. A question would be, what is the mood experienced while having the dream.
Probably that you view yourself as immortal. You might be having thoughts about living without them.
Can my spouse file bankruptcy without me?
I have recently separated. My spouse went and bought a house with her son as a co-signer. If she gets in a financial mess, can she file bankruptcy without me. Cause I would never want to do that.Can my spouse file bankruptcy without me?
If you are legally married at the time of her filing a bankruptcy, she will not be able to file alone, they would have to file showing both incomes, though, if you are not living in the same residence, it may be different. You would need to seek legal counsel, with the new laws, they look at all income for married couples, usually living in the same home. Now if her son co-signed on a home and she is the primary and he is the co-signor, and she files bankruptcy, loses the home, they would go after him. If this is headed to divorce, you need to either re-finance whatever debts are in your names jointly and get her name off of them should she ever have to file. This way, you are not held responsible. Good Luck!Can my spouse file bankruptcy without me?
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If you are legally married at the time of her filing a bankruptcy, she will not be able to file alone, they would have to file showing both incomes, though, if you are not living in the same residence, it may be different. You would need to seek legal counsel, with the new laws, they look at all income for married couples, usually living in the same home. Now if her son co-signed on a home and she is the primary and he is the co-signor, and she files bankruptcy, loses the home, they would go after him. If this is headed to divorce, you need to either re-finance whatever debts are in your names jointly and get her name off of them should she ever have to file. This way, you are not held responsible. Good Luck!Can my spouse file bankruptcy without me?
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The Love Dare-Can you really love your spouse unconditionally?
Can a husband and wife really have UNCONDITIONAL love? I find that difficult to believe. The love a parent has for a child, absolutely, love is unconditional. But between a husband and wife, really?The Love Dare-Can you really love your spouse unconditionally?
Impossible. And often this is even true with kids.
Class is dismissed.The Love Dare-Can you really love your spouse unconditionally?
Unconditional love exists. It exists in the form of Jesus' love for all people, in the form of God's love for humanity, in the form of a parent's love for their children, and in the form of marriage. Just because not all of us are capable of such love does not mean that it does not exist.
Don't confuse unconditional love with not protecting yourself or being a doormat. Just because you love someone unconditionally does not mean that you will allow them to take advantage of you.
Love is an action. It involves doing something like making peace when you're really mad at your spouse. It involves showing your spouse that you appreciate them when you don't feel like it. It involves being kind to your spouse even when they have done something unkind to you. It takes a very mature person to act contrary to the way their heart might want them to act. This is why it is unconditional. It is not based on anything your spouse has done, it is based on who they are. They are your spouse. You are supposed to love them in spite of their weaknesses, in spite of their failures, in spite of their sin.
Yes I absolutely love my husband unconditionally. It doesn't mean that I cannot disagree with him or get angry or be disappointed in him. In fact, sometimes I don't like him much, but I still love him.
It does mean that *No Matter What* I will always love him and be there for him.
Why is that so hard for you to believe?
no such thing
all love is conditional
as true love never let's itself be taken advantage of
and you never would be in a relationship where the ';love';
is only one sided, a baby's love maybe be unconditional, but that's only because he totally depends on you, a baby will bond with anyone who treat them well and feeds them, not just the mother, a dog does the very same thing..
well all love in hopes of getting something in return
I bought the book yesterday after seeing so much about it..Unconditional love for your spouse isn't easy... but it IS what God had planned.. Husbands are to love their wives as God loves His church.. and that is unconditionally... No one is perfect, but loving one's spouse this way isa worthy goal and comes with great rewards.
Yes it is possible.Are you married?You must not be because if you were you would know that you can love your husband/wife and children unconditionally.I love my husband no matter what.I love him for who he is even with his faults(vice versa).
I absolutely agree with maccrew.She knows exactly what she is talking about.If you have God in your marriage and in your life you would know that you do and can love your husband unconditonally.Its not easy sometimes but with God all things are possible.
I do believe unconditional love exists between husband and wife, but unconditional Like doesn't. I don't like everything about my husband, but I love him unconditionally. I don't have to like him, but I can't stop loving him.
I'm somewhat confused about your question, because it's really two- unconditional marriage-love and unconditional parental love.
MARRIAGE:
I don't think so. It's an ideal we strive for, but we are individual people with our own personal needs.
People tend to qualify this question a lot; the typical rationalization is ';I love my ';X';, but I don't like him/her at the moment.... Well, good luck with that.
We try our best in marriage to meet the other person's needs, but If we don't meet theirs and/or they're not meeting ours, then the marriage is in trouble.
Even when children are involved, it is not ';divorce-insurance'; - in fact, it can be one of the WORST reasons for having children.
To those that have found unconditional marriage-love through parenthood, I salute you- but I don't think it's the children, as much at the dual-focus that both you and your spouse have for your beautiful bundle(s) of joy.
PARENTHOOD:
My own experience with children- One loves me, the other hates me (because I left the house after discovering my ex was a lying, cheating sociopath and I eventually remarried. My daughter too is prolly a psychopath - the apple doesn't fall far from the tree. My son, wife, and I get along great- I'm very thankful for that).
I love my daughter, but she doesn't love me back- we don't really even communicate very much anymore (for years - she's in her 20's.) But yes, I love her - I just don't know either what ';kind'; of love it is.
No...You love your husband because he treats you well etc... If he beat you, smoked crack in front of your kids, didn't work, etc...that love would fade away real fast. I think the ONLY unconditional love is for your child.
No. It can be fully, strong, true. and can be blinding - but not unconditional. Someone in denial can think that theirs is, but unconditional it isn't.
That's just an invitation to the spouse to take advantage of you. Beat me, get high, cheat, be a pig, I still love you. We have to set boundaries for our own preservation.
Does unconditionally include cheating, abuse, stealing, habitual lying? If so, answer is no.
Unconditional love is impossible except in the case of a child.
Yes, why not? Your spouse becomes part of your family, so why would you want to dispose of your family?
No. I didn't know unconditional love until having a child.
Honestly i don't think so...
Impossible. And often this is even true with kids.
Class is dismissed.The Love Dare-Can you really love your spouse unconditionally?
Unconditional love exists. It exists in the form of Jesus' love for all people, in the form of God's love for humanity, in the form of a parent's love for their children, and in the form of marriage. Just because not all of us are capable of such love does not mean that it does not exist.
Don't confuse unconditional love with not protecting yourself or being a doormat. Just because you love someone unconditionally does not mean that you will allow them to take advantage of you.
Love is an action. It involves doing something like making peace when you're really mad at your spouse. It involves showing your spouse that you appreciate them when you don't feel like it. It involves being kind to your spouse even when they have done something unkind to you. It takes a very mature person to act contrary to the way their heart might want them to act. This is why it is unconditional. It is not based on anything your spouse has done, it is based on who they are. They are your spouse. You are supposed to love them in spite of their weaknesses, in spite of their failures, in spite of their sin.
Yes I absolutely love my husband unconditionally. It doesn't mean that I cannot disagree with him or get angry or be disappointed in him. In fact, sometimes I don't like him much, but I still love him.
It does mean that *No Matter What* I will always love him and be there for him.
Why is that so hard for you to believe?
no such thing
all love is conditional
as true love never let's itself be taken advantage of
and you never would be in a relationship where the ';love';
is only one sided, a baby's love maybe be unconditional, but that's only because he totally depends on you, a baby will bond with anyone who treat them well and feeds them, not just the mother, a dog does the very same thing..
well all love in hopes of getting something in return
I bought the book yesterday after seeing so much about it..Unconditional love for your spouse isn't easy... but it IS what God had planned.. Husbands are to love their wives as God loves His church.. and that is unconditionally... No one is perfect, but loving one's spouse this way isa worthy goal and comes with great rewards.
Yes it is possible.Are you married?You must not be because if you were you would know that you can love your husband/wife and children unconditionally.I love my husband no matter what.I love him for who he is even with his faults(vice versa).
I absolutely agree with maccrew.She knows exactly what she is talking about.If you have God in your marriage and in your life you would know that you do and can love your husband unconditonally.Its not easy sometimes but with God all things are possible.
I do believe unconditional love exists between husband and wife, but unconditional Like doesn't. I don't like everything about my husband, but I love him unconditionally. I don't have to like him, but I can't stop loving him.
I'm somewhat confused about your question, because it's really two- unconditional marriage-love and unconditional parental love.
MARRIAGE:
I don't think so. It's an ideal we strive for, but we are individual people with our own personal needs.
People tend to qualify this question a lot; the typical rationalization is ';I love my ';X';, but I don't like him/her at the moment.... Well, good luck with that.
We try our best in marriage to meet the other person's needs, but If we don't meet theirs and/or they're not meeting ours, then the marriage is in trouble.
Even when children are involved, it is not ';divorce-insurance'; - in fact, it can be one of the WORST reasons for having children.
To those that have found unconditional marriage-love through parenthood, I salute you- but I don't think it's the children, as much at the dual-focus that both you and your spouse have for your beautiful bundle(s) of joy.
PARENTHOOD:
My own experience with children- One loves me, the other hates me (because I left the house after discovering my ex was a lying, cheating sociopath and I eventually remarried. My daughter too is prolly a psychopath - the apple doesn't fall far from the tree. My son, wife, and I get along great- I'm very thankful for that).
I love my daughter, but she doesn't love me back- we don't really even communicate very much anymore (for years - she's in her 20's.) But yes, I love her - I just don't know either what ';kind'; of love it is.
No...You love your husband because he treats you well etc... If he beat you, smoked crack in front of your kids, didn't work, etc...that love would fade away real fast. I think the ONLY unconditional love is for your child.
No. It can be fully, strong, true. and can be blinding - but not unconditional. Someone in denial can think that theirs is, but unconditional it isn't.
That's just an invitation to the spouse to take advantage of you. Beat me, get high, cheat, be a pig, I still love you. We have to set boundaries for our own preservation.
Does unconditionally include cheating, abuse, stealing, habitual lying? If so, answer is no.
Unconditional love is impossible except in the case of a child.
Yes, why not? Your spouse becomes part of your family, so why would you want to dispose of your family?
No. I didn't know unconditional love until having a child.
Honestly i don't think so...
If you are a Catholic do u have a duty to have sex with your spouse?
Is there a rule in Catholic terachings about husbands and wives have a duty to have sex with each other? What does the Catholic church teach about sex between married couples? If one person in the marriage refuses to have sex with their husband, is that wrong and against church teachings?If you are a Catholic do u have a duty to have sex with your spouse?
Here are some points taken directly from the Catechism.
2360
Sexuality is ordered to the conjugal love of man and woman. In marriage the physical intimacy of the spouses becomes a sign and pledge of spiritual communion. Marriage bonds between baptized persons are sanctified by the sacrament.
2361
';Sexuality, by means of which man and woman give themselves to one another through the acts which are proper and exclusive to spouses, is not something simply biological, but concerns the innermost being of the human person as such. It is realized in a truly human way only if it is an integral part of the love by which a man and woman commit themselves totally to one another until death.';143
Tobias got out of bed and said to Sarah, ';Sister, get up, and let us pray and implore our Lord that he grant us mercy and safety.'; So she got up, and they began to pray and implore that they might be kept safe. Tobias began by saying, ';Blessed are you, O God of our fathers. . . . You made Adam, and for him you made his wife Eve as a helper and support. From the two of them the race of mankind has sprung. You said, 鈥業t is not good that the man should be alone; let us make a helper for him like himself.' I now am taking this kinswoman of mine, not because of lust, but with sincerity. Grant that she and I may find mercy and that we may grow old together.'; And they both said, ';Amen, Amen.'; Then they went to sleep for the night.144
2362
';The acts in marriage by which the intimate and chaste union of the spouses takes place are noble and honorable; the truly human performance of these acts fosters the self-giving they signify and enriches the spouses in joy and gratitude.';145 Sexuality is a source of joy and pleasure:
The Creator himself . . . established that in the [generative] function, spouses should experience pleasure and enjoyment of body and spirit. Therefore, the spouses do nothing evil in seeking this pleasure and enjoyment. They accept what the Creator has intended for them. At the same time, spouses should know how to keep themselves within the limits of just moderation.146
2363
The spouses' union achieves the twofold end of marriage: the good of the spouses themselves and the transmission of life. These two meanings or values of marriage cannot be separated without altering the couple's spiritual life and compromising the goods of marriage and the future of the family.
If you are Catholic and having problems in your relationship perhaps talking to your priest would help. Sex within a marriage should not be obligatory, it isn't to be used as a weapon, either being forced on one spouse or withheld without cause.If you are a Catholic do u have a duty to have sex with your spouse?
%26lt;%26lt;If you are a Catholic do u have a duty to have sex with your spouse? Is there a rule in Catholic terachings about husbands and wives have a duty to have sex with each other?%26gt;%26gt;
A loving husband and wife are going to want to have sex with each other. It's not as though they are ';forced'; into sex, against their will.
If a couple marries, why are they not going to want to have sex?
%26lt;%26lt;What does the Catholic church teach about sex between married couples?%26gt;%26gt;
The Church teaches that sex is a Sacred Act; the consumation of the Marital Union; which is why sex must take place i nthe context of a marital union, not the absence of one.
The Church also teaches that sex is the ';total self-giving'; of each spouse to the other. The use of artificial contraception, as a means to its intended end, and the sex ceases to be a total self-giving; which is why artificial contraception is immoral.
%26lt;%26lt;If one person in the marriage refuses to have sex with their husband, is that wrong and against church teachings?%26gt;%26gt;
WHY is the person refusing to have sex with the spouse?
No one has a ';duty'; to have sex with another. Sex is a gift from God that allows human beings to express their love for each other in a physical manner. It also happens to be the manner in which mammals procreate. Our instructions are to go forth and be fruitful, so I can see the church having an issue with a spouse who won't engage in intercourse with her spouse, but as to whether or not the church can/will do anything about it, I can't be certain.
Well, they at least have to have sex once or it's not a legitimate marriage in the eyes of the church. They have to consumate it.
Other than that, I think the church teaches that married couples are supposed to try to have kids, or at least be open to the possibility of having them.
In the Catholic Church, as well as some other denominations, you are to only have sex in order to procreate. Other than that, sex is a no no.
%26gt;%26gt;If one person in the marriage refuses to have sex with their husband, is that wrong and against church teachings?%26lt;%26lt;
Yes. One is not supposed to deny a spouse's reasonable request for sex.
If one person in the marriage refuses sex and is co-erced to have sex it is abuse in the eyes of the law.......and that over-rules the catholic church.
Centuries ago it was the rule......not any more.
The Bible gives us this info. Neither should deny the other sexually except for prayer or other acceptable reasons such as illness.
the only rule in life is to live it your way
Here are some points taken directly from the Catechism.
2360
Sexuality is ordered to the conjugal love of man and woman. In marriage the physical intimacy of the spouses becomes a sign and pledge of spiritual communion. Marriage bonds between baptized persons are sanctified by the sacrament.
2361
';Sexuality, by means of which man and woman give themselves to one another through the acts which are proper and exclusive to spouses, is not something simply biological, but concerns the innermost being of the human person as such. It is realized in a truly human way only if it is an integral part of the love by which a man and woman commit themselves totally to one another until death.';143
Tobias got out of bed and said to Sarah, ';Sister, get up, and let us pray and implore our Lord that he grant us mercy and safety.'; So she got up, and they began to pray and implore that they might be kept safe. Tobias began by saying, ';Blessed are you, O God of our fathers. . . . You made Adam, and for him you made his wife Eve as a helper and support. From the two of them the race of mankind has sprung. You said, 鈥業t is not good that the man should be alone; let us make a helper for him like himself.' I now am taking this kinswoman of mine, not because of lust, but with sincerity. Grant that she and I may find mercy and that we may grow old together.'; And they both said, ';Amen, Amen.'; Then they went to sleep for the night.144
2362
';The acts in marriage by which the intimate and chaste union of the spouses takes place are noble and honorable; the truly human performance of these acts fosters the self-giving they signify and enriches the spouses in joy and gratitude.';145 Sexuality is a source of joy and pleasure:
The Creator himself . . . established that in the [generative] function, spouses should experience pleasure and enjoyment of body and spirit. Therefore, the spouses do nothing evil in seeking this pleasure and enjoyment. They accept what the Creator has intended for them. At the same time, spouses should know how to keep themselves within the limits of just moderation.146
2363
The spouses' union achieves the twofold end of marriage: the good of the spouses themselves and the transmission of life. These two meanings or values of marriage cannot be separated without altering the couple's spiritual life and compromising the goods of marriage and the future of the family.
If you are Catholic and having problems in your relationship perhaps talking to your priest would help. Sex within a marriage should not be obligatory, it isn't to be used as a weapon, either being forced on one spouse or withheld without cause.If you are a Catholic do u have a duty to have sex with your spouse?
%26lt;%26lt;If you are a Catholic do u have a duty to have sex with your spouse? Is there a rule in Catholic terachings about husbands and wives have a duty to have sex with each other?%26gt;%26gt;
A loving husband and wife are going to want to have sex with each other. It's not as though they are ';forced'; into sex, against their will.
If a couple marries, why are they not going to want to have sex?
%26lt;%26lt;What does the Catholic church teach about sex between married couples?%26gt;%26gt;
The Church teaches that sex is a Sacred Act; the consumation of the Marital Union; which is why sex must take place i nthe context of a marital union, not the absence of one.
The Church also teaches that sex is the ';total self-giving'; of each spouse to the other. The use of artificial contraception, as a means to its intended end, and the sex ceases to be a total self-giving; which is why artificial contraception is immoral.
%26lt;%26lt;If one person in the marriage refuses to have sex with their husband, is that wrong and against church teachings?%26gt;%26gt;
WHY is the person refusing to have sex with the spouse?
No one has a ';duty'; to have sex with another. Sex is a gift from God that allows human beings to express their love for each other in a physical manner. It also happens to be the manner in which mammals procreate. Our instructions are to go forth and be fruitful, so I can see the church having an issue with a spouse who won't engage in intercourse with her spouse, but as to whether or not the church can/will do anything about it, I can't be certain.
Well, they at least have to have sex once or it's not a legitimate marriage in the eyes of the church. They have to consumate it.
Other than that, I think the church teaches that married couples are supposed to try to have kids, or at least be open to the possibility of having them.
In the Catholic Church, as well as some other denominations, you are to only have sex in order to procreate. Other than that, sex is a no no.
%26gt;%26gt;If one person in the marriage refuses to have sex with their husband, is that wrong and against church teachings?%26lt;%26lt;
Yes. One is not supposed to deny a spouse's reasonable request for sex.
If one person in the marriage refuses sex and is co-erced to have sex it is abuse in the eyes of the law.......and that over-rules the catholic church.
Centuries ago it was the rule......not any more.
The Bible gives us this info. Neither should deny the other sexually except for prayer or other acceptable reasons such as illness.
the only rule in life is to live it your way
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